I want to make nice gesture, but don't want to give her reason to be mad at me if I don't read her mind and do something she expects. That happens enough already.
2007-08-14 05:08:48 · 23 answers · asked by nonickname 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do it because it is what you want to do. If you do it on a regular basis, it's easy for someone to come to expect anything at that point...so make it an occasional "just because" thing.
As for mind reading, I've never understood why some chicks think guys should have that ability. She needs to wake up and get real on that one.
Nice gesture though dude...hope she likes 'em. ☺
2007-08-14 05:12:53 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'd set a reminder every 3rd or 4th month to buy some flowers for her. When the reminder pops up, think about it and if your hear reinforces the feeling, then go for it. But don't do it on a regular basis or too often - that kills the joy after a while and gets expensive. Go to proflowers.com if I may recommend a service....their flowers are beautiful, the bouquets are varied and you can do it randomly without spending an arm and a leg.
2007-08-14 05:15:48 · answer #2 · answered by Maya's Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol she would appreciate it. The thing is, for me anyway, I only want my husband to do it when he thinks to and it comes from the heart. Having said that---I wouldn't want it to become routine. I like it to be a spontaneous and honest gesture. You should be able to talk to her about it at a time when you are communicating really well etc.
We made some promises when we got married and only now--21 yrs later---are some of the things we have invested in each other coming to fruition. For instance, a few years ago, my husband began to ask if I needed anything while he was up or out. I was really touched by this--especially after he was very consistent about it. Then, I began doing the same thing for him. It has brought us new respect and love for each other. There is something very loving about trying to anticipate another person's needs.
p.s. during that good communicating time---talk to her about the things on your mind. Not when you both are upset--that's the worst time. Tell her u want to please her but don't always know what she wants. Ask her to tell you. It's a very common thing. Women seem to ALWAYS expect men to read their minds---not sure why or where that came from. I never learned that---I let him know when our anniversary is coming or my birthday--by writing it on the calendar. A few weeks ahead of time and in giant letters. BTW u should show her this--that u asked this question.
GOOD LUCK!!
2007-08-14 05:37:14 · answer #3 · answered by a_redhead1979 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will always appreciate it! I think that if you start to get her flowers every Friday and then you stop, she will wonder if everything is okay. But anyone that is worth giving flowers to should be a person that is happy with or without. Gifts like flowers are a way of saying "I was thinking about you" just like when you get someone their favorite candy bar. So get her the flowers!
2007-08-14 05:19:16 · answer #4 · answered by Katharine A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it all depends on how long you've been together and if you've ever gotten her something for no reason before.
My ex sent me flowers (after never doing it before in two years) and I KNEW he had cheated on me (I was right)
My husband now is always buying me little things for no reason so I wouldn't wonder about a thing if he just did it.
If you've never done this before... try sending a card that says "I know I haven't done this before but I'm trying to change and start to show you more how much I love you."
2007-08-14 05:18:38 · answer #5 · answered by Spring 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your intentions are twisted. If you loved her and wanted to do something nice for her, it wouldnt come with strings attached. And it certainly wouldnt be with the condition that she better not expect you to be thoughtful all the time.
Maybe theres a reason you already have this problem with her. Sounds like you're pretty selfish.
Love is about the other person. If you love her, you'd do whatever you could think of for her, no matter what. You wouldnt care how it effected you because you want her to feel loved.
You gotta give love to get it.
2007-08-14 05:13:59 · answer #6 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She will appreciate it and she should be able to expect certain things from you. It doesn't always have to be flowers, but nice gestures should be given on a regular basis. Of course you should be able to expect the same from her.
2007-08-14 05:13:17 · answer #7 · answered by mafiosu 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its more important on mother's day for the kids to show their love, their home made gifts,ect but the spouse should show a little love to for being a great mom to their kids, if in fact she is. Doesn't mean it has to be presents, in my case anyway. Just let me not do housework,etc. I dont celebrate Vday as that is what I view our anniversary to be. Vday means nothing to me and birthdays are a separate issue. On father's day I do my best to do special things for my husband,too for being a great provider, awesome husband and why not??
2016-03-16 23:20:41 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that she would appreciate it! If she doesn't something is wrong! I think she would only come to expect it if every friday you bought them for her and then one friday you didn't. Do it because you want to show her how much you love her and for no reason at all. (Not because you did something wrong) then she will expect it.
2007-08-14 06:28:47 · answer #9 · answered by Johanna K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a very sweet gesture. The sweetest thing my boyfriend ever did was pick a flower in the park we were walking in and gave it to me. I didn't even know he picked it. It meant more to me than having a dozen roses sent to the office!
2007-08-14 05:13:54 · answer #10 · answered by dinny's engaged!! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋