We found out our daughter is autistic this last March. Since then I've been trying to quit drinking.
The relationship between her father and I has been slowly depleting because I don't want to drink anymore.
Things between us weren't going well at all. I decided to have a few drinks and ended up getting really drunk and I cheated on him.
I have to quit drinking all together now. I made a horrible mistake that I would not have done if I weren't drinking.
He doesn't want to quit. As a matter of fact, he gets mad at the thought of it. Everything that's ever gone wrong in our relationship has happened when we were drinking. He cheated on me before and he's lost a lot of money to gambling at casinos.
I should just move out right?
My daughter needs a special diet and I can't afford to pay for alcohol anymore. He gets mad when I try to tell him these things.
I need help please! I truly made a bad mistake. He's forgiven me for it but doesn't want to stop drinking.
2007-08-13 11:57:02 · 4 answers · asked by Caffiene Junkie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow. Your daughter needs you at your best. Put down the bottle and care for her. She is more than likely going to need care her entire life. If your husband isn't willing to give up drinking for you and her, yes, leave him, get help and get sober.
2007-08-13 12:06:31 · answer #1 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From my understanding alcholism is a big deal. I think that you are placing a great deal of stress on yourself and if you have not already try going to AA this will help you and give you support. Good job deciding not to drink!!! : ) Next I would probably move out if you and your husband cannot reconcile. If you have family or friends that you can move in go for it they will be able to provide you support and get you back on your feet so you can provide your daughter with the stuff that she needs. Good luck and God bless.
2007-08-13 19:07:23 · answer #2 · answered by sunshine 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when you have a affair on someone even if they say they forgive you they never do.. as for the drinking you both were drinking .. just because you will quit and have done so dont mean he wants to.. if he dont want to he wont..if drinking is more important to him then his child than you have to do what you feel is best.. eigther get another job or get on food stamps if you can..you may can get ssi for her and that will help...look into it..if she is not already on it.. but you can not change someone they have to do that for them selve.. i wish you the best of luck..
2007-08-13 19:18:37 · answer #3 · answered by vis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I happen to have an autistic child and his needs COME FIRST!!! There is no way I would expose him to any unstable relationship. These kids need security and routine, it is imperative for them to succeed. I suggest you put your child first and leave. If he changes so be it, but until then focus on your child.
2007-08-13 19:05:56 · answer #4 · answered by skkydreemer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋