my husband died 3 months ago, what can i do to get over this feeling of loss?

Question

he died in a car accident, it was his fault, he ran into the back of a truck. he died 2 days later in hospital. i cant help but feel at a loss. what should / could i do to get over this feeling of loss.

Answer 1

First of all, I am so sorry for your loss.

One of my dear friends lost her husband about 4 years ago. There was a book that really helped her out. I will ask her tomorrow at work about it and I will come back and add it to my post.

You will have good days and bad days, just give yourself time. 3 months isn't that long ago, the wounds are still fresh. Best wishes


Update: There are a couple books that were recommended highly by friends of mine that lost their spouse:

Living With Grief

I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye (and the workbook that you have to purchase seperately)

Finding Your Way After Your Spouse Dies

How to go on Living when Someone You Love Dies

You can search for these books on Amazon.com, or you can probably find them at a local book store.

Again, good luck, and best wishes.

Answer 2

Sweetie you are still in mourning, and maybe a tad angry as he was at fault. You can't change how it happened. or the fact that it happened at all. Yes you are at a loss. My husband died 8 years ago of a heart attack in his truck behind our house. I do understand the feelings you are having. 3 months is no time at all. You will heal at your own pace. Each person is different. People are well intentioned. If you need help ask for it. Your life will be different from now on..You will take 3 steps forward then at time 2 steps back. That is very normal.. It is amazing how wonderful a nice long bubble bath feels. do it often. I don't know how old you are or have children at home so I can't address that. email me if like. I am a good listener...So please do not be hard on yourself that you feel at a loss....Take care!

Answer 3

I'm sorry to hear about your husband. There really isn't anything you can do to help you feel like nothing happened, unless you use illegal drugs. Even then, the effects wear off over time. The grieving process takes a long time, and feeling sad and upset is normal. There isn't much you can do to speed it up. Sometimes, after people lose loved ones they look to God for directions more than they used to. They believe more strongly in their religion to seek answers to the questions that can't be answered by us. However, it helps to be involved in activities and surrounded by good friends. This can help you get back on a schedule and busy, so you don't have time to worry and feel at loss during the day. If you feel really lost, you could visit a pshchologist, and see if you can understand your thoughts and feelings better. I hope this helps you.

Answer 4

Jeez...here you have me tearing up. It's only been 3 months - I don't think you should be over it yet. It's not enough time, I don't think it's healthy.

You'll always feel the loss, you'll just come to accept it more. This may sound dumb...there's a coat of my wife's that I wear sometimes (it's a big coat that could be men's or women's). It's comforting to have it on - both emotionally and to keep me warm. When someone gets into your heart, you will hold them there forever. She will always be with me, but I feel just a little closer to her in that coat.

It's been five years. I have a girlfriend - but she is by no means a 'replacement' for Frannie. I enjoy sharing my life with another person. What we had will never go away, and I will always have those memories. I still feel a void, and always will. I'm still alive though - I didn't die. I'm trying to make the best of it.

Answer 5

The feeling of loss is normal and a healthy part of the grieving process. Some people take longer than others to accept the loss and go on living their lives. You might need some help from a professional grief counselor if you feel like you are not making any progress. One thing to keep in mind is that your deceased husband would likely have wanted you to feel sad but then to get over it and go on with your life and be happy again.

Answer 6

First of all, give it time. It has only been three months. My mother has been gone over 7 years, and I still catch myself thinking, "I'll call Mama...". The loss never really leaves you, you just gradually grow more able to deal with it. Rely on your family and friends, or if you feel there is no one close you can turn to, there are a number of groups and organizations that help you deal with loss. One is Parents Without Partners; another is Compassionate Friends. If nothing else, make an appointment with a grief counselor, and talk it out. You will be all right. It just takes time.

Answer 7

My husband died 3 months ago too. No matter how he died, he isn't here and your life is not the same with him gone. Give yourself a break. This will take quite a while to feel okay. If you have other things going on in your life, it can help. I find work helpful and my nights are hard. I cry off and on. I can easily be set off. You might want to consider a group for people who have lost a spouse or just a general grief group. It does help to hear that you are normal. It helps to hear how others are handling their problems and get some feedback on what you are trying to deal with.

Answer 8

Dear Jenson I can really feel it.
But you know life is like this only. I know its is easy to say and very hard to do, to forget all the things between you and your husband. Don't forget the things. Just keep sweet memories of your husband as a gift from the departed soul. Try to make more friends, indulge you-self more in social and friendly activities. May be, someday you may find him in some other face or body. I hope you understand what I mean.
In short Life is to move with the ups and downs.

May God bless peace to the departed soul and give you enough strength to bear this loss.

Answer 9

I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. It's natural to feel the way you do. When someone suffers the loss of a loved one, there are commonly five stages of grieving that people go through (denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance) and three months isn't very long to have passed through them. It will take time, but it will get easier with time, especially if you talk it out with friends, family or a support group. Remember that it's OK to grieve, and it really doesn't matter whose fault it was, because it wasn't yours.

I wish you peace. Just keep breathing, you'll get through it.

Am including quick link to the stages of grieving if you're interested.

Answer 10

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