What can I do to ensure our romantic relationship (between my fiance and I) isn't ruined? I've already left my former-best friend.
2007-08-13 14:46:09 · 57 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dude, it's already done. Wake Up!
2007-08-13 14:49:57 · answer #1 · answered by FRANKFUSS 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Well, i'm sorry to hear the your fiance did that to you. For starters you we're right to end things with your so called best friend. She will only do it again and if she was your friend she woudn't have done that to you in the first place. As for your fiance, I feel once someone cheats on you it kind of breaks that trust, I know for me, and it happened before, I didn't feel the same way about that person and everything went down hill after that and I ended it.
I would said break it off with your fiance as hard as it maybe, but if he's doing that to you now, he will do it again in the future and then it will be harder for you to leave. As much as you like to think you could forgive(and it might be true) you will never forget and in the back of your mind you will always wonder if and when he would do it again.
At least don't rush to get married and let him gain your trust back, cause if you do take him back, he will think your a push over and that if he did it again, you'll take him back. Think about it, you deserve to be happy now and in the future.
2007-08-13 15:27:14 · answer #2 · answered by epic2515 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well dear, I know you don't want to here this but once a cheater, always a cheater. My ex-husband left me for a great friend of 18 years. We were together for 5 years have 2 kids and one day out of the blue he just up and left to move right in with her. It hurts but ya get over it. Anyway, there is no point in the relationship now because every time he goes anywhere without you your going to wonder if hes cheating. That alone will kill someone. As for your question yes I think your relationship is ruined/over. Good Luck!
Never let anyone make you feel like you don't deserve what you want.
Stacie
2007-08-13 14:59:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you a masochist? Do you LIKE pain? If so, get married to this bum before he changes his mind; and while you are at it, kiss and make up with your best friend...letting him know it is totally cool to screw around with the man you intended to spend the rest of your life with--no problem!
Where do you find friends like these? Is your self-esteem THAT low, where you put up with this kind of evil from people who are supposed to be there for you, and have a level of trust that you would not expect from others in the world?
Check out some of the other answers to your question, and get a clue! Your fiance HAS ALREADY ruined the romance in your relationship, and if it WERE to be brought back, it would be up to HIM to figure out a way to make that happen! Stop blaming yourself for the sins of others.
But most of all, just know that if you were ever to forgive either one of these "friends & lovers", they will most assuredly do something like this to you again, given the chance. And the chances are always there.
As much as you may love him, come to know that you diserve better than this from a life partner. Then go find him.
2007-08-13 15:02:03 · answer #4 · answered by Howie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He ruined your realtionship the moment he was with your best friend. You said that you have already kicked your best friend to the curb....you need to do the same to your fiance`.
It takes two to cheat....it wasn't all your friends doing. Your fiance` has cheated once....he will do it again!!!
You deserve to be with someone who is faithful to you and is committed to YOUR relationship!! It's better that you found out now than after you were married to him.
Use this as a learning experience and move on! You will be greatful that you did in the long run.
2007-08-13 14:51:28 · answer #5 · answered by endo_chic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get rid of the fiance because how can you trust someone when they have already cheated on you? Most times when a person cheats before they are married then they may cheat after marriage. Your fiance and your best friend deserve each other.
2007-08-13 15:01:35 · answer #6 · answered by Nancy M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since trust was broken the relationship is as well. I know it hurts I am going through something similar and you can bet trust is the hardest thing to get back once it is gone. remember if the other person is not willing to end the other relationship or is not truly sorry then don't stay. Sometimes it wasn't meant to be, but that doesn't mean that someone isn't waiting for you to be there one and only love of their life, who will love honor, trust, and commit to fully with every part of them. Love is the hardest most wonderful thing a person will ever experience, but like will hurt and make you cry. just think what do you want and need? sometimes what your heart wants isn't what is needs. Good Luck
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2007-08-13 14:56:09 · answer #7 · answered by love 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Romantic relationship?? If you are engaged to be married to this person take a few deep breaths and ask yourself, "can he be trusted to not do this again"?
I would not concern yourself about the romance being ruined. He has already ruined so much more than that.. He has ruined your trust. Trust is so much more a bigger issue than romance.
Glad you dumped the girlfriend though.
2007-08-13 14:52:28 · answer #8 · answered by Samantha M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frankly, I don't think there is anything you can do. You didn't do the cheating, but you may have very well lost a good friend. Your fiance was the one engaged, not your best friend.
If you stay, make sure you know why you're staying. If it is because you don't want to be embarrassed, that's not a good enough reason.
Good luck.
2007-08-13 14:51:51 · answer #9 · answered by Kay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, FIRST you have to OPEN YOUR EYES!
C'mon!
Let me Get the Question Straight, OK?..
You caught the person you were suppossed to Marry,Trust, Love and Respect, For the Rest of your (and their) natural Lives, CHEATING with your BEST FRIEND (?), and you want to Know HOW to MAKE SURE your "Romantic" Relationship ISN'T OVER?????
Well, I guess the ONLY way to DO that, is to LIE to Yourself!
The Romance (and Marriage) are over Baby!
Oh! And your "Best Friend"? Maybe you ought to make Best Friends with something more prone to be "Loyal"...Like a Snake perhaps?
"WHATEVER DOSEN'T KILL YA, MAKES YA STRONGER!"
(Sorry for the Reality...But you'll Survive, Honest!)
2007-08-13 15:02:27 · answer #10 · answered by IKnowStuff 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By remaining as gullible as you obviously are. Your Fiance was part of the cheating and yet you've only gotten rid of the one time friend. Your fiance had to have made the CHOICE to cheat on you as well...do you really think it is fair to forgive one and dump the other when they BOTH made the same choice? Oh well it is YOUR choice to stick by someone who would CHOOSE to cheat on you with your best friend.
2007-08-13 14:51:41 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋