they have a play station 2 game and when the young wants to play the 14 year old has a roblem with it i cant afford to buy 2 of the game so they have to share. the 14 year old one has a learning disability his age might be 14 but he sure acts alot younger sometimes my 7 year old one acts better then the other one. he has been checked out by the school and that is why we know this about the older one.i have tried time limit but the younger one seems to want the older one up there at times.what would you do???????????
2007-08-14 04:14:00 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
just make them take turns is not that hard, if not buy them wll and have 2 contorls so they can play toghtoer and they will have fun10
2007-08-18 03:44:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You set time limits. Say the 7 year old gets to play between 6 and 7 and the 14 year old gets to play between 7 and 8. They can be in the same room together but they just can't play at the same time. If they want to play a game together then that time they play say it is 30 minutes would be split up between the 2. 15 minutes of each times will be used so each one would have 45 min to play by them selves. I understand what you are saying about your older one but I don't think it makes any difference because I have a 16 and 8 year old and they do this also and there are not any disabilities. I wouldn't try to keep them seperated though unless there are chores or homework the other one has to do. They need to learn to respect each others time and learn to share. This doesn't only make your house hold better but will also teach them lessons for when they get out on there own. They will use these skills to deal with the public and co-workers.
2007-08-14 11:23:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have similar age boys with the same game prob. i base time on thier actions and sportsmanship. the object of this is to teach them not to act selfishly and give up the game easily and quickly when thier turn is up,this will help them as they grow older too and for the last 3 yrs since i started this it has worked great. dont stop the older one from helping when nessesary and try to get the younger to not ask for help as much and to play the best he can, also dont let the non-player sit and watch as the player plays, make him do or play with something else as this should cause less impatience while waiting
this has worked for me, try it and be firm when you set the rules.
2007-08-14 11:29:40 · answer #3 · answered by aka. Bill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i didnt understand the second last line where you said "i have tried time limit but the younger one seems to want the older one up there at times" but i would keep trying with the time limit thing, let each one of them play for half an hour, then they can take a rest while the other plays it!!, if that doesnt work you can threaten to take it away!
2007-08-14 11:21:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
16 and 12 same problem. If mine cant share without the fuss I cut it off and take the remotes. I am not gonna listen to fuss about a game. I tell mine that if that game cause them to act that way toward each other they don't need to play. They get mad but next time they get the remote their is no fuss for a little while any way.
2007-08-14 11:21:34 · answer #5 · answered by Jen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give them each 9 tokens good for an hour each. One hour max on Monday to Thursday. If they argue and both want the same time, auction the hour to the highest token bidder. They will realize quickly that it is in their best interest to work it out when they run out of tokens before the week is over...
2007-08-17 12:49:14 · answer #6 · answered by Trey S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple if they can't share take it away. Take it away from both of them for 2 weeks. I bet they will learn really quick how to share and share nicely. And when you do give it back to them, set time limits so they are forced to share. After not being able to play for 2 weeks they will be much more likely to share nicely.
2007-08-14 11:22:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's typical of children to be a bit selfish when it comes to their toys whether or not they have a learning disability. If I were you, I would put my foot down and set time limits and be the referee. This would be a good time to teach your boys about sharing and fairness and you can explain that to them.
2007-08-14 11:22:57 · answer #8 · answered by WilmaF 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
during the school year, my mom limits me and my little brother (8) to weekends ONLY when it comes to vid games.
also, you can make a chart of who is on when. give them time allowences for how long they can play a piece. (ex-5 hours a day. you can do rollover but theyll have to pay for it later)
also, try getting more 2-player games. that way they can play together.
(they can also rock-paper-sissors for it, that always works with me and my bro. its very final)
2007-08-14 11:23:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll have to either one, find a multiplayer game so that they can both play at once, or two, find something else for one of them to do. If you have a computer, one of them could be playing PC games instead. Otherwise, they could be reading or playing outside or whatever.
2007-08-14 11:20:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋