Is it better to wait for marriage?

Question

I'm entering my Junior year in college, and it seems like everybody* is getting engaged. I've always thought it was better to concentrate on my career, and wait on marriage. Afterall I guess i'm still figuring out who I am/what I want out of life, and don't feel like i'm ready to even think about that.

Nonetheless, do you think it's better to wait. I think it's crazy how many of my friends are all tying the knot

Answer 1

It is different for each person. Getting married in college or right out of college can be very difficult, but then some careers can make it difficult to get a relationship started. Many people do wait to get married until they're settled in their career.

The bottom line, though, is that you should follow your own thoughts and instincts rather than compare yourself to others. If you feel that you're not ready to be thinking about marriage, then that's fine. When you are more decided on what you want in life and you've met the right guy and the relationship is right, you'll know when you're ready. In the meantime, there's nothing wrong at all with concentrating on your career. Be open to the possibility of a relationship that will lead to marriage someday, but don't worry about not having that relationship now.

Your friends needs and goals in life may be different than yours, but that doesn't make either of you wrong at all. You sound like you're doing just fine and that you're on the right track for you!

Answer 2

I got married when I was 22 and a senior in college. I wouldn't have changed it for the world. I am now 25 and we have been together for 8 years, married for 3 and expecting our first child. We got married when it was right for us. I have friends that got married cause "everyone else was doing it". And they are already divorced or on the path to doing so! No one on Yahoo Answers can answer that question for you. You can only do what is right for you, and if you don't know, then you're not ready to get married. You will know when your ready when you can't imagine spending your life WITHOUT a certain person. And most of all, it's important to figure out who you are and what you want before you add someone else to the equation.

Answer 3

Yeah waiting is good because then you have an easier start in the marriage department. More money due to the fact you have figured out what you want to do and established a career makes for a happier newlyweds period. If you are with the guy then a couple more years won't hurt because if he is still the one he will still be there.

Answer 4

You definitely don't want to get married while you're still figuring out who you are and what you want out of life. A lot of people who get married in that stage of life are also the ones who later say that the feelings are gone, their desires have changed, they're a different person, etc. because it's TRUE! I'm not saying it's a good reason to divorce, but it's true. Waiting until you know who you are, what you want, and where you're going will save you a TON of heartache. Different people get married at different ages and stages of life. It just works differently for different people. I'm 21 and very happily married. My best friend is 21 and marriage is the LAST thing on her mind. And we're both incredibly happy with where we are in life:) Gauge your happiness by YOU, and not how well you fit the norm;)

Answer 5

don't let your friends influence you into something that you are not. If you are not ready you are not ready.
all you need now is FOCUS ON YOUR CAREER and the love of your live will come....I'm sure of that because I wait it and I own my own business and I have a wonderful personality woman of my life. we are happy now and living the life we both want to live.

it is WORTH THE WAIT son....focus on your career will pay it off to the most beautiful woman you want in your life. Just because your friends is tying the knot does NOT MEAN YOU HAVE TO. If all your friends JUMP OFF THE BRIDGE WILL YOU? Don't me STUPID is all I am saying here. Just WAIT and it will come.

There are lots of beautiful women out there looking for nice handsome successful youngman like you...just wait you will NOT REGRET trust me. I been there I know.

Answer 6

You feel pressured about getting married and you have a good head on your shoulders and your right to chose your career before marriage this way you will financially able to have kids and husband one day. You will figure out as you grow older what you want out of life and find someone who wants what you want. Then it will be made a marriage IN heaven. Good luck

Answer 7

Take it from someone who waited too long...it's easier to do it when you are young. When you get older and your profession is going really well, it's hard to give it up. Being 36 and doing just what you said, putting my career first, was a big mistake. I am now without many options. It wasn't worth it.

Answer 8

I got married when I was 20 and let me tell you, I would have waited. I stopped going to school and focused on bringing in money since my husband had a crappy job. I am going back to school now and trying to balance working and being a wife. I would only suggest getting married for 2 students who can continue going to school and get decent jobs( my husband never has gone to college)

Answer 9

It is better to wait, but not too long. After all, if one is established in life, career, house, etc., it is easier than getting married and having to struggle.

Answer 10

don't do it because everyone else is. Then you'll get divorced just like everyone else. When it's time, it'll happen. Enjoy youself and your friends. You don't need another person to be happy.