Morning
I woke to above txt from my partner this morning. All he says it wasn't his name that is all. We haven't been active in the bedroom recently due to me dislocating my arm and generally feeling low. I am annoyed with him as he seems to have forgotten how to do the dishes and fold the clean washing ( thats all I ask him to do in the house) so I guess that is to do with me feeling down too.
The last time I went off sex he accused me of seeing soemone but later admitted it was others he didn't trust, not me.
Am I responsible for who I dream about, bearing in mind I haven't been out without my partner except to the shops for food. So the only guys I see are on the bloody TV!
Should this final straw?
2007-08-13 21:05:06 · 25 answers · asked by angelrose0105 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Finally, he has said it was my ex's name (from over 16 years ago and am not interested in at all). He thinks it was such a slap in the face that he woke upto me being horny like that and saying an ex's name I understand that it wouldnt be nice and hurtful a little bit. But I honestly havent' thought about my ex like that. His ex wife had three affairs so I know he has a trust issue with woman. I don't think I can live like this I don't want to live like this
2007-08-13 22:38:27 · update #1
Hell sweet heart you seem to have been here before you know the answer better than any outsider its make your mindup time
2007-08-13 21:19:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can't help what you dream about. for all he knows you could of been dreaming about bloody david gest lol. dreams are the weirdest thing, you shouldn't let him make you feel like you have been unfaithfull. ask him if he has ever had a saucy dream about a girl he has seen in a lads mag or porno etc, i bet he has. txt him back and say "at least i was lying next to you dreaming and not in the bed of another man"
tell him to get a grip and grow up, you have nothing to feel guilty about.
2007-08-13 21:15:08 · answer #2 · answered by Kelly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him what you just told us! that your just off sex cause your depressed and injered. and remind him that you aint been out without him, and tell him you aint cheating on him. maybe you were having a fantasy dream of some hot singer or tv actor whatever but tell him it didn't mean a damn thing and he is over reacting. and if you have other issues like the house work or whatever have that out with him as well. because you should both be honest and upfront with each other.
so good luck hope it all works out and hopefully you will get thru your issues!
2007-08-13 21:12:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You guys seem to be having issues......you need to talk them out but to your question. You asleep what you dream isnt in your control....talking in your sleep works the same way he shouldent be upset or so insecure. You mind wanders all over in your sleep and can get your body a bit...worked up. Its natural i promise you he has dreamed about otehr women or even looked at them and had bad thoughts awake and im sure that doesent bother you.,......your mind is a powerful tool and sometimes it does what it wants.
2007-08-13 21:11:38 · answer #4 · answered by SS4 Elby 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't control what you dream about. I'm in a committed relationships and sometimes I have dreams of other guys. I actually read in a dream book that betraying someone you love in a dream means you feel you wouldn't betray them. Reassure him about yourself and the way you feel. Let him know other people are other people, but you know yourself and you wouldn't do that to him.
2007-08-13 21:12:40 · answer #5 · answered by mango_kiwi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dreams just express your openness. He feels a strive for attention, he's not completely useless, he can help with a few things to around the house. Ask him how he feels. & him accusing you isn't exactly trust
2007-08-13 21:25:47 · answer #6 · answered by chipmunkriot 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A dream is just a dream. You can't control a dream.
Tell him- he needs to be able to trust you, because without trust - you have nothing.
Maybe you should make alittle more of an effort as well.
It takes two.
2007-08-13 21:09:31 · answer #7 · answered by ... 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You were dreaming, so I don't see an issue. Had you said someone else's name while actually having sex with your husband, I could see him being upset.
So, unless you can control your dreams, he should realize it was just that, a dream.
2007-08-13 21:15:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he sounds very controlling and selfish if you don’t mind me saying, if my partner had a dream about someone else I would honestly gind it funny, I would accuse her of cheating, there only dreams, if all my dreams were to be believed I musy be a raving homosexual!.......wait!
in all seriousness though, you are not to blame, he is overly protective and suspicious, just because someone goes off sex doesn’t mean they are getting it from someone else!!!
has the one that needs to sort himself out!!
good luck!
2007-08-13 21:17:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey that mite be his lil plan since he think u are cheating or others he don't trust, he thinks by making up this story he can get it out of u. like u will tell him sumthing. if he says he doesn;t trust other that is bs he doesn't trust u and thinks u are getting it on with someone else so by making this **** up if u are u mite blabber it out
2007-08-13 21:20:43 · answer #10 · answered by mia d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋