I just asked a really vain question earlier about what attracts a guy to a girl and the responses were typical

Question

I want to know what do guys think.
I only say what I am assuming they think.
Beauty for me is my worst quality because it does not allow an individual to see things from a realistic point-of-view.
I think that I am funny, but sometimes I piss people off and I regret it later.
I am attracted to all the wrong guys and I never met a nice guy that holds my interest for more than a day.
Nice guys just seem all wrong; what's wrong with me?

Answer 1

First off, never assume. Theres an odd addive that is " when you assume, you make an *** out of U and ME". Never assume anything unless you know the person very, very, very well.

Beauty does often cause someones perception to become askew, but it doesn't wholly prevent it. Anyone can have a clear perception if they lend the thought to it, not matter how pretty.

There is a big thing about humor that most don't understand, is that when you voice a joke, your telling it for other people to enjoy, not yourself. If you come up with a joke for yourself, leave it in your head and enjoy it, unless you really think others will enjoy it. Also, you have to know your audience and who your making fun of (so to say). I had a friend once that didn't care that I made fat jokes about it, so long as I never made fun of his heritage (he was latino). And I did, I'd drop fat jokes on him all day long and he didn't care. The once I forgot and made fun of him being latino, he almost decked me. It's important to know your anudeince.

As for the guys...keep looking. There are lots of guys out there nice and wrong, sometimes both. I would only suggest that you make a little more of an effort. By what I can read into this (although very little, it is all I have that I know about you), you seem to drop a guy the second you get bored with him. Give them a little more time and the benefit of the doubt. Things are not always going to be interesting in a relationship. I know, I've been with the same girl for six years, and it can, at times, be downright boring. But I still love her and stick by her, because she does still hold my interest from time to time.

The only thing wrong with you is that you are a human, and humans have these problems. Don't worry about it too much.

Answer 2

I didn't see your earlier question. I'll try to answer it now. First off, I never describe any woman as beautiful at first. They can be physically attractive, but beauty comes from inside. It takes time to see if a woman is truly beautiful. What I notice first on a woman is her over all look. Does she look nice, fit, clean, well dressed etc. Then I look for personality. Do they smile a lot, do they have that spark in their eye, are they intelligent.
24 years ago, I found my true love. I first heard her laugh in a crowded room. Her laughter had a "lilt" to it that drew my attention. I worked around until I spotted her. She was very attractive, and drew my attention right away. I arranged it so I could be near her and made small talk. I knew right away she was special. We found a mutual attraction, became friends over a couple of months, then best friends over the next year, then we became lovers and a year later we married. So, I guess my advice to you would be start slow, don't rush into a relationship like so many people seem to do. It rarely works out for the long run. Let things build, learn if the person is shallow, or truly for real, whether or not your compatible for the long haul, or is it just a "fling". What attracts one guy, may mean nothing to another. There is no generic answer. I can say that what puts a guy off for a relationship is a scroungy look, poor hygiene, attitudes,no drive, no future plans or goals, " I just wanna get married and have kids" makes most guys run. We want a partner, a friend, a confidant, and an equal. Someone willing to help build a future with. If they are in your face and wanting sex right off, they are looking for a booty call, not a relationship.
Hope this helped answer your question.

Answer 3

well first off u r beautiful inside thats all that matters. most girls wouldn't have the courage to say something like that but u did. and second maybe ur just seeking a thrill. run with it for a while. but if it gets u in trouble then stop. you'll never know till u try. third i know how u feel. i tend to make people made and ticked at me but u just have to remember think before u say. if a nice guy doesnt interest u first try to make ur self like him if u dont keep looking. there's only one soul mate out there in the world for u and u have to find him.

Answer 4

it actual relies upon on the lady, no longer particularly everyone needs a brilliant skinny guy. i understand it sounds cliche yet character particularly is extra significant, for sure there must be some charm yet whilst a guy is a sprint obese it does not make him repulsive. i understand 3 adult adult males that are a sprint extra advantageous yet they're additionally beautiful and particularly large.

Answer 5

im sure there is nothing wrong w/ you. you are concentrating on "having a boyfriend" too much, when you should just have fun. say what's on your mind, but be careful, don't insult people- but be yourself. guys like a real girl, regardless of anything else. they never like fake ladies.
just have fun, be yourself and i guarantee you'll meet a really nice guy.

Answer 6

Well, I may have answered that question. I think it all depends on your age. And sometimes it is a different age that attracts the person depending on their present need.

Answer 7

It's all in the genetics, and that freud dude mentioned sojmething about people that you grew up with being imprinted into your attration scale. It's all bull if you ask me..nothings wrong with you.

Answer 8

Chemicals in the brain cause you to be attracted to someone....

Answer 9

You are irrational and have screwed up values.