Women or men?
2007-08-14 09:29:35 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
The dude with the biggest member is the man.
In a lesbian relationship, the man wears flannel.
2007-08-14 09:35:08 · answer #1 · answered by Dr Jello 7 · 1⤊ 9⤋
In a gay relationship they are both men that would make them both the manly ones. Being in a gay relationship is not about which one gets to be the man and which one gets to be the woman. That is a straight relationship and if that is what we were into we would not be gay!!! A gay relationship is about being in a relationship as TWO MEN. If this is something you are not understanding then maybe it is something you are not suppose to understand. Don't push straight society's ideas about gender roles on to a gay relationship. It does not work. Because once again if that is what we were interested in then we would be straight and not GAY!!!
2007-08-14 10:13:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless the decision is made as part of the choice of companions, the two new pals will experiment with different positions until it becomes clear who is best at what, and who likes what better then the other. Although sometimes the person who does something best would rather have it done than do it. This inevitably occurs with respect to one or more of the variety of pleasures available, and is always a source of much amusement - hence the old term "gay" took on its newest meaning.
2007-08-14 09:45:22 · answer #3 · answered by Grist 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually in all of the relationships that I have been in and those that I have witnessed lasting for a long period of time, there are no roles. The pairing simply compliments each other. For example person A may have many talents that the partner may not have therefore completing the couple into a whole unit that is niether masculine nor fem.
2007-08-14 09:37:29 · answer #4 · answered by kevin t 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
In my last relationship it was actually quite funny, because everyone immediately thinks I'm the women simply because I can be more femme, and I am thin and soft looking. I was also younger.
My ex was extremely masculine, muscular, and older. You couldn't even tell he was gay. He said he often wished he could act more gay so that guys would know and flirt with him. He'd often be ignored in bars. And trust me, it wasn't from a lack of good looks.
With all that said . . he however ended up being the bottom and always wanted to do the cooking and cleaning. He was also big into taking care of me and providing for me . . . like a "woman".
Kind of cool how it turns out sometimes I think.
2007-08-14 09:44:40 · answer #5 · answered by subby33 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You are under the impression that one person assumes a masculine role and the other a feminine one. In some relationships, that may be the case. But I think in most cases, that's an oversimplification. I think most of us realize that the identities are somewhat arbitrary to begin with, and we bring to the relationship our strengths and weaknesses, whatever they may be in each of us.
Or you may be asking about who is the top and who is the bottom. That isn't clear-cut, either. I like it both ways. But for whatever reason am frequently a top. Others may be different. It's whatever works.
2007-08-14 09:45:10 · answer #6 · answered by Clint 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Interesting responses!
I thought that there was a natural inclination--where men are concerned--for one to be the more dominant partner, at the consent of the other partner. Is this wrong? Or does it just depend upon the personalities involved?
So many more questions come to mind...
2007-08-14 09:47:47 · answer #7 · answered by stevenB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A marriage is a 60/40 give and take - - - you just have to take turns being the 60.
A relationship flourishes when two people work together for the better of both of them. You have to know your strengths and weaknesses and allow the other person to dominate when it is for the good of both parties.
2007-08-14 09:42:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is an oxymoron....in gay relationships we have two men or two women...so how could a man decide who is the man in a lesbian relationship....and how could a woman decide in a gay relationship....AHAHAHAHAHA
But for the record...there is no man in my lesbian house...well, my son...but he isn't but a wee little man...and he has no say in who runs the house...i do!
2007-08-14 09:36:36 · answer #9 · answered by Lil_bit_witty 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
In my experience there was never a conscious decision. I have always been ultra submissive. That is until my last bf for some reason he brought out the dominant side of me. Relationships just happen like they happen.
2007-08-18 08:18:45 · answer #10 · answered by Leo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What interests me is this: Why do traditional gender roles play any part in a gay/lesbian/bi relationship? Whoever wants to mow the lawn does so. Whoever wants to cook does that.
Traditional roles should are archaic anyway so why would they play a part in a non-traditional relationship?
2007-08-14 09:43:59 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋