i used up all my minutes and my mom doesnt know i have a girlfriend...?

Question

okay. well, i used my cellphone a lot to talk to my girlfriend but the thing is im not really allowed to have a girlfriend & i'm am only 15, may sound young but I'm a "mature" type of teen. well i wasted my minutes and the bill came and i surpassed my minutes and the bill was pretty high. i don't want my mom to know i was talking to my girlfriend, or thats it for my cellphone the only contact with my girlfriend, and i freakin love her.

what should i do ? dealing with my mom also with the cellphone issue. and with keeping contact with my girlfriend.

please i need some good advice soon!!

I used up all my minutes and my mom doesnt know i have a girlfriend...?

okay. well, i used my cellphone a lot to talk to my girlfriend but the thing is im not really allowed to have a girlfriend & i'm am only 15, may sound young but I'm a "mature" type of teen. well i wasted my minutes and the bill came and i surpassed my minutes and the bill was pretty high. i don't want my mom to know i was talking to my girlfriend, or thats it for my cellphone the only contact with my girlfriend, and i freakin love her.

what should i do ? dealing with my mom also with the cellphone issue. and with keeping contact with my girlfriend.

ADDITIONAL DETIALS!

well, i did offer to my mom that i would work to get that money, and i do have a house phone, but problem is my mom is to strict that she wouldnt let me talk to her and she isnt an internet girlfriend, ive met her at school, and im in highschool and we dont go to the same schools i go to an all boy school and she goes to an all girl school ..

well, its not only me wasting the minutes

because my whole family is together in one plan, and yea.

my dad knows about my gf and so does my big sister but its just that my mom. ive talked to my mom about it but she doesnt give me a response. and i kno that she can check the phone bill because she has already asked me, but i didnt tell her who it was only my dad. i just need like advice for dealing with the money and how to bring up the idea of me having a girlfriend to her

Answer 1

Hi, Hero, I hope this advice will help your situation, I fell in love with my boyfriend when I was 15 he is very good to me most women would kill over someone like my boyfriend and you sound a lot like my boyfriend because after school was over the both of us would be on the phone from 7:00pm to 3:00am in the morning and my mother had a really high phone bill but it was the house phone but still she had to pay for it and I would keep geting in trouble nothing could keep us apart and she would tell me no boyfriends she found out so she would do anything in her power to keep me away form my first love so and look at me now I have been with him for 6 years now and I am proud of my choice and I couldn't be happyer so dont think backwards think ahead, dont let your mother decice for you its your life and make sure this girl loves you before you fight to have her because if she dosent love you than that life wont work and make sure you love your girlfriend and not because of her looks because I have seen people who live these lives with that situation and its pretty uguly, the way I see it is two people not as two but as a whole and if you really love this girl let your mother know and show her your a young adult and when you are ready tell your mother how much you love this girl dont be afraid good luck.

Answer 2

OK, first never tell your mom that you love your girlfriend. If she does find out you have one she'll think you are way too immature to have one if you think you are in love already. Overprotective moms are like that, and she might be right. If you were near as mature as you think you are, you would not be in this mess. Tell your mom you've been talking to your friends alot this month and lost track of how many minutes you were using. Offer to pay for the overage as soon as you can and assure her it won't happen again. Here's the big part. Don't let it happen again and keep your word. She will appreciate you taking responsibility for your mistakes. After that call your girl after 9pm when calls are free. Perhaps repaying your debts in a timely manner will impress your mother with your maturity and she'll decide you can date. A girlfriend is still a friend so what you are saying is not untrue. Thats the best I can offer you since I assume the truth is a last resort.

Answer 3

Inform her parents and social worker immediately. She may have to be removed to a safe location until an investigation is started, either way, dial 911 or 000 in Oz but do it and do it NOW. Your friend is a child at 13 and her emotional state is as you say severly damaged but she can get the right help. Remember to that at 13 mens threats are very real and she is unable to handle the situation on her own because its happened so often, she doesnt emotionally know how to deal with the situation. Get your friend help. You have a moral obligation to call the authorities. This man must be stopped NOW, he may even be doing the same thing to another girl and if he is not stopped he will continue to rape and abuse others. Please do not wait another minute, this man must pay the price for what hes doing to this girl. Think of the well-being of your friend, she will thank you in the end. STOP this happening now.

Answer 4

You are busted. Does the phone number come up on the bill? If she see a number being called contently and it is the reason that the minutes were used up she is probably going to call it. I would confess up to what is going on. It is the "mature" thing to do. I would also see if there is a way to pay her the extra money that you caused. I have kids and the punishment is usually less if they tell the truth. You do have a home phone, why don't you call her from that?

Answer 5

Ok now wait - you call yourself a "mature" type of teen - but here you are lying to your mom and breaking her rules...doesn't sound very "mature" to me.

See, part of why your mom doesn't want you to have a gf right now at your age is because you aren't responsible, and you just proved that by running your phone up so high.

You have to come clean with your mom, and deal with the consequenses, that is what an actual "mature teen" would do. As far as your gf, if mom says you have to stop "dating" her - I suggest you listen - your parents can make your life a hell of a lot more miserable than the loss of a gf can cause at your age.

Answer 6

Try using the house phone to call if it's not in your parent's room. (My sister is also 15. She wakes up in the middle of the night to call her boyfriend.)

Talk to her online using a chat program if you can. There are some chat programs that let you use a headset (headphone and microphone) so it's like talking on the phone. One example is Skype (the service is free if you are both using computers).

As for dealing with your mom: I am sure you can make up lots of excuses. You have a 'study' group, or you like to talk to your good buddy (insert guy's name here), or something like that. Teenagers make up really creative lies sometimes.

There is a good chance that your mom might guess that you have a girlfriend anyhow (even clueless moms can pick up on things like this sometimes). Your mom can probably see what 'number' you were talking to using your cell phone. (I have paid cell phone bills before and they usually list all cell phone activity - how long and who you've called.) So if she discovers that you lied about who you were talking to or why you used so many minutes, you might be in bigger trouble than before ;) just a friendly warning

Answer 7

I assume this is an internet girlfriend. My son did the same thing to me. The bill was huge. There is nothing you can do hon. The bill has to be paid. If you hide it from them, collection agencies will call and your mother's credit will be ruined. All you can do is offer to work to pay it off. I made my son pay his off. Then you will have to limit your phone calls and stick to chat so you stay under your limits from now on. You have no choice but to tell her. Pax - C

Answer 8

hun you're going to have to face her.. offer to pay part of the bill and meet with your girlfriend in person.. if she lives far away find a pay phone to tell her what happened.. you could use aim or some IM hope this helped =] good luck

Answer 9

i feel bad for ya man. 15 and not aloud to have a gf. i would argue with mine. but if u have a house phone use that and plus school is starting back up so u can talk to her at school.

Answer 10

theres no night and weekends thing on your phone? that blowwwwssss .. or you should just use it more


and have you considered using your home phone?

... ps it will be pretty obvious that you have a gf if she even looks at the phone bill.. cause shed probably see the million minutes used to talk to some number.. prepare to lie?