How do you deal with very aggressive and righteous people??

Question

Do you always agree with them or do you put them in their place????

Answer 1

i agree with them... i feed their ego till they can no longer handle them..
it's like constantly showing a mirror on their faces, till they see their flaws themselves...
if they believe they can do everything.. i support them... till they fail and realize theyre not so invincible after all.

you cannot stop a train from running.... but the tracks will always have their final destinations.
Ride with them... till they simply put themselves in their proper places...
=))))))))))))

Answer 2

How would I know that they are very agressive and very righteous people, in your opinion? If it is a first encounter, I might be curious as to what is going on. It is easier to just be spontaneous and mechanical in my judgement, so I probably would make the effort to give them the benefit of the doubt, as they say, though I`m not sure doubt is the right word.

Next I would wonder how it is that we were attracted to each other. My being attracts my life, so what is it about me that resonated with this person. A sincere effort is required here because I believe this is serious business. This person could very well be the biggest teacher in my life.

If the above fail to bring any results, then and only then would I simply turn the other cheek, which means to go on with my own business and ignore them.

If my answer so far sounds like very agressive and very righteous, please tell me so. I usually don`t mince my words when I am sure of what I speak. This extends to person to person contacts and I treat these answers as such. Cheers!

Answer 3

It depends on the situation. At parties or social gatherings, I couldn't care less because I am there to have a good time. At work, I just ignore them or tell them to go away. If the person is aggressive or self righteous regarding a family matter, or personal matter, then they have a fight on their hands. If I have to point out that they are aggressive and self righteous, that usually makes my point, maybe not with the person I'm arguing with, but with others around me. The bottom line? I couldn't care less what anyone thinks at my job or in social situations. In my personal life, I stand my ground. Being self righteous or aggressive wins no one any points with me.

Answer 4

It is impossible to argue with people who have this mind set, and often it is also difficult to impossible to reason with them. So I don't. I know that having that kind of encounter with them will just make both of us upset and angry, so why bother? I feel comfortable with my beliefs and don't feel any need to have people believe in the same things I do.

If a person is so self-righteous that they have a big chip on their shoulder and feel like they have to make other people "wrong" in order for them to be "right", there is a problem. These people are not only aggressive and obnoxious, but are paranoid and fearful of anything that doesn't match up with their world view. I can't believe they can foster any sense of inner peace feeling that way. I think a lot of them must be as miserable on the inside as they are on the outside. I feel sorry for them.

Answer 5

Aggressive behavior can be handled, but it requires experience. Plus, it gets expensive to have your spouse bail you out of jail for fighting, so I try to avoid that road these days. Righteous people almost always refuse to see other perspectives. This is extremely frustrating. There are zillions of examples of the negative effect of righteous behavior, I would, however, have to take a pill of some kind in order to discuss such maddening ideas! Sorry.

Answer 6

Just noticing that most the answers here are kinda self-righteous and agressive.

(ZOMG I'd beat them up! / Argue them down!/ I'm sooo much bettaw dan dem!)

I "deal" with aggressive people by being competitive but also set an example of how I'd like to be treated by extending a little friendly courtesy, cracking jokes, and apologizing for things I clearly meant to do. Then we build on that understanding as we continue to bump into one another.

My wife, for instance, happens to be an agressive righteous person.

We dated for 8 years.. yay harmony.

Answer 7

Always try to treat others as I want to be treated. Difficult at best. And I try myself not to come across as "righteous." I'm very conservative, though, and sometimes others will accuse you of being "righteous" for simply supporting or defending your viewpoint even as they defend theirs.

As far as the aggressive, it depends upon what you mean by aggressive. Assertiveness while a somewhat sonynomous term actually possesses a more positive connotation. For example, as mentioned above, standing up for what you believe in. Aggressive, angry people-- find it's best to simply avoid them or else not answer.

I always strive to treat others with kindness and consideration in all dealings, and I find if they do not reciprocate I either overlook or ignore them. Very, very seldom would I ever retaliate. I think I know what you mean though.

The indiviuals who treat others rudely with no reason and sneer or grimace when you try to make polite conversation, etc... Actually, I feel sorry for them. Alas, if you must answer a soft answer as stated in scripture usually lessens their fury or else overlooking it.

Very voliatile, tempestuous people often won't listen to reason anyway.

In short, I pray for them, grit my teeth, and pray that I should never come across as rude myself.

Answer 8

Very aggressive and self-righteous people are annoying so i just ignore them or do what a nice man would do, tolerate their big mouths. They would shout something at you, you nod with a gentle smile, but since you dont believe the same things they do, they get even more angrier. I do think its best to ignore them. Let them take their path uncriticized until a disaster happens.

Answer 9

Both aggressive and overly righteous people have much anger inside them. In addition, they have low-esteem and must prove to themselves that they have worth by acting in these manners.

I search for the anger and then attempt to put out the flames. Righteous people are harder to persuade. I let them have their say, try to show them another way - usually they do not accept any other variant - and go about my business without being effected by them.

Answer 10

Compassion is the weapon for person who are aggressive and righteous. If i have disagreement i reasoned out my points as clearly as possible in a calmness. Never be aggressive for you will not triumph because there might be a clash. The points or ideas you will be selling might not be bought. Just take it cool.

Answer 11

Spear Hand Thrust

Usually used to the solar plexus or other soft body tissues. To make a proper spear hand:

Hold arm straight out in front of the body with hand held flat (palm down) with fingers straight and together with thumb sticking out.

Slightly bend fingers so the first three finger tips are even and held tightly together. Stiffen the fingers.

Bend thumb and keep it tucked close to the hand.

The point of impact is with the tips of the fingers.

Deliver spear hand with thumb upward against the solar plexus, with palm upward against the solar plexus and floating ribs, or with palm downward against the groin or face.

Palm downwards thrust against the throat is deadly if delivered in the same way as a jab.

Spear hand is largely ineffective against well-muscled or bony targets unless it is well forged. Achieve this by repeatedly thrusting fingers into cardboard boxes and then into a bucket of dried peas, sand, or pebbles.