I'm 19 and I have never had a girlfriend. I'm not a shut in, infact i'm pretty active I love to go to concerts as often as posible, and spend a lot of time walking/driveing around the city, so in can't be that i'm just not around to meet girls. I'm realitively smart(not to brag but my I.Q.is about 140) so its not that i'm stupid. I not too picky so its not my standards being too high. I'm funny and I love to spontainiously do crazy things so it's not that i'm boreing. I'm not rich but i'm definatly not poor so that shouldn't be a big deal. I'm your avrage joe when it comes to looks but i'm not going after the beauty queen so I don't think thats the problem(unless women are alot more shallow then I think). (and even if they are that shallow) I'm "gifted" in the nether region so thats definatly not the problem. I'm a very humble person and i'm an all around nice guy too, so I have no idea what I'm doing wrong. Can someone PLEASE tell me what i'm doing wrong.
2007-08-13 19:56:40 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
One piece of advice: Stop looking. From my experience I have found that when I actively look for a girlfriend/pursue romantic interests I have limited success. I have also noticed this with people in general. Whether the person themself thinks it or not, when someone "really wants" a girlfriend, they will usually end up coming off desperate or not fully comfortable with who they are. This as you might expect, is generally unattractive to the opposite sex. So stop worrying about it. Sounds like you have a lot going for you. Be yourself, be confident about who you are as a single man and when you least expect it, someone will come along.
2007-08-13 20:12:47 · answer #1 · answered by outsourcedcircle 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same position as you except that I was an average Jane. I pretty much did all that u mentioned and even attended those gatherings organised for singles to get together. Somehow nobody clicked with me. All those around me were getting married and havind kids and I felt so lousy being left on the shelf. This went on till my late 30s. Then I met an old friend at a friend's party and we just clicked and now we're married. To cut the story short ... your time will definitely come. You're not doin anything wrong. It's just a matter of time. Wish you all the best.
2007-08-13 20:14:06 · answer #2 · answered by Melody 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is not something people can answer on here. There is a huge amount of variations that are all very important
Examples of a few: 1) hygiene? 2) ask women questions to allow them to talk about themselves... don't talk about yourself too much 3) you have to have some spunk, but can't be pushy--it's a balance 4) do you smile, ... and so many more issues that it could be. The best suggestion is having guy friends that you can work with together, to make yourselves more available to women(your wing man, or team of wing men). You can critique each other.
I'm an average guy myself. I don't have women all over me, but I have had girlfriends(long term relationships). I guess I'm saying that you don't have to be a pick-up artist and meet women in bars every weekend, but start chatting up the women you know from friends, your social groups, and so on. Just ask them out. They will either say yes or no. Don't worry about the details of their answer. Yes=go out. No=move on.
2007-08-13 20:11:30 · answer #3 · answered by Nep 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
this is not something you can just "do". if you could... well then I would be married with three kids by now... and I'm 32... so what you're complaining about.... and I'm not looking for the mister stud either... just the average joe would be fine... but it seems all average joes that click with me are either married, taken, far away or not interested.... that happens... a lot it seems. ;-)) I don't think you're doing anything wrong at all. it is a matter of being a bit lucky as well.
2007-08-13 20:02:15 · answer #4 · answered by freebird31wizard 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-12 06:57:56 · answer #5 · answered by kinnu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bingo, says the man....
But his bingo expression not strong enough..
He expresses another hit expression and that bingo too do him no good...
Then he gets a little upset. He gonna make room for options now he says to himself.. With some consideration he let out a soft exclamation but very expressive is the exclamation he utters, " Ok....you little man, you either go on a hell spree of bingo riding which will atleast bring some meaning or you gonna settle down cool and easy and get the feeling of cool easy when it comes..for a real bingo song...."
Now, which is which, my bingo brother....?
2007-08-13 20:23:02 · answer #6 · answered by johan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
19 is still pretty young. What are your friends like? Are you in college, do you have a job? Branch out your social group. And don't be in a rush, it will happen naturally.
2007-08-13 20:49:42 · answer #7 · answered by snoopy l 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
make a list of what you want in a girlfriend then go out and enjoy all the things you like to do. and just do it. Right now for most girls your age might find you to be to safe ( but please don't go out and start acting stupid for a girl.)
2007-08-13 21:08:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do some volunteer work. You will make friends, and friends know other friends...
2007-08-13 20:38:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're looking, stop and you'll find a girl.
2007-08-13 19:59:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋