We were out with another friend of ours and we were just play fighting about whose man was better and she really hurt me when she said if my fiance was so "perfect" then why did he go to a strip club and wants to go back. It really hurt my feelings and I took it person and told her my fiance makes way more money then her trashy boyfriend. She was so angry that she got up and left. I thought she deserved it but now I'm hurt because we aren't speaking and she won't answer my calls or my text messages. I've been friends with her for 10 years and I don't want to end it over something stupid like this. What should I do?
2007-08-13 14:30:00 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It's so hard to lose a good, trusted friend. Sometimes being around your best friend too much can be too much of a good thing, no? Have you heard the saying, Familiarity breeds contempt?
Sometimes we say things we don't mean and we hurt those we love the most. This is a hard thing to say, but too be realistic, you might have to let her go. But only for a while. Will it make you feel any better if I told you I was in the same situation? I did not speak with mine for two weeks. QAnd when we did we talked it out and it was so much better.
If you give you and your friend enough space you will find that your friendship is better. You can't always share EVERYTHING with your best friend. You need yourself too, sometimes. It hurts, I know but you will be stronger when it's over, I have faith that you will. Remember you are not alone in this either. She will come back to you if she loves you enough. If you two have a special bond that you share, I know she will find your way back to you. Give her space, don't call her or text her, sometimes it's worse when you say sorry way too much.
If you two talk again, than she needs to admit what she said was wrong. Tell her it hurt you, and nothing is better than honesty. Tell her that you forgive her now can you forgive yourself?
Good luck and I hope she comes back to you, you sure don't deserve to lose your best friend.
2007-08-13 14:49:44 · answer #1 · answered by ~darkest than the nite~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not stupid stuff. You both really hurt one another. It might never return to the way it was.
Write a letter saying that it was mean of You for saying the things you did. and ask for forgiveness/
2007-08-13 21:38:49 · answer #2 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her in person.(as long as she's not wanting to physically fight or anything) Tell her how important your relationship is and how you don't want to end it over a little fight. Also apologize about the comment you made and say you didn't mean it and that you were just offended by what she said.
hopefully she'll apologize as well.
hope you stay friends.
2007-08-13 21:36:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋