They are no longer that daughter that use to talk to you, like to be around you. It is like they are a total stranger. When do they become normal again? What can I do?
2007-08-14 01:20:28 · 7 answers · asked by MOs fishin 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Its called being a cool teenager, lol. She'll come around probably in about 6 - 10 years... It took me less time but its hard growing up and discovering who you are! Just be the Dad you always were.
2007-08-14 09:17:11 · answer #1 · answered by fullofsugaw 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They start to acheive semi-normality around 16.
At 13 to 14 young females are trying desparately to assert their personalities and independence while at the same time trying to fit in. It is the most confusing time of their lives and that comes out in a lot of ways. Sometimes they are distant, sometimes overly emotional.
All of a sudden they have to face their budding sexuality, they have to decide where they belong in a very judgemental society, and they are bomb barded by the media with images that they can never live up to which just makes everything harder.
All you can do is keep the lines of acceptance and love open. Make sure she know that you love her just the way she is, no matter what that way is. Try to implement some "casual" conversation times just in case she needs an opportunity to share. I used and still use, "let's go have a coffee" where we go to a quiet little coffee shop, often folowed by a shopping expedition to one or two thrift shops to "treasure hunt".
Ice cream or walks work as well, just make sure it is not a pressure situation.
2007-08-14 09:50:02 · answer #2 · answered by Rebecca W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hormones cause the change. She's also stretching her wings. You knew this would happen one day, didn't you? I know it's hard when you see your child become some alien. Keep the love and respect there, don't let her show disrespect. Discipline with love when discipline is needed. A few more years and she'll mature and can look back on the relationship with you, she'll be grateful and even she won't believe some of the things she did or said.
2007-08-14 09:05:55 · answer #3 · answered by Lady G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think back to when you were 14, just becoming self aware with all the changes that puberty brings and being so confused about them and the world around us, our parents just aren't the people we looked up to as perfect when we were little.
She is becoming a woman and she needs some space to be able to figure out what that means to her, she just isn't your little girl anymore and treating her as such will only be met with resentment.
2007-08-14 08:43:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are very good answers here
I was 14 once my self
2007-08-14 10:48:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they want their independence and right now, parents are just the essence of uncool. it gets better though. just let her grow up and be herself! =)
2007-08-14 08:33:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anachronism 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she will come round -- she is a teenager.... shes just not a little girl anymore
2007-08-14 08:27:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋