lose weight/gain weight, dye hair, fancy it up, change style, etc.
Nothing major just a few things like that....
2007-08-14 09:00:38 · 53 answers · asked by Music 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would do anything for someone I love, but I would hope she loves me for the way I am.
2007-08-14 09:27:58 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as what the other person was wanting me to do seemed rational, reasonable, and perhaps even an improvement in something about myself that I already knew I really ought to make a change for the better; then definitely if I loved this person I would find that a strong motivation to make that change.
If, on the other hand, that person came to me and asked me to do something, or take up some kind of behaviour that I felt was totally objectionable, and against everything that I would ever feel comfortable with, then absolutely not. If that person continued to pressure me, I would have to conclude that this was not, after all, the person I thought he was, and we wouldn't have a future together.
2007-08-14 09:13:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would hope that the person would like you for who you are but sometimes you need a change and only someone close to you can get you to do it. Essentially it would really depend on what the change is and how important the particular thing is to me. For example say your a spend thrift and now your partner wants you to save money. You might do that simply because in the end it benefits you as well not only because you want to make them happy.
In the end I think all relationships have some compromise where you change something to accommodate the other person. If they are important to you I don't see why not. It all depends on what they are asking about.
2007-08-14 09:10:46 · answer #3 · answered by tetlitea 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, physical attraction might sound shallow but if they think that you can look a certain way.. then its best to try it atleast or they might seek another person who fullfills that area.
Just cause your changing your physical looks it doesnt mean your changing who you are... like the people who say no are retarded... you might even like losing weight, or changing your clothing style, or dying your hair... gaining weight on the other hand depends on the situation...
you still wont be changing who your are... now if they ask you to stop associating with people, or telling you what to do or whatever.. then that's a definate no.
2007-08-14 09:07:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...I do those things for myself. I might wear an outfit I know he likes or at his request, or perhaps quit a bad habit (like smoking), but basically I won't change anything that I like about me, for someone else.
Changes made for someone else typically either don't last long, or resentment begins to start when the person who changed isn't happy with their changes...they may even feel the other person should've made a change also and that didn't occur. It can get ugly...
We either accept the people we date for who they are, warts and all, or we shouldn't be with them.
2007-08-14 09:07:22 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have taken a hundred yrs creating this excellence an you want me to change? Change is good. I'm 6' 175lbs blond blue eyes,fit, don't smoke, drug free, drink very little. cook ,mess free,no baggage,or issues.what's lift to change< O i live on the water in Florida.That i won't change unless to the Bahamas.?? Is there hope for me???
2007-08-14 09:47:15 · answer #6 · answered by 45 auto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was happy with the change, yes. I would never do anything I didn't want to do or that I wasn't happy with. If you change yourself (even physically) specifically for someone else then you'll never be happy and it won't work and you'll just end up being miserable. Why go through the trouble?
2007-08-14 09:06:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
No. I would keep wondering why, if they wanted me to change, they were with me in the first place. If they don't like me as I am, they can jolly well find someone else who is more like what they are looking for.
2007-08-14 09:08:31 · answer #8 · answered by kj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this change wont change who you are inside i dont see what is wrong with that. Just make sure its something that will not negatively affect you in the future. Go with what you feel comfortable.
2007-08-14 09:07:33 · answer #9 · answered by Stephanie 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't unless YOU really want the gf/bf should like for who u r not what you look like even the smallest things but only do it if YOU want to.
2007-08-14 09:07:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Before or after we started going out? If they liked me for me before and then after we started going out they wanted me to change a little for them...I would. But they'd have to like me before or no way.
I'm not going to change who I am just to get someone to go out with me...but I will change for someone that loves me...if that makes sense?
2007-08-14 09:07:45 · answer #11 · answered by tamara_giggles 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋