I plan on staying home with my child until he is 4 years old. I don't like the idea of childcare. Thats my personal opinion, and I'm not criticizing other people's choices. My boyfriend makes $5000 a month - after taxes. Do you personally think this will be ok? I think it will be plenty since rent runs around $1100-$1300 in this city. I kind of feel guilty for wanting to stay home with my child but I think he can support us on this income. Do you think that we'll be alright? It's just my mother is putting all this pressure on my to go back to work right away and making me feel like it would be a bad thing to stay home with the baby. I am just wondering what you guys think. Thanks!
2007-08-14 09:19:14 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I feel better now! Thank you all for your opinions, and I think i'm just going to love being a mommy to this baby 24-7 :D Thank you guys!
2007-08-14 09:28:02 · update #1
That should be enough, if you take what he makes even if you pay 1500 for rent, that leaves you with 3500 and divide that by 4 weeks in a month then you have 875 to spend a week. Try it out and if you cant make it work then look into working part-time. I don't see you having a problem living on his in-come though. I stay home with my son, I could not do it any different, I tried day care I was miserable. I felt guilty at first but I cleaned the house made sure he had a meal ready when he came home, I take care of the house and the baby while he goes to work, when he gets home he has nothing to do except for relax. My mom and his mom keep saying that I should go back to work, but we are doing great and it is not there kid.
2007-08-14 09:30:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Working or staying home is a decision between you and your husband. My son is 2 yrs. and 9 months and my daughter is due next week. I had a 14 week maternity leave with my son and will have a 13 week leave with my daughter. I need to work, partly for financial reasons and partly because I would go insane staying home. Many women are great at it. I am not.
Try living on his income alone for ... is it 2 months? That way, you'll know if you can really do it before you quit your job. Or see if you can take a year off but keep your job.
But if you do go back to work, know that you can find great childcare. My son and the young children of my friends who work are all thriving. I know a few stay at home moms who have children the same age, and they are not as advanced. Kids really learn a lot in daycare. I was pleasantly surprised. And my son is so friendly and outgoing. I stayed home with my mom and I was so painfully shy growing up.
Make the decision that is right for your family ... and your mother really doesn't get a voice. Good luck!
2007-08-14 16:32:04 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ahhh....yeah, stay home with the baby. I am planning on doing the same thing, and I am pretty much in the same boat as you are. I plan on staying home with the baby as well. I do not want to put my baby in daycare. I've always grown-up never wanting to be a full-blown career person. You can make it work. Don't listen to other. You only get to raise this child once, and those first years are precious that you don't want to learn about from other people. Times certainly have changed, but this shouldn't. Not for me at least!
2007-08-14 16:44:31 · answer #3 · answered by Roz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lucky you, having the option to be a SAHM. Sounds like an expensive area you live in? The question is, what kind of bills do you have each month? Do you have a new car to pay off? How much is your utility and phone bills per month? What about DISH network or DSL? Life insurance? Car insurance? Home insurance?
What really helps is to make a list of your monthly bills and cost of each. Add them up and compare how much your total bills cost vs. your bf's income. Then you don't have to wonder if you'll be financially okay 'cause you'll have the #s to look at.
To answer your question, yes, I have to go back to work. We can't afford to live on one income. I'll go back after 3 months.
2007-08-14 16:35:23 · answer #4 · answered by linda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's wonderful and would do it if we could afford to. I was raised in a house where my mom stayed home and my hubby lived in a house where both parents worked. We both ended up fine. However, since I was raised with a stay at home mom, that's what I prefer for myself. Everyone has a different situation. It sounds like there would be no problem with you staying home so I say do it and enjoy your baby!!
2007-08-14 16:28:02 · answer #5 · answered by Kittieashy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have the means to stay home then that's great. Budget out what you spend on bills and rent and see what you are left with, cause what's left is going towards the cost of the baby. Some people can afford to do it, some have to work. It all depends on where you are at finacially.
2007-08-14 16:24:47 · answer #6 · answered by Ben's Mommy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
$5000 a month with $1300 rent and a baby--no way. I make about the same and our rent is $400 a month and we are both going to have to work in order to afford it.
2007-08-14 16:26:54 · answer #7 · answered by Amber 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately i am. My husband though will be staying home with the baby. I totally understand where you are coming from with the daycare. I make more than my husband, this is why we chose to do it this way. I make about 5k a month as well, and we will be fine.
If you can do it, Go for it!!!!
2007-08-14 17:10:27 · answer #8 · answered by Tiggerrrs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would love to be able to stay home after wards. $5000.00 a month where I live would be more than enough for us to live very comfortable and me not working. I don't know why your mother would say that to you. I would think she would be more supportive of you staying home and raising your child.
2007-08-14 16:51:47 · answer #9 · answered by ericksmommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know, my lil boy is 5 months and im still deciding on what to do. i work but not that much. my husband is in the military and so far we are going fine with him working. and no, being a stay at home mom isnt a crime..you get to spend quality time with your child and watch them grow up! :D
2007-08-14 16:24:56 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋