2007-08-14 04:39:59 · 11 answers · asked by Sexy lady 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ugh, I hate that...I think that should be rephrased to the following:
"do you think its right a husband should always put his mother before you??"
There is something to be said for men who revere their family and always takes care of them. That is what attracts us girls to them in the first place...but then they can't let this go once they marry and make a family of their own. I am beginning to wonder if it is us women who expect too much too soon?
I mean, here we are ready to start a new family with them because that is waht we have been taught to do from day one. Men on the other hand have been taught to be the provider and protector, so when they are good at that with their families before us, how do we expect them to stop that once they marry us??
I totally know how you feel, and ideally they should put their new family before their old one. I seriously think its something we have to teach our your sons to do, because the mothers of our husbands are not so forthcoming in the "letting go" department!
2007-08-14 04:55:41 · answer #1 · answered by SisterSue 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No ma'am that is not right at all. Marriage is a bond between two people that are in love and want to start living their lives together forever. You are his family now and he has to be a man and take care of his wife and children. If you dont have any children its still the same thing. He has you as his new life now. If he loves you he'll come to realize that you will always be first in his life and his family is just going to have to let him go and be husband because that is the decision he made and he chose you to spend the rest of his life with.
2007-08-14 07:21:09 · answer #2 · answered by diana c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, YOU are the family to go first. The 2 shall become 1. Any spouse, whether husband or wife, who puts their friends, family, pets, anyone "before" their spouse, is bringing unhealthy, destructive behavior that could damage the relationship.
Be sure to be gentle and reassuring of your love and need for him when you communicate this to him.
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2007-08-14 04:56:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
does not sound like an extremely healthful relationship. "putting him out" is in actuality saying you are able to't tolerate him to any extent further, which you do no longer choose him there anymore. This guy ought to study to stand on his very own 2 ft and shop your arguments between yourselves (and not his kin). Did he have nowhere else to pass possibly? I had a boyfriend as quickly as that used to take all our usiness to debate together with his acquaintances; I lost admire for him which resulted interior the death of our relationship. That social community he has joined sounds like he's finding around for somebody else besides. i think of you'll be able to desire to do some soul finding to bear in mind what attracted you to him interior the 1st place; regardless of if that's now no longer there then he has possibly lost it. possibly ask him how lots he desires to stay interior the marriage; does sound like he has lost pastime. If he can not commit to putting you extensive variety a million then there does not look lots think approximately persevering with, as you heavily isn't happy.
2016-11-12 07:32:15 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, when you get married, the two of you become one. Family is important, but your spouse should come first.
2007-08-14 04:46:11 · answer #5 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU are his family. If he is a Christian, remind him that God said a man LEAVES his mommy and his daddy and cleaves unto his wife so that two become as one. And mommy and daddy , if they claim to be Christian, better know God forbids people to lead other people into sin.
Other than that, you married a guy who is immature and you probably knew it before you married him.
2007-08-14 05:12:51 · answer #6 · answered by Winnie 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he is my husband, then I am his family. He choose me, he was born to them.
2007-08-14 04:47:09 · answer #7 · answered by angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His children and you and then his family
2007-08-14 04:51:07 · answer #8 · answered by Spring 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO WAY. Once he is married YOU and your kids whenever you have any should ALWAYS come first.
2007-08-14 05:02:07 · answer #9 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way. You and him are suppose to be one. According to the scriputres he is suppose to love you as he loves his own flesh.
CUT THE CORD HUBBY!
2007-08-14 04:51:37 · answer #10 · answered by Sassy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋