My daughter who has always whined, when she was either wet, dirty diapered, hungry or tired has recently started to whine all the time. I check all the usual suspects and thought once they were all taken cared of she would stop, but she isnt. Is this common for children her age to do this? If so, how do you keep your sanity and not let it bother you so much??
2007-08-14 09:03:43 · 9 answers · asked by livinlife 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
It really is hard to be a baby and even harder to be a parent to a baby, especially a complainer. Even as little as 8 months, a baby knows that whining will get some attention from mom and dad or from others around her. She may not even know what she wants, but she does know whining will bring someone to her. If you feel you have satisfied all the basic needs such as been fed, had something to drink, diaper clean and dry, not too tired, not too hot or cold, but the whining persists you'll have to put on your detective hat (just one of the many hats parents wear). If she has been sitting for awhile, put her down on the floor. Try playing some music or putting in a baby DVD. Take her outside. Read some books, give her a bath (if she likes it), or build a tower with blocks so she can knock it down. She may need some additional interaction, stimulation, or attention. However, some babies whine when they are over-stimulated so if you've been trying hard to keep her entertained but she still whines, then she may need some down time. Put her in her crib even if it is not nap time or place a port-a-crib or a baby fence in a part of your home where she can just be alone for awhile yet safe. Even if she continues to whine, as long as she is not crying in distress, she is OK to be alone for awhile. Distance yourself from her a little just to see if she is happy being alone for a bit. Some babies are just whiny by their nature. I cared for twins once, both boys, one was very easy going, the other his mom called "the grouser". Even when all his needs seemed to be met he still whined, complained and groused. Nothing was wrong with him, he just needed to be vocal. Those twins are now 11 years old, both very happy boys, but "the grouser" is more verbal than his more easy going brother. Try not going to her immediately when she begins to whine, let her work a minute or 2 on soothing herself. When she doesn't whine, interact with her in a positive up-beat way, smile a lot, give her hugs and kisses. When dealing with her when she whines, be a bit more perfunctory in your interaction with her. If her whining is an attention-getter then giving her less attention when she whines should help some over time. It does take a lot of patience which isn't always to come by. It may help to know that babies, like adults, just aren't happy all the time. As long as she has all her needs met, is in a safe enviornment, and you are close by, it is OK to ignore her for a while and let her "whine-it-out". It will probably always bother you since it is natural for parents to want their children to be happy. Some needs can't be met by another person, some you just need to work out for yourself, even if you are a baby.
2007-08-14 09:52:31 · answer #1 · answered by sevenofus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, unfortunately it's quite normal. My son went through it at about that time and again at 15 months. My 6 year old is going through it again, he whines and cries at every little thing. My best advice is to take a breather. If the whining becomes too unbearable put her in her crib for a few minutes and give yourself some time to recollect yourself. I know how it is... I'm a stay at home Mom of 2 so, I'm ALWAYS with my kids.... it can get annoying and just frustrating. Take time for yourself, even a few minutes will make you feel better.
2007-08-14 09:14:05 · answer #2 · answered by supermansgirl199 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some babies will just fuss for the heck of it. Mention it to your doctor there may be an underlying cause for why she is fussing non stop. However if your doctor can't find a reason and you checked the normal things it may just be she likes attention and to be held. My 2nd son did the same thing but from the beginning, no matter what he didnt want to be left alone or put down. If it really gets to you just let her lay in the crib and walk out of the room and shut the door. Take a breather. She will be fine and will eventually grow out of it.
2007-08-14 09:10:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How about teething? How are her bowel movements? It also could be that she is bored with the scenery....Now that she is getting more aware of her surroundings, you need to have a little more activity...Take her for a walk in the stroller or outside in a play pen so she can see and learn new things. Talk to her as if she understands every thing you say. Make eye contact with her.
Take Deep Breaths.....Being a Mom is the hardest job ever but the rewards are priceless!!!!! :-)
2007-08-14 09:12:08 · answer #4 · answered by kymmy_kins 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This child is bored out of her mind. She need creative outlets like plants need water. You need to set up a never ending barrage of activities for her where you are involved. Teach her to concentrate by presenting things that she's interested in. Things that make as much noise as she does. This will meet her intensity and she'll be happier. Make a special room or space in your house that's only hers, decorate it with things she likes and populate it with videos, games, art supplies and music. She's trying to tell you something and doesn't have the words. Teach her the words so she can communicate with them and not screaming fits.
2016-05-17 22:17:41 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might be uncomfortable. Maybe she has growing pains. Maybe her teeth are hurting. Maybe she doesn't want to stay in one place (do you keep her in a playpen?) Maybe there is too much stimulation (do you have the TV on a lot?) Maybe she just wants to be held. There's *something* bothering her. Ignoring her (as a previous poster recommended) won't take care of her needs, it'll just make her insecure and clingy and angry.
2007-08-14 09:13:36 · answer #6 · answered by blueviolet 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could let her whine awhile. She's figured out that whining gets her attention, so maybe ignore her for a long time and she'll eventually stop.
2007-08-14 09:10:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just remember she is a baby. Maybe she is being over stimulated and just needs quiet time or maybe she just wants to cuddle quietly. She also may just not be feeling the best and so she just trying to let you know.
2007-08-14 09:09:29 · answer #8 · answered by alinder1984 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My 9 month old angel baby just started this. I just try to keep him busy. He was such an easy baby until now.
2007-08-14 09:33:03 · answer #9 · answered by shezarealgem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋