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parents , i have a question. i have a 4 year old whon,t play with kids his age.he only wants to play with 11 year olds and up, like we take him to parks and places like sesame park, he wont be friendly.he goes to school dosent play to much with them. sometimes he talks to him self like a imagineted friend, and i don,t like it. i think is scary to me,what do u think about this. any suggestion.

Answer 1

4 yr old children have very vivid imaginations. And if your child is an only child, he/she is use to being around adults. Other children are intimidating in that they do silly stuff, will say anything, and are sometimes bluntly mean without realizing it. A child that is use to being with adults, expects everyone to act like adults. Therefore your child might be more comfortable with older kids as well. Having an imaginary friend can be perfectly harmless, but sometimes kids just talk to themselves because they have noone to play with that they are comfortable with. Is there any possibility that your child could be autistic?? Autistic children do not interact with other children much at all. They also tend to be extremely intelligent but introverted and see things differently. I have an autistic neice who has a strange imagination, odd things freak her out, and she only likes adults. She considers older people more her equal and children bore her. Also, she can be in a room full of children and she still prefers to play alone and does not want to be bothered. These children are incredibly smart and there are different levels of autism. Some kids grow out of the odd behaviors, so if this could be what is happening, I would talk to my pediatrician about it and get some information that could help. Good Luck and hang in there, you are probably the most important person your child knows....

Answer 2

it isn't scary but think back when he was a baby till now and did he play with older kids only? My daughter is 5 and just started kindergarten but I did have her in preschool since she was three. when I had her in a private babysitters home there was 2 boys she also babysat for and older since she was 5 months old till 3 1/2 when she played with the kids at school she only played with the boys and took a while for her to be friends with girls. she still plays more with boys then girls. I don't know if it has anything to do with the fact that till she was 3 years old she only knew boys but maybe because she felt comfortable with them. I don't know its hard to say. I don't see anything wrong with it but hopefully when she gets older she will make more g/f. maybe you might want to have him see a councilor and maybe they can find something out for you. or try to find kids his age and make a play date.I hope this helps you.

Answer 3

This is normal for younger kids because they are looking up to older kids as role models. I used to look up to my brother and sister when I was that age and I would follow them everywhere and only wanted to hang out with them. Now I am an adult and much more mature than others my age and in a way I feel that my brother and sisters influence played a role in that.

Answer 4

I have a 4 almost 5 year old daughter, she loves being with the big kids, because they aren't babies and she learns lots of stuff. (her words not mine) I think it's about what they get from the individuals they are with. I wouldn't be concerned as long as the 11 year olds are trustworthy and are setting a good example, our children need that.

Answer 5

I wouldn't worry about it too much. It may be that he wishes he had a big brother or sister or that he simply feels like he is older than he is and he feels they are more his equals? Very bright children are bored easily if they are not interested or stimulated so he may be looking for more than the typical 4 year old has to offer if that is the case. Have you asked him about it? Simple questions might help you understand his feelings better.

Answer 6

cool little guy, my little boy is lilke that too, he will be 4 in sept. it sounds like he misses his daddy, if thats not it, just spend time with him and be his friend. if his brothers and sisters or cousins(whoever the 11 year olds are dont mind) let him hang with them. of course he cant do everything that they do and you have to watch him a lot closer so he doesnt get hurt, but i am sure he will out grow it. i will study your question a little more and compare him to my son and maybe i will come up wiht a better answer, let me know what you think good luck

Answer 7

My son has similar social issues. See if you can get him enrolled in a kindergarten or head start program. This has helped my son tremendously. You need to also tell your child that you expect him to talk and play with kids his age. Plan a play date with a child his age with similar interests. Tell your son that ______ is coming over to play and would really like to play with whatever thing they both like. tell him you want him to talk with and have fun playing with the other child. When he comes to you for attention while the child is there. tell him you are talking with the mom and want him to go play and have fun with the child. I had to constantly do this with my son, but eventually he grew more confidant and is beginning to interact with children his age without the prompting. It takes work, but it is worth it. Good luck!

Answer 8

I wouldn't worry that much 4 year olds just parallel play with each other anyways Wait till he is six to freak out

Answer 9

He's normal. Just keep playing with him. Have other kids his age around and play with them too. Eventually he'll find something in common with them and way he'll go!

Answer 10

why are u trying to take away adolescent space from the adolescents..parents only what is that