why do guys say that they are honest but....?

Question

i have a friend who says that he is the type of person who is very honest, but whenever we talk it feels like he is hiding something from me? Am i overthinking about it or is he hiding something and I'm sensing it.

Answer 1

Obviously, he doesn't feel comfortable about himself. Everyone has something to hide, no matter how little or how big. Let him know you accept him as a friend no matter the consequences and see what happens.

Answer 2

In all seriousness men and women both lie, a lot. There are many many many reasons, if you think he is hiding something from you, then chances are that he is. It may be something simple and nice, or it might be something malicious, that all depends on that individual. People think they need to do this sometime to protect themselves, sometime to make themselves seem to be better than they are, and on and on. The only way to tell who he is, is to get to know him, from a bit of a distance, far enough that you can see what is going on but close enough not to offend him. That is one of the very basic principles of philosphy, why do we do something.
True philosophy is boring and lame ...
Statement a is true
then statement B is untrue
then statement c is true
blah blah blah

Answer 3

Good grief, that is not a philosophy question.

I'd say you are overthinking it because if you have no evidence other than a feeling then why consider it further? You will be thinking about something over which you will have no answer. THAT'S overthinking for sure.

Answer 4

He's still being honest...if you have asked him about it ("Is something wrong? Etc") and he said no, then he's lying. Most guys are liars towards women...that's a gross stereotype, but it's true, at least in my case. And just bring it up, like if it's something bothering him, and he'll tell you in his own time. Just don't force it out of him, and don't make him feel pressured to say something, because it could be nothing's wrong and he'll have to make something up to satisfy you. THEN he'll be lying.

Answer 5

yeah he's probably hiding something and doesnt want to tell you just yet

nobody's completely honest, you'll probably have to give it some time and when you feel like its the right time ask him if he is hiding something

Answer 6

If you two just started dating, then he probably IS holding back, and not telling you EVERYTHING. We do this too. If we don't know the guy well enough to come clean about everything in our lives, we just hold it back until we know them better. I wouldn't think too much about it at this point in your relationship, though. I would think more about about assuring him that you are a person that can be trusted. Remember he doesn't really know you either.

Answer 7

I never lie when I'm lying.
we can try to be honest, but something are best kept to ourselves.

"Does that dress make you look fat?" do not answer. land mine.
"Are you thinks she's hot" do not answer, ticking time bomb.

Yes he is hiding something, we all do. If he's a cheater, get a hot friend to test his loyalties?

Answer 8

try pulling a trick, just because he says he is honest you never know so try something to twist things up.

Answer 9

it is true, they are honest....the only different things is do you ever think that one minute before and after, you already change? so what you know about friends is one minute before....one minute later, you miss their important change....do you call this LIE?

Answer 10

There's no way for me to tell unless I know him personally.

This has nothing to do with philosophy.