I was taking my usual morning walk with my wife priya, when she said she would like to sit for a while. I thought she was tired. she took my hand in her hand and told me that she loves me a lot and that she can do anything for me. she said she would like to confess something…my heart started pounding hard…I didn’t know what was coming…then she said that she had a one night stand with one of his friend’s husband and that she has been feeling very guilty since then. she said this would never happen again. I got a terrible shock of my life…couldn’t move even. she was talking to me and I became totally blank. For 7 days I was just bed-ridden…couldn’t eat, think and move.Priya took care of me…he didn’t go to work…and kept on telling me that she has always loved and respected me a lot and that he will always be loyal to me. I started having a lot of negative feelings for her and could only think of going out of the relationship. what shuld i do?
2007-08-13 23:47:56 · 7 answers · asked by aashu1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
be happy that she isn't leaving you...
forgive and forget... if you really want to know WHY she did it, ask her... what was it about him that made her stray...
but if you love her, forgive and forget... start fresh...
2007-08-13 23:56:27 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What happen next really depends on how you feel about it. I guess there is ONLY two ways.
1) You forgive her and accept her apolgy.
2) Do not forgive her and severe the relationship and move on with your life.
1) if you accept her, then you should let what ever passes be history and never to repeat again or even mentioned about it. If she is true to her words, then you will have a blissful marraige. This always happen after a couple goes through rough time. Or if not hell break lose and you will be hurt for a long long time...
2) If you severe the relationship now.because you do niot r=trust her anymore. Then the pain and hurt will be much lesser. The guilt is upon her to shoulder and she has jsut committed something sacred in marraige which she jolly well are not to be broken. What can stop her from repeating again those mistake?. Not you but only herself. No one knows if she did not own up...
Neverthess which path you choose, will depend on your character, personality which allow you to accept her mistake or not.
take care..
2007-08-14 08:35:47 · answer #2 · answered by trymejames 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i truly feel your pain. if ever that would happen to me, maybe i would feel the same... i might literally die... what your wife did is a breach of trust and a breach of your vow to commit only to each other. yes, it might just be a one night stand but what happened is that she had given him something that is due only to you alone because you are her husband. i know she did confess to you but she has broken something inside of you. she might have broken your spirit thats why you feel so sick. its a very dark moment in your life and i will hope that you are strong enough to get up again. try to examine yourself if you truly love your wife and if you can really forgive her. i know what will bother you is that if she might do it again. its a matter of gaining again your trust. try to talk it out with her and tell her the truth of how she had hurt you. listen to her side and then try to really know if you want to move on your life with her...
2007-08-14 07:25:49 · answer #3 · answered by brazenlove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you were in bed for 7 days?did you have a stroke?what a trickster.
your wife,like all women are cunning.she will do it again...but will not confess to you again.
2007-08-14 10:00:27 · answer #4 · answered by 2u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you like being cheated on? Dump the b****!!! Shes not worth it, ask how guilty she was feeling when they were getting it on! once a cheater , always a cheater.
2007-08-14 06:54:00 · answer #5 · answered by Its been a while............. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is silly, either get over it or get rid of her, I vote the latter!
2007-08-14 07:17:25 · answer #6 · answered by want2flybye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when in doubt, punt
2007-08-14 06:54:21 · answer #7 · answered by prop4u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋