We have been together over 7 years and he has always been a cave man. Lately, he is more attentive. He is trying to be more nice and loving. Is something wrong with him? I know I'm not dying... LOL
2007-08-13 13:00:16 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He got dumped by the mistress!
2007-08-13 13:04:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
That's a really tough one. I'm reading over these answers and thinking any of them could be right. Yes, he could be hiding something. He could be setting you up. He could also have seen what happened to another couple and rethought the value of his marriage. All I can say is, this isn't a job for an amateur. Tell him you'd like to see a marriage counselor. Be vague about why, but follow through with it. You have to be honest with the counselor, though, and give him an accurate picture of the marriage. If you want to strengthen the marriage, you need to make sure that these changes are permanent, honest, and that YOU aren't doing anything to undermine the relationship. I've heard that family relations are like a dance. You can take one person out of a family and fix what's troubling them but when they go back to the group, they return to their previous behavior because it's the only dance they know that fits with how everybody else is moving. It's necessary to teach everyone a new dance. So if this change is honest, don't be insulted to find that you need to change your own behavior in order to nurture the change. Don't go into counseling with the idea of tripping up the other person and finding out what you want to know. A good counselor will spot this. He may not call you on it, but he'll know.
2007-08-13 20:38:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't knock it and enjoy the change, maybe someone has given him a wake up call and all you need to do now is find out who the angle is so you can thank them lol.
P.S. Don't stop doing nice things for him either, as it takes two to make a relationship work well.
2007-08-13 20:10:05 · answer #3 · answered by Live_For_Today 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
evolution ...
perhaps1.. he is just growing up and can see that you are not as easy to impress with a Neanderthal attitude.
perhaps 2..he has seen a bit of competition for your affections and thinks he needs to make the effort to keep what is his greatest treasure.
perhaps 3.. he is trying to butter you up to be forgiven for some thing.
either way take this pleasant change while you can it may just be a passing phase.
2007-08-13 20:13:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if hes not feeling guilty about anything then he must of seen that you wernt as interrested in him anymore and has asked for help on how to get you interrested again.it could of been a question on here on how to get my love back with my wife or something.........if hes not on private telephone calls or coming home late from work,then you dont have anything to worry about.just eat it up and let him know how much you enjoy these special times he is sharing with you.then you will know that they will continue.
2007-08-13 23:46:06 · answer #5 · answered by marilynfsmgm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have a little chat with him, by sitting
down and acknowledging to him the nice
changes, and ask what has brought on the
changes.
John 17:3.
2007-08-13 20:06:20 · answer #6 · answered by itsmissjackson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is having the reverse 7 year itch..lol.. just be happy he is showing attention. Good luck!
2007-08-13 20:06:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe he's trying something new, to see how u respond. U know, just to change things up a little. Maybe he thought u'd like the new him better than the old one.
2007-08-13 20:10:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bet you that he just finally realized that if he continues being an a**, he is going to lose you. I wouldn't be surprised if maybe one of his friends is going through a divorce, and maybe that kicked him in the head to be nicer. Or, maybe someone told him your cheating on him, and he is trying to see if it is true. Or maybe he just plain out, feels like its about time he treats you good.. You deserve it :)
2007-08-13 20:07:49 · answer #9 · answered by Vanessa Gonzalez ~ Leos mom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm? Perhaps guilt; some men become really nice when they want something or they are hiding something.
Of course, it could be that he has come to see the light.
2007-08-13 20:05:32 · answer #10 · answered by Nothingusefullearnedinschool 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be hiding something, like cheating and is trying to keep you from getting suspicious, which didn't seem to work or you wouldn't be asking. He may be trying to change but I doubt it.
2007-08-17 14:49:42 · answer #11 · answered by kystarlyte_kystarlight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋