How to concentrate on studies?

Question

I am 15 and I am getting many distractions. Mainly I keep thinking of my bf though we are together for past one year. I feel lazy after the holidays. I think a lot on sex also which i never did before. I am worried. My dream is to get a PHD in Social Science like my dad. My bf also wants to become an Engineer and dreams for a BIG living. We both want to really do good in studies for our future. But getting distructed more. How to come out? Please help.

My Indian friend says, meditation for 5 mins before studies will help. Can I do it at my age? Will it really help me?

My bf visits us very often because he is all alone at home. And we do not have any intension for a sex FOR SURE. We know our limits and my parents also know us better. They allow us to go alone and be alone at home too. We keep up the trust that we have earned.

Laxmipyare are you an Indian too? Couse my Indian friend did an exactly same advise. LOL. I like your answer.

Answer 1

Sex-thoughts are the greatest distractions of any individual. Pray God. He may help you. Read books written by Saints. Eat simple food. Do fasting on important religious days. Meditate on the idea that the physical body is only a perishable covering on the Soul and that sex is only a passing fad, and that sex takes away your peace of mind.

Answer 2

I know at that age having a boyfriend can distract you. You have to remember though, school is the most important thing. I'm sure you care very much for your boyfriend and vice versa, but you have to put school first.

You said you want a PHD in Social Science. That is a great goal and you should have that on your mind. When there's a test to study for, think of achieving your goal. Think about how proud you will be of yourself. How proud your bf would be of you. How proud your family would be.

Without setting your goal and really striving for it, you may not get that BIG living you are wanting. Always remember too - now or for the future - that if your boyfriend can't wait, he's not worth it. Good luck! :)

Answer 3

if you are trying to concentrate on your studies, basically every one has a different studying teechnique. so here are three tips that will help you: 1.) create a calm and nutural work space in your bedroom. 2.) try and take breaks often. and 3.) when your working, make it clear no-one is to come in, including your bf. because the distraction is only there if you can see it. if you intend to get a PHD then you need to push everything behind you, and clear your mind of any other thoughts. in this situation meditation isn't the best solution, as it takes an awful lot of concentration. it would be better to lay on your back, close your eyes, and go to a place devoid of thought. then once your at your place, then you can get back up and continue your studies. as long as your mindset doesn't slip, this will get you through.

Answer 4

Try and sort something out thats best for the both of you. I'm not saying never speak until you have your degree but maybe meet for one hour every night or just 3 days per week?
Definately don't deprive yourself of him though because he will be all you can think about while studying. See each other enough to keep satisfied but enough to still have a good amount of time for studies.

Hope this helps. Good luck with your PHD. :)

Answer 5

you r 15( mid teen).. in this age you should not divert your mind from studies... because this is the period where you can shape your future... having a bf in this age is not advisable.. better make a very close girl friend in school so that you are never alone which helps you to avoid such unneccesary thoughts... very important is to select a good friend such that she is not having any affairs so that you both can effectively utilise your time in studying... Then in home dont hide any thing from your mother.. always treat her as your friend and share your daily happenings.. work towards your goal... you can do all the other things after completing your studies.... GOOD LUCK

Answer 6

5 minutes is a bit short, I'd say 20 minutes is a good time for meditation.

Good luck on your PhD, though I think the world needs more Positive Psychology majors. :-)

Answer 7

Hi! Im netshie and i think i could give you good answer.
Im 18 year old, mom of one.. If you notice im too young to be a mom right, because maaga ako na-inlove eh! so ayun nagkababy kagad w/o thinking on what will be our future..
darling never forget your bf, but never never forget na bata pa ren kayo at dapat studies muna.
i wont say na wag kayong magsex,pero nasa inyo yun basta 'wag lang maadict huh!!

sige,goodluck senyO..
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