Lately my boss has been making remarks which seem more sexual in nature. The other time he remarked how he had not been getting sex from his wife since she got pregnant. He also joked about how I was trying to seduce the female colleagues / clients by bending over (I was arranging some items) and showing them my "tight ar*e" - his words. He also confided in me that he's so horny for sex he wouldn't mind having a fling regardless of that person's sex and do I know anyone up for that.
I'm confused ... our relationship has always been friendly ... but my boss can be a prat at times and I often engage in exchange of arguments / insults / sarcastic remarks (although purely on a joking level). Otherwise, we have an okay professional relationship.
Don't get me wrong ... my boss is quite handsome and desirable. I'd date him in a minute if I'd met him in other circumstances. I just worry that there might be repercussions in dating my boss (plus he is married).
2007-08-13 21:28:42 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Sorry I forgot to say that his remarks tend to be very sexual and a few times he's patted me on the butt etc. well you get the idea
2007-08-13 21:35:38 · update #1
Honestly, his wife is pregnant. But if she doesn't mind, that he's bisexual, & would like to see some men once in a while, give it a go.
But that's the most horrible thing you could ever do. His wife would be heart broken and depressed if she didn't approve. Put yourself in her shoes. What would you think?
Best of wishes :D
2007-08-13 22:54:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There would be repercussions if you slept with your boss. He'd use it against you sooner or later and he would make your life a living hell. Don't do it, no matter what. If he flat out asks you, politely decline. It's not easy in this situation and the sad thing is, he could fire you and you'd be pretty helpless. I'd even go so far as to suggest recording him one day, so that if anything did happen, you'd have evidence that he kept confronting you and making suggestions.
Best of luck to you!
2007-08-14 05:03:46 · answer #2 · answered by Zarathustra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's nothing but a sexual advancement from his side. You also reciprocate by keeping silence on his action such "patting on your butt' sexual remarks, etc. What do you feel about it now. It all depends whether you want to date with him irrespective of him married or not. Also you did not mention about you - are you married. If you are married please tell your husband about this. Otherwise also you are the best judge. One thing is clear he is only interested in sexual activities to appease his pleasure nothing else.
2007-08-14 07:12:53 · answer #3 · answered by BLOWHOT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not have sex with my boss. I would not engage in any kind of flirting, sexual innuendos or "out of the office" socials either. Not smart! It can cause a lot of problems.
I never mix business with my personal life.
2007-08-14 08:50:54 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never mix business and pleasure, especially with a married man! You will get grief from him afterwards when he secretly regrets what he has done and has to 'prove' to himself that he is not gay.
You will be in the firing line for hassle, believe me.
Avoid having that type of conversation with him, change the subject if necessary, but whatever you do, don't do it!
2007-08-14 04:35:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've had a lot of good advice thus far but if l can speak from experience.... go with your heart..
if it's just going to be a fling and 'no harm done' and of course you want to, then go for it!
l dated 'my Mother's' (passed away, God rest her) boss and we lived very happily for six years, not bad eh?
no-one knows what or who is around the corner and what lies in store for us.. just do what you feel is right, as everyone knows their own limitations!
Good luck but please note...
do not intentionally hurt anyone nor set yourself up for being hurt!
PS. we were both single when we got together..
2007-08-14 21:37:28 · answer #6 · answered by chelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a relationship with my boss for just under two years - all went well and we broke up amicably when I moved on. We were both single though
2007-08-14 04:32:09 · answer #7 · answered by Tiger01204 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it girl. Married men are bad news plus he is your boss. Even if you date him and perhaps decide to look for work elsewhere, think of how you would feel if someone slept with your own husband!
2007-08-14 04:37:52 · answer #8 · answered by swish 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This guy sounds like a bully and I would stay away from him at all costs as if you give in, you will never be free of his control. He will get more and more controling and dangerous. Once he feels he is in control, the sky will be limit as far as he is concerned.
2007-08-14 05:07:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd definately stay away from the married man...boss/friend/handsome or not. Nothing but trouble there!
2007-08-14 04:33:22 · answer #10 · answered by Zaggy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋