Is it bad that I get so mad when people judge me?

Question

Am I just overreacting?

Answer 1

Why do you get mad? Is there something you don't like about yourself? Are you comfortable with who you are? As long as you are comfortable and confident with who you are then it shouldn't matter to you what others think.....shine em on....go about your business

Answer 2

Well, you have to look at the horse's mouth. Are they up and right, smart citizens, or nuts? In which case, ignore them. If your self esteem was good, you wouldn't care so much about what people think. However, if you find many of your friends or family are pointing out a common thread in your behaviour, then it may be time to start listening, calmly, without taking it as a personal attack. Could be those people care about you and want what's best for you.

Now, if you are reacting inappropriately to these comments, such as screaming rage, throwing things, and generally wanting to wring their necks - you need counselling.

For as long as you live, people will judge you. As one gets older we develop a thick skin, and let it bounce off. Strangely enough, you will find that things you judged before, won't seem so important anymore when you get old. It's called experience and wisdom.

Answer 3

The "problem" with the word "judgment" is that it is used widely in the wrong context. We ALL judge each other. Let me explain. We determine what it is that we're comfortable with. Make it that I don't feel that I have a lot in common with gang members. Do I feel they should be harmed? No. Do I want to condemn them or put them down in any way? No. I don't understand them and consequently I don't share my life with any of them. I judge them.

What you're expressing is a condemnation or a rejection of what you feel is a personal attack against your character, who you are as a person or what it is that you place value in. That is a totally different situation. Yes, you should be offended, however you should not get violent about it. Understanding that people have a right to their opinion about you just as you have a right to yours about them (which is probably bad after they've rejected you.) is paramount in achieving what I have said numerous times today. That is the understanding that no one on this planet can make you "feel" any way you do not want to feel without your expressed permission to do so.

Think about it....

Answer 4

it's not bad but then it's the lack of practice which matters in this case

pls give urself room or capacity to accomodate other ppls views & ideas . i say just adjust urself to b a listener. Then later if u think that the view given was not suitable 4 u, then just forget that!!!

there's nothing to get annoyed about !! just give it some room .
This won't cost u rite???? so why not try that out plssss

Answer 5

Very few people in this world are qualified to judge others. Those that do are called "Petty".
There are exceptions of course, whether we like it or not. Parents judge us and our friends, but usually not to cause injury but to protect (in their opinion) their child. You cant blame them for that.
Being judged by your peers is another matter. Just let it be known (as nicely as possible) that their opinions, (if un- wanted), means little to you.

Answer 6

The only person that you can control is yourself. So when you tell me that you get "mad" it indicates to me that you have a lack of self control.
Everyday that you walk out of the house you lend yourself to scrutiny, now, I could tell you what you want to hear, or I could tell you the truth.
If you don't like the way you look in others eyes, perhaps you should check your reflection in the mirror before you leave home.

Answer 7

The way I look at this issue...

If we're all honest with ourselves, we would know that no one is 100% perfect, therefore, judging others is one of our many imperfections. Thus, any one judging another person should be ignored.

Answer 8

I guess its normal, unless their just trying to help..then you should try and calm down and understand that they didn't mean to offend you

I read somewhere when you get mad you should think about the thing that made you mad, and then just focus on the anger, not what happened and it just evnatually goes away

Answer 9

people need to judge themselves and when they are perfect then they should judge others, but no-ones perfect so no they should never judge anyone, no wonder you get fed up

Answer 10

nobody has the right to judge anyone we were all born into sin so there.