She is currently married but has been seperated for over 2 years....
the marriage lasted 8 DAYS, wasnt consimated, she fell ill on honeymoon and was left to suffer while "he" went sightseeing..
when they got back she was rushed to hospital where she almost died due to lack of care.
the marriage couldnt be annulled in our stupid state of sc
we met over a year ago and soon started dating... and have been madly in love ever since.
we have talked marriage many a time and that is what we both want...
PROBLEM IS... her parents are VERY CONSERVATIVE..
the fact she was dating while still technically married would probably cause them to NEVER give me a chance
due to this when i meet them later this month (as divorce will be FINAL) they are to be told we have been good friends and been hanging out for over a year but no that we were offical then.
Due to this and the fact she expects me to ask her father for his blessing my plans of asking on her birthday in feb are slim to nill
2007-08-14 04:42:00 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
is there anything we can do to hasten the process, or do you think that is enough time for a blessing. (what they know not what is actual)
should we risk telling the whole truth
do you see that causing a problem if we do.
what should we do?
2007-08-14 04:43:20 · update #1
Its really hard to know the woman you LOVE more than anything is SO close to being yours forever and letting something stand between it.
any advice on the situation,
thoughts on what to do and how to handle this,
or ways to make this easier and less drama filled for everyone would be GREATLY APPRICIATED...
thank you
2007-08-14 04:45:20 · update #2
I think, as adults, it is ridiculous to lie about your relationship, especially since they may be able to tell when they meet you.
You should be honest with them and straightforward.
If you both are over 18 they have NO power over both of you or your plans to be together.
2007-08-14 04:59:06 · answer #1 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax. If you have been dating this long, a couple more months won't make any difference. What she tells her parents is up to her, they are her parents. You can wait another 3 - 6 months and then ask the blessing. If she is the right one for you, there is no rush because she isn't going anywhere. There is no expiration date on a life long partnership. So take a deep breath, meet her parents and let them get to know you. Hang on for a couple more months and it will be okay.
2007-08-14 04:53:13 · answer #2 · answered by Christina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me and my hubby did not tell people how long we where seeing each other as well but after we were married we found that people where mad cause they had in there head that we rush things so we told the truth and it was ok. Now we have been together for 71/2 years. I learned if they like u they will like u if they don't there nothing u can to to make them and if u are happy it dose not matter what they think cause it will not change anything. good luck
2007-08-14 05:06:09 · answer #3 · answered by sparkelita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW, sounds like your gf is pretty immature...if she's old enough to get married she's old enough to tell her parents she has been dating you for over a year. What will they say??? Probably nothing, it wasn't like she was truely married and she was having an affair. Why pretend the truth will come out sooner or later why not just spill the beans and move forward.
2007-08-14 04:59:01 · answer #4 · answered by Steven's Mommy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may have big problems on your hands they are going to demand they know how long you two have been together and once they find out you've both lied oh my, but they will get over it. If you lie to them now the truth is only going to come out later anyway and again they'll be upset .... best luck to you and whatever you decide.... Either way they'll get over it they have to they can't pounder on things forever it shuts down other things to pounder on....
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2016-10-10 05:13:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as she is living her life by her parents rules, there is nothing that you can do.
2007-08-14 05:13:59 · answer #7 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
patience you have the rest of your life with her
2007-08-14 04:52:18 · answer #8 · answered by kassy albano 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2007-08-14 04:48:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋