basically my husband and i have been married for 2 years we have one son who is 6 months old and i'm pregnant again. most woman i talk to complain that their husbands do nothing and are horrible to them but i have the opposite problem. my husband works does everything he can for me and our son but its a real turn off.
my husband had helped me gotten out of an abusive relationship and i was so happy to get out but know i feel that i have the husband who cared out that i wanted i miss being treated bad, is that bad? i cheated on my husband and im not sure if the baby im pregnant with is his and if its not his it will be a different color than both of our races. what should i do!?!?
should i wait and hope and see? i always wanted a guy like him but now i almost want to get rid of him and hes just a sissy, be careful what you wish for. should i get out if so how can i get child support does me being pregnant with what might be another guys baby change that at all?
2007-08-13 21:28:32 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are absolutely disgusting. Why would you treat a nice guy like that so badly? You make life miserable for nice girls like me, because we have to pay the price for you treating these nice guys badly!!!
2007-08-13 21:35:41 · answer #1 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are regretting what you wished for. What changed?
There may be a mismatch of what your needs really are and how your husband percieve your needs. And such needs change over time. Perhaps initially, you did need a husband with the caring traits you mentioned. Along the way you may have recovered and become more independent. However, your husband may still be stuck in the past. How is he going to know your needs changed? perhaps it would be a good chance to trash it out with your husband. Who knows? He may be more willing to change than you realise.
Furthermore, you seem to know what you want in a marraige and can articulate it well on the forum. Why not tell it to him? I believe from what you have written i think you can do it.
Secondly, on the note of the affair, i still believe that honesty is the best policy. How long can u bear the burden of secrecy? And after he knows the truth, and has stated what his stand is, it will probably be easier to decide your next course of action as well.
Take care! wish u all the best
2007-08-13 21:41:45 · answer #2 · answered by mentalaxative 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My question is, do you LOVE your husband or not? Would you better be off having no-string sex with random people that your future children have no clues who their fathers are? If all these appeal to you, and is your ideal way of living to the FULLEST (pun intended), then by all means get rid of him. Get an abusive, bad, rotten, horrible, cheating husband that you probably crave for (probably deserves too!). And when he treats you bad, do NOT, I repeat do NOT post your question on YAHOO!!!!
2007-08-13 21:48:41 · answer #3 · answered by joulsey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well Yes it makes a differance. if the baby isnt his and the real father is responsible. Go out get hit and pushed around and maybe the kids will get hurt too. saw that happen last weekend to my neighbor. it was ok untill the kids get hurt. Give your hubby your 6 month old and move out have the baby with the other guy. have fun
2007-08-13 21:34:09 · answer #4 · answered by curious6710 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off all, you should be grateful for finding a man that treats you so well, they are few and far between. you will regret if you leave him because being treated like that is every womans dream, and you have to tell him about the affair because its not fair on him and it will eat you up inside. you will need a parternity test when bub is born, because to get maintenance from him will require proof that the baby is his (and vice versa if it is the other guy)
2007-08-13 21:44:00 · answer #5 · answered by shiftymad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are serious you need to leave this man, you dont deserve him, and go see a psychiatrist, and when you have that baby and its your husbands give that child to him and move on, you dont deserve children either, to say you enjoy abusive relationships your messed up, but your children dont need to grow up in that environment....but until you get help dont have no more kids.....
2007-08-13 22:57:24 · answer #6 · answered by Renee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW now i have heard it all you want to be in an abusive relationship and you cheated o a guy that loves you and does everything for you so that you can be happy. what a JERK you are i hope its not his baby so he can see what kind of person you really are. hope you fine some1 that will kick your *** every night
2007-08-13 22:23:09 · answer #7 · answered by chicanaGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should leave this good husband of yours,and let another woman who appreciates a good man have him.
2007-08-13 23:31:23 · answer #8 · answered by ladyjane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woman like you are the reason a lot of men including me are afraid of commitment. WoW your a classic example of a crazy B*!^#
2007-08-13 21:35:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with your husband when you are on the Jerry Springer show.
2007-08-13 21:35:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋