The stasticis says that money is the main cause for divorce even more than infedelity and unfaithfulness, some have also suggested that people do not marry in the will and timing of God. My question is do you think another main reason for divorce is that couples focus too much on romance and not focus enough on true love which believes all things bears all things and endures all things?
2007-08-14 08:37:07 · 12 answers · asked by encourager4God 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think that's a big part of it. People seem to let emotions do all the talking, and then want "out" when they realize marriage is hard work. Rather than grow up and invest in the marriage (via working as EQUALS to build a strong marriage), they make yet another emotional choice, and leave because it "just isn't working".
True love is built, not stumbled upon. That's the difference.
2007-08-14 08:51:08 · answer #1 · answered by Leapfrog Lady 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Romance is a big part of true love. Romance does not have 20/20 vision or X-ray vision either. We can not see into the future nor can we read minds. So it's basically a crap shoot.
But it's worked since the beginning of time and please don't bring God into this. God is not meddling in the follies of men & women he is too busy working on a higher level.
I think you are over thinking this stuff take a break and think about global warming or something whre you can actually make a difference.
2007-08-14 08:54:51 · answer #2 · answered by theladygeorge 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...couples get divorced because it is more convenient than actually toughing out the marriage and learning to work through their problems. This group of people from 20-29...are a group of P***y's with false ideals of relationships, and when the time comes for serious commitment, few people in this age bracket can cut it.
I am 29, and after 6 year relationship with a man ( on and off, which should've been a clue to me that he wasn't ready for a marriage) ..he left me after a mere 6 months of marriage, he was 27.I know at least 7 other couples' that have been married anywhere from 6 months to a year, and they are getting divorced. If you ask them about their friends, they know of at least 3-7 other couple's in the same situation. I think people are lazy and don't want to work at it because they truly don't value their marriages. People think that love means "easy", and if you love someone the relationship should be "easy", they don't understand that you will have struggle in a relationship....the "easy" comes from the attitude you have when you work on it, because when you love someone you take joy in making it work. It's not tedious to go to marriage counseling to learn to communicate with each other, it's not tedious to have sex with your spouse. Yes you get angry and frustrated, but it's not tedious to come together after you have calmed down and try to work it out.
2007-08-14 11:11:31 · answer #3 · answered by darknangelic77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think not putting God first, immaturity, lack of communication, and selfishness are the main causes for divorce. Money is just a symptom of the above mentioned. A family that prays together, stays together!!! I think the concept is too simple for people. They get all caught up in themselves and what the world says and they don't listen to what God has for them. There is plenty of Scripture that can guide someone, but unless they give it to him and trust him with all of their heart, they are in for a life of misdirection.....In love and money.
2007-08-14 08:56:09 · answer #4 · answered by kymmy_kins 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
People seem to marry for sexual attraction and you know how fleeting that can be.... this a particular problem with men, we see sex first then a women... only time tempers the drive, whereby something more in a males view of a relationship is needed to coincide with sex...
But, like I said, when I was young, and the vast majority of young men know what I am talking about,,,, we were "Pure Sluts"
2007-08-14 08:52:33 · answer #5 · answered by James F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! I quote that scripture all the time whenever people here ask, "What is love?" or "How do I know if he loves me?" Well, love is more than just a special way of feeling. Love is sacred.
Love is patient and is kind; love doesn't envy. Love doesn't brag, is not proud, doesn't behave itself inappropriately, doesn't seek its own way, is not provoked, takes no account of evil; doesn't rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
2007-08-14 08:46:51 · answer #6 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ding,ding, ding ! You win the prize honey ! People are so caught up in the media inspired perfect romance that they can no longer see the value of what they have in their own life ! I am no Carey Grant but my proposal was eternal. Was I ever suprised when eternity only lasted 7 years ! That was 22 long years ago !
2007-08-14 09:03:58 · answer #7 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, would you want to live in an old apartment where you can hear your neighbor talking, walking around, eating the same food everyday?
The goal is to start a life, not end one. So money does play a big roll.
2007-08-14 08:47:29 · answer #8 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can focus on fairytales all day but if one is a jerk, the other can't make the marriage work alone. One can give, give, give, and if the other doesn't it not enough for two.
2007-08-14 08:44:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage should be fifty-fifty. I think the problem is most people want 75. Their concerned with themselves too much to be giving to a relationship.
2007-08-14 08:46:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋