about baptism?!?!?

Question

Ok... me and my boyfriend have a 3-month-old daughter... He's Christian and i'm catholic but I want to baptise my daughter and the other day he told me that he wasnt going when that happened and that his mom didn't want me to do that either

He had told me that christians do it when Iguess choose to follow that religion and it happens when theyre old enough to know about it . my family and his are totally different and we were raised differently

what should i do or tell him cos i do want my daughter baptised?

ok one more thing
he listens a lot! to his mom

baptism is very important to cathlic as well as christians but with catholics is done when someone is at a young age

Answer 1

In the early days of the Church baptism was not performed on children - rather, only adults who had passed through a series of classes, who understood the deep meanings, would be baptised.

As mankind plunged into the Medieval Ages, the Dark Ages, infant mortality rates increased. Christians believe that every child is born with the original sin. Baptism washes away that original sin. Infant baptisms became the norm for the basic reason that a baptised baby who dies will be welcomed into Heaven. But an unbaptised baby who dies will be in purgatory.

As a Christian, I believe infant baptisms to be acceptable and preferrable. Your daughter can be baptised now - and should be, really. If she experiences a spiritual journey where she chooses to remain Christian (or become Born Again, whatever), she can be baptised again, if she feels the need for it.

I am Catholic. My daughter was one month old when she was baptised and welcomed into our church and into God's family. It was an emotional experience for me, and one I hope you will experience soon.

If you are the primary care provider for your daughter, if you will be the one to guide her through faith, then I think the decision is up to you. Your bf may not like it, but I think you need the peace of mind that a baptism offers.

God Bless.

Oh, yeah. Just to let you all know Catholics are Christians. The religion in Christianity.
Denominations are your Lutherans, Catholics, Protestants, Baptists, etc.

Answer 2

This is really something you two should have talked about long before you decided to have a child, but since you didn't do it then, you need to do it now.

Many interfaith marriages work quite well, but it requires lots of communication and a deep respect for each other as well as each other's religious beliefs. First you and your boyfriend need to sit down and discuss the differences in your religions and how you two can make them work together. Maybe he won't object to having his daughter baptized in a Catholic ceremony if he knows that when the time is right you won't object to her decision to be baptized in a Christian ceremony if she so chooses. And maybe you two could take turns with her religious upbringing, like maybe all of you going to your church on the 1st and 3rd Sundays and all of you going with him and his family on the 2nd and 4th - remember you both need to respect each other and each other's religion and make sure your daughter sees and knows of this respect and she will grow up to respect both of you and both religions and will be able to make a very informed choice when she is old enough. If a Jewish and Christian marriage can work (my neighbors have done it) then you two who both have the same fundamental beliefs - that Jesus died on the cross to save us from our sins and that God is the father, then it should be pretty easy. Good luck and God Bless.

Answer 3

Is he opposed to having her baptized, or opposed to having her baptized as a catholic? It really shouldn't matter which denomination she is baptized into, but I know that catholic baptisms are much more ceremonial and are done when the children are still young. Christian baptisms often want the child to be willing to accept and participate.

My personal belief is that the child should be able to decide for themselves which religion to be baptized into, but I really see no reason why she can't be baptized now and then perhaps choose to have it reaffirmed when she's older for her father's sake.

What's important is to talk to him and see if you can come to an arrangement that you can both agree with.

Answer 4

There is no harm in baptising the child and then later if and when she chooses to be baptised, she can do it again.

I was baptised as a Catholic but then when I was in my 20's I chose to be baptised again as a Christian.

I didn't catch on fire or anything... :-)

I can't think of any logical reason he wouldn't allow her to be baptised. It doesn't hurt her and can ONLY help.

Answer 5

let your daughter decide. when she grows up she can make up her own mind about religion and stuff. don't baptise her when she is a few months old. as far as i know, christianism means a personal relationship with god, not making a promise and becoming a catholic or whatever at the age of 3 months, at wich age she obviously has no idea of life.

Answer 6

Well forget his mom, YOU and your HUSBAND have to decide what is right for the baby. Why don't you guys have a one on one conversation, and hey do both catholic and christian baptisms. I was also raised as a catholic and a christian....and I never had a problem, to this date (20 yrs old) I would still never change it in any way.

Answer 7

Wow that's a hard one. I practice Judaism and my husband was raised catholic but he's not very religious so we havent had many problems with raising our son. Of course there are things that we dont agree on so my best piece of advice is for you to talk to your boyfriend. This isn't about your families this is a decision you have to make together. It wont hurt for the baby to be baptized now and if she decides later in life that she believes something different she can convert and get baptized in her new religion (if need be). Talk to him, explain why its important to you, where this tradition comes from etc. and listen to his thoughts on it too. Hopefully you'll be able to reach a compromise. Good Luck.

Answer 8

You are both Christians !! There is no reason why you can't baptise her twice. Baptise her in the Catholic Church now and his church at a later date. It's the same God for pity's sake ...... only different church's !!!!!

The Catholic Church will probably object to this but it should be the parents wishes not what the church wants.

Answer 9

catholic people believe that the child should get baptized to get rid of original sin from adam and eve.... so i think he should believe this too since he is a christian..... now the child when they are old enough can choose for themself in confirmation or they could choose to be christian and not go for confirmation.... this is what i would say...... usually the children go by the wives religion so i assume that because your the girlfriend the same holds true... good luck religion is a tough subject:)

Answer 10

"christian" we are all christians no matter if you are catholic or otherwise, that is the misconception among many people. However, it is going to be close to impossible to baptise in the catholic church because your husband is not of the faith, and you did not get married in the catholic church. also, he is right. in the bible it states several passages about baptism and faith. you have to have faith, before you can have sin. how are you going to baptise your baby before he has sinned? baptism is to wash away the sins.