Obsessive Ex Boyfriend Won't Give Up. Help?

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Obsessive Ex Boyfriend Won't Give Up. Help?
Okay. I Broke up with him. He took it bad, then I tried to be his friend and that didnt work. He ended up going out with my (now ex) Best Friend. (which didnt work b/c...ahem I dumped HIM... not Vice Versa. He was really Mean to me. Then apologized (I was just like... okay... sure... I forgive you.) I hoped he would just leave me alone. He called me the other day (I didnt answer) and he left me a voce mail wondering how I am... yada ya. And he called again today. and left me a voice mail and was like "WTF? Why arent you answering me calls. (He sounded angry) and was like if youre mad... text and tell me why. If not, Call me BACK!" I want to nicely tell him to Screw Off! Because he's creepy and obsessive and I've been way to nice to him. I mean I was like a Freaking Saint. I broke up with him in early May, and it's mid August.... can you say obsessive???

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Answer 1

Make sure you clearly state your boundaries...for example "Please do not call me or text me. Please do not show up at my house.." etc. You have to make sure you are absolutely clear. Let your parents or friends know what's going on. I don't want to scare you, but you never know with obsessive ex bfs. If you begin to feel afraid, tell your parents and perhaps think about getting a restraining order filed against him.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

I don't know how old you are, but you need to never speak to this person again, he is dangerous. If you are old enough, change your number. If you aren't, tell your parents what is going on asap. If he shows up at your house, church, place of work,etc.,go to the police and get a restraining order against him. Do NOT go anywhere with him. Do NOT talk to him as some others are suggesting here. Do NOT give him - anything. People who are obsessive like him will take any crumb and turn it into a meal.

Answer 4

Tell him in a PUBLIC place, with friends or family around
[ don't invite people with anger issues to your home ]:
1] you broke up with him because he was mean.
2] you are not interested in being friends, ever - he stinks at being a friend.
3] you will not return calls, texts, IMs, or emails - THE END
Then leave.
He sounds nasty at best - don't feel bad for him, or try to be friends - just cross him off the list.
I am 51 year old FOL [ fat old lady ], but I know what i'm talking about - stay away from the situation, entirely!

Answer 5

Er...that's dangerous. How old are you guys?
I woudn't be talking to him anymore AT ALL.
I've changed my number and email 3 times to get away from this one person.
If he starts to scare you in any way, I'd be going to the police. Some people just aren't screwed on right.
Or you could say 'look, this part of our lives is over, I'd like my space and appreciate it if you could leave me alone now.'
May not work, but he'll keep trying unless you're real blunt with the dude.

Answer 6

girl the best thing you can do is change your number....but i would try to call him first and talk to him about how things are over in a nice way....don't get someone who is obsessive mad...just don't go there play it safe...you could sometimes give him one call a week and be his friend....then you would be able to see if he could handle that or try to get him hooked up with a hot friend so he will forget about you...but changing your number works but he know where you live...so stuff like that is last resort like getting restraining order only do that if you feel threatened and really scared...stay safe keep a cell phone with important numbers on speed dial carry some mase with you or pepper spray you can get license for that stuff at the police station...keep a whistle on your key chain always tell family and friends where you are going ...carry extra cash with you.....in case something happens...be careful after dark

Answer 7

Keep a record and the voice and text messages you may need to get a protective order. i had this problem. Don't respond to him (he might think you want him back.) i had the dude call me months after I got the protective order. That resulted to me changing my number. If he shows at your job let your boss know. Talk to a women's crisis center the should be able to help you more.

Answer 8

Well I would first try telling him that you think you guys shouldn't be friends. If he asks why simply say because you don't want to be his friend. If he still persists and won't leave you alone, change your phone number. If that's not possible, get a restraining order.

Answer 9

Just ask him politely to "leave you alone and STOP calling you" "you and he are OVER" "Get it?" "Move on".
Don't be mean. Just TELL him emphatically to STOP calling you. You don't want to talk to him ~ PERIOD !!!! THE END.

Answer 10

umm, wow. well he is a creep. just tell hi mto come over one day to talk abuot something. he'll probably think you want ot get bakck togehter, haha. well when he comes over, tell him that you want to be friends with him and tell him that he is not giving you space. i mean, dont be mean, but tell him gently.
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