even if the two of you are "seperated" from your spouse (pending divorce), but not yet legally "divorced"?
2007-08-14 09:05:12 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you think it might be, then it probably is.
2007-08-14 09:08:19 · answer #1 · answered by Steve is cool 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well basically u may not like what i would have to say and am going to speak on both different views. In society if a woman and man is getting divorced and the other starts dating a opposite sex, society thinks that thats not cheating as they are getting divorced only that the case is pending. However, if you are an Christian, it will always considered cheating as no papers could separate marriage in the eyes of God, only death. Until your partner pass you will never be considered "divorced." Meaning both of you will be committing adultry. However, thats none of my business its between the man, the woman and god. If you guys feel counciling cannot work or wont be willing to give it a try, i wish u all luck. As i alway say go with what you feel is best for both of you
2007-08-14 09:20:37 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Technically, the divorce is not final and you are both still married, so its cheating.
Practically, divorces can take years and its very difficult to be celibate and alone for that long. So, as long as there is a divorce in the works and the spouses are aware that the marriage is over, I wouldn't consider it cheating.
2007-08-14 09:55:53 · answer #3 · answered by Melanie J 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is really better to wait until your divorce is final, just to completely end the old relationship before you start the new one.
Having said that, unless you and your soon-to-be-ex-wife are living together, holding out the illusion that you are together, or if she is holding out some hope that the relationship will resume, or you are too, than no, I would not call it cheating. The relationship is emotionally over, and you both understand that, but it is not yet legally over. I would say that casual dating would be OK, but don't become intimately or seriously involved with anyone else until your divorce is final. It will make you a better person, trust me.
2007-08-14 09:09:59 · answer #4 · answered by HooliganGrrl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
technically of course it is. Until that final day you stand before a judge and he declares your marriage dissolved, you do still belong to your spouse. You should be sure that it is truly over and "0" chances of getting back together before you pursue your new relationship. Still, use the time to really get to know your new found love. If its not too late, just dont have sex yet. It clouds many of the true, natural feelings you have or might develop. Dont take a chance and develop a guilt trip, "if you can help it"! You might know beyond a doubt its over but if theres enough since to ask this question then you might want to hold off on your next relationship.
2007-08-14 09:18:28 · answer #5 · answered by donald h 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It depends on how long the seperation has been and if there is a chance for reconciliation?Some divorces take years and I think it would be unfair to expect a person to wait that long.According to the law it is though.Laws change according to public pressures and values though.In native culture once the moccassins are put outside the teepee so to speak the divorce is final right then and there.Divorces make money for lawyers,and can last months or years,go figure.
2007-08-14 09:12:08 · answer #6 · answered by warriorbabe 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
No, I would not consider this cheating because you two have onviously decided your relationship is not going to work out, so why should you stop yourself from finding happiness as soon as you want?? Unless you still have some sort of commitment to eachother besides the pending divorce, you have nothing to feel guilty about.
2007-08-14 09:10:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
It really depends on the couple.
Some couples have a trial separation....in hopes of reconciliation, in which case cheating would be a total betrayal and extremely counter productive.
However...if you're separated pending divorce with no chance of reconciliation....it's a good idea to get a verbal and perhaps written agreement that you two agree to date others.
If there are children involved, I recommend getting everything in writing.
Best wishes :)
2007-08-14 09:41:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you were meant to be with your spouse, you all would be able to love them enough to have tried to work it out even though you have a pending divorce...So if its not worth the work MOVE ON!
2007-08-14 09:17:51 · answer #9 · answered by sweetcincylove 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The trouble with dating, before divorce is final, what if you decide to cancel divorce and now you have other involvements. Cheating is when you have made a committment to another--you have told each other that we are exclusive, until you end that committment ---and start another relationship before the other ends..you are cheating.
2007-08-14 09:10:47 · answer #10 · answered by skyward 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i look upon marriagr and divorce as legalities. once the marriage is over, and you start dating someone else, the divorce finalization is just a legal formality. you are not cheating because you and soon to be ex are not emotionally involved any more and there are not more expectations.
2007-08-14 09:17:07 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋