I know people have different opinions when it comes to a baby sleeping. but i am a nanny and i have an issue. i had the baby on a sleep schedule. sometimes i would put the baby down for a nap and he will fuss then fall asleep a minute later. the mother walks the baby to sleep on the weekends and tells me that babies crying themselves to sleep will mess up their personality in the long run. I do not believe in letting a baby cry for too long but if you ask me, it is important for a baby to learn to sooth themselve to sleep. i have tried to walk him to sleep and it just doesn't work. he thinks it's play time:-) someone let me know what you think please
2007-08-14 06:11:42 · 9 answers · asked by angel 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
She has a different parenting style than you have- and when you have kids you begin to feel different.
Can they have long term effects? Some doctors say yes. I don't know as we have never allowed ours to cry it out. Dr. Sears says yes as do some others.
www.askdrsears.com
We don't let ours cry because with our son, we noticed that if left to cry, he cried more and fussed more. That's just our experience though. Self soothing is NOT crying it out- how is CRYING to sleep in any way related to soothing???? We teach our babies to self soothe using comfort objects- rubbing their face with the blankie, etc.
As a nanny, you have to do it as the parents wish, not as you would do for your own.
2007-08-14 06:27:28 · answer #1 · answered by NY_Attitude 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
It's her business. The fact is, you're being PAID to take care of her baby the way she wants you to. If you have a problem with NOT letting a baby cry, she should find a different nanny who will respect her wishes.
I'm so tired of people saying babies need to learn how to sleep on their own. So not true. When the child is 20 years old, he/she isn't still going to need help sleeping. When a baby falls asleep crying, it's not helping a damn bit. the baby just feels defeated.
2007-08-14 09:08:57 · answer #2 · answered by Heather R 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Not likely. As long as the baby is not hungry, doesn't need a diaper change and is not in pain, it is fine to let them "cry it out." It is a part of self soothing. The baby will not hold a grudge. I would say that if it has been more than 15 minutes of non stop crying than thats a different story. You could try comforting the baby with your voice. Say in a calm voice "Im right here" but dont touch the baby. It will get them used to falling asleep alone instead of walking them to sleep.
2007-08-14 06:28:35 · answer #3 · answered by sexyjenni 1 · 3⤊ 3⤋
it is important for children to learn to fall asleep on their own and how to self-soothe. There are some great books out there with more specific instructions and case studies. One is "Solve your child's sleep problems" by Dr. Richard Ferber. But the 2005 edition is best. You are correct that you shouldn't let the baby cry too long. As well as defining which type of cry it is. I know people give Dr. Ferber lots of criticism, but most people who have actually read the book, understand his method. Dr. Sears also has books on the topic.
2007-08-14 06:24:45 · answer #4 · answered by bkcwzy 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
It depends upon the babies age. Babies for about the first six months should not be allowed to cry for a long period of time. Studies actually show that during these first six months that when you comfort them you help build trust with them. After this time frame it is ok to let them cry for a short period of time because they can start to learn that if they cry you will pick them up so they may start doing this. You are right about letting them learn to soothe themselves because otherwise they will learn that you will always get them and the longer it goes on the harder it will be for them to get to sleep. As a mother it killed me to listen to her cry when she used to
be put down for a nap and I always used to pick her up and she ended up sleeping in my arms. I realized I couldn't hold her forever and I had to let her cry and it killed me to listen to but sure enough it worked and she learned to calm herself and fall asleep by herself. What I read that I tried that worked was while the baby is crying check on him/her about every ten minutes just to make sure they are ok and then leave again. It took about a week or two but it was worth it she now knows that when she goes in the crib it is sleep time. Good luck to you and keep in mind that sometimes mothers can get very protective of their babies especially if it is a first child.
2007-08-14 06:30:37 · answer #5 · answered by Vikki 4 · 2⤊ 3⤋
I would agree with you...if the baby cries a bit, then falls off to sleep, what is the problem?
If the baby is crying for 45+ minutes, that is a problem.
2007-08-14 06:20:24 · answer #6 · answered by nl8uprly 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I agree with you in that the baby should learn to self sooth...but watch out because SOOO many people in here will tell you the opposite! No it doesnt cause any issues..but fans of attachment parenting will tell you otherwise.
2007-08-14 06:20:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think it's better for the baby or child to be able to get to sleep without any intervention. that way if they wake up in the night, the parent doesn't have to get up and do the whole ritual all over again.
2007-08-14 06:20:14 · answer #8 · answered by wendy_da_goodlil_witch 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I agree with ny_attitude.
2007-08-14 06:50:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋