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Which is more important to you : Your own happiness, the happiness of others, or overall happiness even if it requires.. that you are somehow "less" happy???
Why??? ... Honest answers, please... thanks...
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Answer 1

Hi to the friendliest asker on Y!Answers!:
Overall happiness, as you call it, would inveriably imply the happines of other people, as well as your own happiness. And this, I think, should be what one should strive for. It is always much nicer to give than to receive (presents, gifts, etc. and yes, happiness too). Only the truly selfish would seek their own happiness before the happiness of others. I have exprienced it countless of times: Unselfishly trying to make other people happy, and - like the proverbial bread being cast on the water - you invariably actually receive more happiness in return, that you have given in the first place. (And NO, this is not to be the instigation for providing happiness - the fact that you usually receive some back!)
It is like you always (from the time I've been noticing your questions) wishing us all a "nice day/night". You inevitably receive well-wishes in return from the folks answering your questions. The fact that you DO take the trouble to show concern, makes us happy (for we feel a much more personal link with you, that with the millions of anonymous askers who use this service). Thus we reciprocate by wishing you a nice evening/day too - and we are quite a few more that your one personage. Yoy receive our happiness back tenfold and more - yet you never expect it (or never seem to expect it).
The fact that you always end of by saying "Thans for sharing" makes it that much more special, and only a blatant ignoramus would snipe at you by not wanting to share his/her inner feelings with you. Again you score tenfold, in this sharing of goodwill and . . . HAPPINESS!
Thanks for making us all feel special. You deserve the happiness we bestow upon you!
YOU ARE SPECIAL!

Answer 2

A mix of the happiness of others and the overall happiness even if it requires that I'm somehow "less" happy. I just feel the need to make everyone happy even if it destroys me. I have always been that way. It comes from lack of self esteem and wanting everyone to like me. If everyone is happy it is okay if I suffer a tiny bit. It's a sickness that I am trying to get over. I thank God I have a husband that does not take advantage of that and is trying to break me of that cycle. So far with his help I am doing a lot better and I trying to do things to make myself happy which is really hard and kind of painful.

Answer 3

For some reason the happiness of others is more important to me. Probably because I am generally happy naturally.
But, too, it is the others around me that make me happy so if they are happy, I am happy.
When my group of friends gets together, I am happy, even if they are talking about their problems. I think it is just their vibes. One of them actually says I make her happy when we are together.
My family makes me happy, unless they are unhappy, then I am usually worried. Is that a form of unhappiness?
I'm not so sure if I would be happy if I didn't have people around me that are happy.
Maybe I'd be an old grouch.

Answer 4

Your question has a fallacy... when others are happy that makes it easier for you to be happy! Happiness is sometimes contagious... Being around happy people makes one more likely to happy as well! Happy people share more, smile more, are less aggressive, take things easier, and tend to be more understanding/accepting. All positive aspects can be found in making others happier!
So, my answer has to be such that when all are happier even if that might (almost virtually impossible) mean less happiness to me!!! I like to see/make people happy...
However, one should not forget that the reverse is also true. If one tries to make someone else happy by becoming miserable one may actually be undermining their own efforts at the same time!!! Many parents fall into this trap... overly sacrificing, and actually making their kids sadder from their absence/non-participation than they are happier do to extra things/status.

Answer 5

Interesting I was going to ask the exact same thing...Anyways, overall happiness is more important to me because I don't think its fair for me to have all the resources and capabilities to live in a happy world, while I watch others suffer in unhappiness. I mean if that was me, wouldn't I want to also have happiness? In regards to only seeking happiness for others, one would have happiness in that if that is what one seeks.

Answer 6

I'm a little confuse to your question...
but if I'm to chose which happiness is more important to me I would chose where everybody is happy I would certainly be happy also especially when those person are my loveoness.

aaahhh... overall happiness even if it requires... that I'm "less happy" i think I can stand on being less happy than being lonely at all....

thank you.....

Answer 7

My "happiness" & the happiness of others are inextricably entwined. I've never found that, say--someone with whom I'm involved, friends or professionally--needs reinforcing, helping, comforting, that it made me "less happy." I'll be concerned about that person, but it doesn't affect me negatively. It makes me "happy" when I can lift their spirits, which I do most of the time. I'm a positive, caring person with one heck of a sense of humour. I've evoked laughter in others while tears were streaming down their faces. The happiness of others is essential to my own happiness. A friend recently said that I carry a "happy virus." What a lovely compliment!

I enjoy your questions very much, & the "personal" touches that make me feel that I'm somehow as important to you as you are to me.

Answer 8

This is my point of view: Honestly, happiness to everyone. Happiness must be reciprocal. One should not take happiness if he is less happy because happiness must be felt wholeheartedly. It cannot be taken as halfheartedly. If your happy be happy because you do it for them not half baked. It's hard for you to retain deposits of remorse and just for the sake of making others totally happy. It is as if the giving of a package of actions for happiness to others is somewhat questionable. However, there are so many situations that you are less happy so long as your friends are happy most. Indeed what lies in happiness is you make other persons happy and your happy of what you are doing.

Answer 9

Overall happiness comes from others being happy. To make others happy, sometimes one must put his or her happiness aside and help others first. A happy, confident individual is one who can put his or her problems aside to help out a friend. So, it begins with the self, moves to another and another, and then there is overall happiness. Happiness is infectious.

Answer 10

Overall happiness is important.A simple selfless act is a gift
remembbered by generations of children.
You are the source of Love
love your children as yourself
And live to see this Light
Shine upon nations,planets
There is no limit to what youcan do