How do you get over a break up?

Question

My heart has just been shattered in a million pieces and I can't function anymore.

Answer 1

Take out paper and write everything you wish concerning it. Then place it in an envelope and place it in a drawer. It symbolizes that you had your last say and must move forward, never to open the envelope again.

Answer 2

There's no perfect answer to that question. Remember that it's not as bad as it feels right now. These feelings will pass, no matter how strong at present. No matter how bad you've been hurt, there is no wrong that can't be healed. Maybe it will take time; maybe it will take time and lots of hard work. Maybe it will simply heal itself. It all depends on how you perceive it--for example, keeping anger out of the equation can help a lot. Being hopeful and willing to let go of what you are able to let go of also helps a lot. Don't scrape up the old coals, let them die! That means no contact with your ex. No guilting, no blaming, no begging and pleading. No revenge. No plots. Keep away from that road. Don't sit around sulking. If you must sulk, at least mix the sulking with some activity that will partially distract you like household chores, shopping, going out with friends, doing art projects, exercising, etc. Do what you can to comfort and pamper yourself. Make "you" a top priority right now. Don't go out looking for a rebound. That will only complicate things. Remember that your future is full of good things that have nothing to do with this miserable phase. Good luck

Answer 3

You have to find strength within yourself to want to function. You have to somehow convince yourself that it is not the end of the world. Everything happens for a reason.
Nno matter how much it hurts, perhaps this was not the right person for you and you have to pick yourself up off the ground and get back out there. Time is the only thing that will mend your heart, keep yourself busy, and try to meet new people. You are stronger than you know.

Answer 4

Where to begin dear heart?
When did you break up?
How long did you spend together?
Just the two of you, or is there children?
Married, or commonlaw?

Stupid questions? Perhaps.
But making you think a little may help put your mind into an appropriate framework....
I just broke up with my partner after 2 years of everything that could possibly happen in that space of time, so to me it seems like almost a lifetime has passed!
We had planned to marry and we had expected twins and we bought a home in the country to start our new life together.... the whole 9 yards !

Today is Aug. 14th and a month and 1 week ago today it all ended for me too!
I'm still getting past it ... you'll hear everyone tell you this same thing and you have probly told someone once or twice in your life aswell this very thing too...." give it time - and it will pass!"
YA ! I know, sounds like B.S. right now, but honestly I wouldn't lie to you!
Our bodies are going through one hellova chemical change right now!!
Everything is in termoil ! Our guts, our hearts, our state of mind!
You are thinking too much and wondering what "YOU" did wrong?....maybe - maybe not.
I don't want to sit here and try to analize your state of mind because I don't know you personally, so I'll just speak to your obvious broken heart!

If you hadn't loved your partner, you wouldn't give a damn and there wouldn't be a pain in your stomach right now!
But you did, and like me you're gonna suffer for that. SORRY - there's nothing we can do about it.
For a period of time you are bound to feel like a bag of dirt dear heart, and that length of time is up to you!
You can beat yourself up every day if you feel you've done something wrong here? You can accept what has happened and move forward!
If this is a complicated issue, then I respectfully suggest you go ASAP to speak with a counsellor / shrink - whatever you want to call it !
I have done it - nothing to be ashamed of, and nobody need know about it but YOU !

I'm not full of S--T !
Our dream home had a poison well. We got sick and the twins died in thier womb. Legal things bankrupted us. Depression sent her into a crack house. I lost the home. She sold her rings. July I ended the relationship for obvious reasons...
So - Pain is universal my friend, and that we're all going to live through it at some point is assured.
Know that you are not alone!
Hit me up if you'd like to [e-mail] reguards!

Answer 5

Only time heals the wound of a broken heart. Some of my favorite songs and favorite movies helped and being with my friends who really care and love me helped too.

Good luck sweetie! The sun will shine again. My ex-husband destroyed me spiritually and I turned into an evil, bitter woman that I didn't even know. I lived that way for five years. Now I am in a wonderful relationship and I adore him so much. Don't let anyone ever steal your joy and change you into someone you are not.

Answer 6

Yes, It does hurt. I really know because I have been there a few times. The only thing that helps is to take it day by day.. .....
Also to talk it over with some one with the same experience.
Try not to dwell on it all the time, even though it will pop up in your mind from time to time. I had the same feeling as you. that I could not function but somehow I did and I survived.Let me tell you that you will to.

Answer 7

First, u have to come to the reliazation that it is indeed over. Be honest with yourself and gather all the pieces. Next, have an all 'girlfriends day' party. Be happy with yourself and tell yourself that there is still someone there for you. You didnt make a mistake with your ex, you just removed a non-possibility of your MAN. Plus you really need to get on with your regular life, it is so not the end of the world.

Answer 8

Just give it time...that's the only way you'll feel better. Don't listen to some of the posts that tell you to flirt with alot of people, that's a huge mistake. If you want to flirt then flirt but don't do it in order to get over your ex, you'll end up becoming dependent on 'love' and sooner or later you won't be able to function with out it...I've seen it happen to friends. Try to keep yourself occupied, concentrate alot of your favorite hobbies and friends, but most importantly just wait for it to go away and don't go crazy... it'll fade away trust me

Answer 9

Spend time with friends and family. Go out and have fun. Go do the things you have been wanting to do but can't. Meet new people. Basically do what you cn to not think about it and in time the pain will slowly go away. And then you might meet someone new and you will totally be over it.

Answer 10

I know exactly what you're going through. My ex broke up with me after a two year relationship earlier this year, and I'm still not over him. He was my first with everything, and I still very much care for him. But with every break up it will just take time, and nothing but time. I hope you can get through this! Just see it this way, it's that persons loss.