I found porn on my sons computer?

Question

he just turned 9 last month

What i ment to ask was if i should allow him to continue watching or should i stop him. i havent told him that i found it.

Answer 1

And long before there was an Internet, my mother found a porn magazine under my bed.....50 years ago. I must admit it crushed my chances in succeeding in life as I grew up to become a teacher, therapist, husband and father of two wonderful boys (one an NROTC college student, the other studying for the ministry). I have never been involved in drugs, sex crimes of other socially undesirable behavior. I did get two driving citations over 48 years of driving, so the porn magazine probably was the cause of that.

Get over it and celebrate your son's normal curiosity and healthy libido. By spending more time with him in family activities, supporting him in his positive interests and showing him, by example, the benefits of living a virtuous life, he will come out just fine.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Make sure the computer is in a main location. Kitchen, family room. Also buy something like norton that will give you the option to filter out those sites. I have all Sex/Acts,Attire,Nude, filtered out so most of that stuff cannot be seen.
Also, do not yell at him. This is a touchy situation and he is a little scared and curious.You need to prepare him for such things. He needs to have the sex talk and girl talk. He also needs to know the differences between husband and wife sex and porn.
The book, "Preparing Your Son for Every Man's Battle by Stephen Arterburn. Can help you with some of the things that may happen. I would also read up on Every Man's Battle for yourself.
Keep as much of what you and your son talk about between you and your son. Your wife does not need to know about the details. This should be a learning experience for him.
Remember, boys are naturally drown to find out why things are. When seeing porn for the first few times, they are confused, a little scared, but stimulated. He needs to know the feelings are natural and he is to be stimulated by women, but not in that way.

If you have any questions or want to talk, [e-mail] is my email.

Answer 4

1) Block the sites with a good blocking software program
2) Have a discussion with your son about sex and open the door for him to ask you any questions. Its normal for him to be curious, but stress that you would rather him come to you first.
3) Don't mention that you found the porn, it will only make him feel embarrassed about it.

Answer 5

Well you certainly need to sit him down and talk to him about the facts of life if you have not already done so, and also use the blocking software that is on the computer so he won't be downloading stuff or viewing stuff you don't want him to view. Yes, you need to confront him, and tell him it is not acceptable in your home, unless it is an acceptable practice.

Answer 6

He's already crossed that bridge, so there isn't much you can do. if he can't get it at home, he'll get it from his friends. If i were you, i'd sit him down and have "THE TALK". Explain to him (without mentioning what you found) that what happens in porn movies generally isn't what happens in realistic sexual encournters. Explain to him the importance of condoms and how to put one on. Reinforce the fact that he should always respect women. And make sure that he knows that he can tell you anything if there's something on his mind or something he's curious about.

Answer 7

At 9 years old, you should have blocks on his computer. Age relevant sites only. There are parental controls you can use. Look for them.

Answer 8

Is your son 13 or 33yrs old? Knowing that would be helpful.
I can only assume he is in puberty so as a father, I would tell him that although looking at porn is normal for a young male, it is inappropriate especially where women are around.
Show some respect son....get rid of it.

Answer 9

Watching porn at such a early age can get him pretty messed up as he grows up and in his adult life. Depends on his attention span and what he is looking at. If its just naked models he should be ok... if its really nasty stuff I wouldn't let him see that stuff....

Um... I think its time for a talk. And get some parental control software on your computer.

Answer 10

First you need to learn to block sites. There is software you can purchase to do this.

Second, have a discussion with you son and explain to him about how evil people are and how porn is not a nice way to see the beauty of the human body. I am sure he is exploring and trying to understand, but learning the right way versus the wrong way can make a difference.