I feel a bit inadequate. I'm going to uni in october but I had a gap year and I wasted it. I couldn't find a job and I didn't have any money to do any travelling. I've looked everywhere for a job and still I couldn't find one. The years nearly over and I feel a bit hopeless. Any words of advice on what I can do to make up for it/feel better?
2007-08-13 13:14:51 · 21 answers · asked by n0luckz 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
hmm chi, you made me laugh. Uni is an abbreviation for university (in england), it's not an acronym. Sorry if I confused any americans.
2007-08-13 13:24:44 · update #1
really i wasted half my life so i got you beat!
2007-08-13 18:18:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, at least you won't run the risk of being as burnt out during first year Uni, as many of the students who jump right in. You'll also be more determined to work harder during Uni as you've had a big break already (something I wish I've had).
If you can't travel to another country, go and see that places you haven't been to in years. Go to the Zoo, Aquarium, Museum, Art Gallery, the touristy sight-seeing places, there's a reason people fly halfway across the globe to see these places. Heck, I hope to get over there one day and see them.
2007-08-13 14:39:48 · answer #2 · answered by hilary_hug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I don't think you can ever "waste" any time. You always learn something. You only think you wasted it if you box your life into something it is "supposed" to be. Who knows? Maybe if you had gone to university earlier you would have been hit by a bus. Maybe since you're going now your timing will coincide perfectly with the love of your life attending the same class you are. I think everything is as it should be and to regret or obsess over what should have been is a waste. Think of it like this: you spent that year doing exactly what you should have done so that the rest of your life could be as it should be. Congratulations! It's all a matter of perspective, my friend.
2007-08-13 13:21:42 · answer #3 · answered by justme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Goodness, if you're going to a uni, then FORGET about the last year. Just don't blow your education. Learn from last year, and make up for it by developing a strong work ethic in school. But have fun too.
I called myself wasting a year and a half when I kept changing majors. It took me 5 1/2 years to graduate, but at least I ended up picking the right major, and now I love my career.
You're apparently fairly young, so as long as you have focus while in school and choose the right career, your regret over the past year will certainly go away.
2007-08-13 13:24:41 · answer #4 · answered by SoulDawg 4 UGA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't wasted your time. The mere fact that you have learned the need to do things and not let time pass by is a lesson that may take some other people a lifetime to learn.
Stop looking backwards and work on the future. Whatever the reasons for what has happened, they are irrelevant as you need to act on where you are and what you are now. Step up, go to college and enjoy the rest of your life.
What is gone, is gone.
2007-08-13 13:24:54 · answer #5 · answered by ayante01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confident, I did precisely the comparable concern, did the incorrect concern and altered after a one year yet do no longer beat your self up over it. it may assist you to in the long-term as you ought to have some better expertise which you're able to call on while going for jobs. whether you do never use it, you tried and you presently understand that concern isn't for you so it wasn't a entire waste of time. that is completed now, you could no longer flow back so provide up stressing approximately it and watch for the subsequent point on your existence!
2016-11-12 06:16:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think you could have at least volunteered somewhere, but anywho, what DID you do? What did you think about. Write about it. Part of living is discovering ourselves. Time is never really wasted. It's just the way you view it that makes it seem that way. You did not do what you think you should have done. But go back and look again at how you really spent your time and think about how you grew as a person on the inside. Start a personal Journal. You did not waste any time.
2007-08-13 13:24:47 · answer #7 · answered by Sidereality 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't feel bad because almost everybody had gone through the same thing. The best you could do is learn from your mistakes. So, keep trying and don't give up! I personally find my job in monsterjob.com. Is a great website. You should give it a look. Good luck :) !
2007-08-13 13:29:35 · answer #8 · answered by pretty_brunette 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I could have loafed around for a year and just relaxed.
Anyway, it's quite possible and very probable that you couldn't find a job because you subconsciously didn't want to. Take your year of relaxing a gem that most people don't get.
2007-08-13 13:19:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your going to uni, you have three/four years of fun ahead (and study of course) dont dwell on what you could have done on your gap year. I didnt do much on mine but am having the time of my life with my mates at uni.
2007-08-13 13:18:29 · answer #10 · answered by GBMC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put it behind you and just look forward. We all look back and see the time we lost, but what are you going to do about it now? Dwell on it? Bad idea. Just start fresh and make things your own. Consider it a lesson learned.
2007-08-13 13:20:33 · answer #11 · answered by Rita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋