Why do men who have fathered children in a marriage or not in a marriage thinks they can get away with supporting their children it makes my blood boil. But if a woman decided to leave her children the father would be hell bent on getting money from her!!! I have decided my children and i are better off without my so called childrens dad!!
2007-08-14 02:54:22 · 12 answers · asked by sexiebum 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Does anybody have any ideas to get more sleep? I have 3 children 5,4,2 and a half and i am pregnant again with my new partner he's more of a father then my childrens real dad and i dont want this to happen. How can i get more sleep/rest? is there vitamins i can have? If i stopped access am i legally allowed to?
2007-08-14 03:05:13 · update #1
The funny thing is i personally used contraception with every single child!!! My new partner and i are engaged to get married
2007-08-14 03:07:21 · update #2
Are you asking why men think they don't have to support their children? Men are a very interesting creature. I will never understand why someone man or woman would not want to be their for there children, to watch them grow, to see them through school or problems in life and to help support them in any way whether it be emotional or monetarily. I also think it is about the way you approach them about things. If you demand money and things for the children they are more likely to fight you on it, but if you say hey let's work together to give our children a good life they tend to work harder at it.
I am on the other end . . . I have a step-daughter and she lives with us and we had a hard time getting her mother to help pay for anything. We didn't demand it. We simply asked when she started preschool for her to help pay half and she refused to give my husband a dime. We had to take her to court to get it ordered and she still had a problem paying on time. Our daughter is now 7 and things seem to be calming down a bit, but I understand your position. It is hard for people to realize when they take on the responsibility of a child it is just that . . . their child and they should WANT to help in any way! It shouldn't be a chore or a possession thing or something you try to NOT have to deal with. It should be your desire to do you best by your children. Maybe some people are just selfish or maybe it is they way they were raised. I don't know for sure, but I wouldn't put it off on a man or woman thing because I strongly believe that there are just as many women who don't want to pay as there are men.
P.S. As far as the sleep thing goes . . . I have two girls and I am also pregnant. Are your children on a routine or schedule? It's hard sometimes to take some time for yourself, but if your children are on a good schedule and you can put them to bed and make sure you have some sit down time and relaxation whether it be by yourself or with you partner, things in life will calm down and you will realize what things you can let slip and what thing need to be done. Don't run yourself to death. Your children need you and your little one inside will grow strong and healthy. Remember to take time for yourself. Take a hot bath(not too hot for the baby's sake), but you know just relax, read a book. Take a time out! And try not to stress about the ex thing . . . If your partner is good to them then so be it. Children need some stability in their life and if they get it from him, then their father is the one losing out! Things will work out!
2007-08-14 03:14:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to court and try and get the support. At least have it court ordered. I know a guy who didn't pay all the way til his daughter was 18, it hung over his head that long, he worked jobs under the table to keep from paying. Well now he is paying, even though she is in her 20's now, he is still paying the back child support to his x wife and her. Because the state takes it out of the dad's paycheck if he has a legitimate job. He finally got tired of living like the bum that he is and got a regular job. Don't give up, go for the support.
2007-08-14 10:15:41 · answer #2 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That happened to me with my first marriage. I had three children when he left, and I never got a penny from him. He left a great-paying job and started getting jobs that paid cash. He also disappeared for a year and nobody knew where he was. That's as low as they come. Today, he doesn't understand why his grownup children have no respect for him. By the way, I remarried years later and have the best man a girl could ever have. Life is full of surprises!!
2007-08-14 10:07:44 · answer #3 · answered by The pink panther 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life has always been hard for women.
thats why we get this incredible diehard strength
My personal belief is that men should be praising God everyday for such beautiful creatures as women
their not just beautiful on the outside but have such spiritual and emotional capacity.
What ever happens to you stay beautiful inside.
Children stay, and they don't forget when they have been loved,
I've lived along time and seen men come and go but my children are my best friends and real family.
We're tight and thats cool.
2007-08-14 10:09:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are unpredictable, you have some and you loose some. You should not fret about them rather your consolation should be in your children, thou they are both for you but they would rather be with their mom than with any one else. Take care of yourself, the new baby and your new found love, that is most important. Let him go, he will reggret it soon and b\come rushing over later in life when you and the kids would have no need for him any longer. All the best.
2007-08-14 10:56:00 · answer #5 · answered by nelly G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband pays child support....faithfully....even our bills will go unpaid so that he can pay this. Every other weekend the kids show up here needing something....this week, school supplies.....3 kids x 75.00 = $225.00 one also needed medication....$65.00....another one needed shoes, the soles were gone....$45.00....= $335.00 extra. The mother had gone to a concert, she is 45, she had bought herself a new wardrobe, she had her hair done, and she took her boyfriend to an expensive restaurant, this is where the child support went. What I want to know is why this woman is allowed to have these kids. There are many different situations in this world, it is not only the men who are jerks, I think it is pretty well rounded out.
2007-08-14 10:03:31 · answer #6 · answered by Kaboom 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree. My sons biological father has made 2 payments to me. in over 3 years. For awhile I didnt care bc I got married and me and my husband were doing fine raising my son. Just recently ive been hell bent on getting my support, not for me but for my son. things are getting hard for us and that extra $233 a month really would help. But yeah, he's a POS who wants to make babies but not take care of them. he'd rather be out doing drugs and getting arrested. he says he wont pay "bc i wont let him see my son". but who would when he's on drugs all the time?? i have my priorities straight, he doesnt.
2007-08-14 10:18:15 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Tessa♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't no why some of these type guys think it's not their responsibility to support their own children. It's frustrating I know. My girlfriend's son's father is the same way, he actually thought that I should be supporting his son.......How did he ever figure that. I didn't have a problem with all of us (my girlfriend, her son, myself) living together.......it would've been nice for his father to provide financial support.
2007-08-14 10:06:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men are the scum of the earth and dont deserve all the love a little child can give them. Its his loss anyway! There is nothing better in the world than to have your child look up at you and say "mommy, i love you"
2007-08-14 10:02:06 · answer #9 · answered by mable3691214 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No explanation for men, they are what they are. They don't have the instinct to mother. They are a breed all to them self.
As for sleeping I can help, yes there is something that you can take all natural and safe, it's called Melatonin works great!!!!!!
2007-08-14 10:11:37 · answer #10 · answered by Diane T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋