grief.....................................?

Question

how long does it take to stop crying, ive been crying for the past week, tonight for 3 hours non-stop, when i go out i can feel myself overwhelmed by emotion and tears coming into my eyes. How long does this stage take, when i can not feel so vulnerable, and start to take control over my actions?

Answer 1

There is no limit...you will grieve as long and as hard as your emotions make you.

I still grieve for my Father and my Sister. I always will, it is just less often that my eyes suddenly fill with tears when I realise just how much I miss them.

I do not regret this though...it is one of the most human things we can ever do.

Answer 2

There is no time limit, lots of things to take into account for instance who you have lost, how close were you, were they always there for you, could you talk to them.
Depending on these on other things will depend how long it takes, do not hold back on the tears they are a release for the body and mind to help you deal with loss.
Never be ashamed to cry, but always remember that you have your memories of that person and no one can take those away from you, after a bit you will stop feeling vulnerable, take control of your actions and move on but you will never totally forget them, sometimes in the future you will remember or see something that will remind you of them and you will realise that instead of crying you were smiling at the memory that is when you know you are feeling less insecure.
My condolences and best wishes go with you

Answer 3

First let me tell you I feel for you. Grief is different for everyone. Each stage is hard. First denial, then anger/pain, the acceptance. Unfortunately I can not tell you how long each stage will last for you. What I can tell you is that you need to hug and love yourself now more strongly than ever before. Go out to dinner and get your favorite food. Take a bubble bath. Have a friend brush your hair. Workout, but make it something you like to do, maybe tennis or swimming if that is what you like. Grief can be hard because it is something we don't want to feel. We want to get rid of it as soon as possible, but that too can be a mistake. Make a list of why you are feeling the way you are feeling using "I" statements. Find your inner strength and yourself again, because if you are like most of us you have lost yourself within whomever you are grieving. Watch yourself cry in a mirror so you can identify with your pain. Then hug yourself while looking in the mirrror and tell yourself you are going to be just fine, better than fine, in fact YOU are in control now and you get an opportunity to have a new start. Get what you want out of a relationship instead of settling. Make a list of what you want and what you DON'T want in a partner. That way you will be ready the next time you meet someone. You will know if they have qualities on the "will not' side and you won't waste your time or your tears later on when it doesnt' work out. Good Luck to you and remember to be good to yourself.

Answer 4

I completely understand what you're going via, and the sentiments and emotions you're experiencing are genuine and normall. I bear in mind while my brother died, and what my mum and dad went via. it is much extra troublesome, as that's not popular. A parent could outlive the youngster, so that's extra troublesome while dying does not come this way. i assumed my mum and dad might under no circumstances get well. They felt unhappiness and guilt for a lengthy time, yet ultimately have been given better, it took them speaking approximately it for all time. i think for you, it is any such confusing ingredient, one won't be able to stay interior the grief point constantly tho, the Lord did not make us this way. especially quickly we start to make sure the gentle on the tip of the tunnel, and that's ok. this could be the toughest ingredient you ever bypass via, yet you're able to make it. Pray and ask the Lord to help you.

Answer 5

Grief is hard to control sometimes but it depends on what or whom you are grieving about. It helps to understand what grief really is. We grieve when we feel our heart is breaking due to the loss of something or someone. Notice that I said 'we feel' because sometimes that is the key to getting over the grief and getting on with our lives. I will take a death as the instance since I don't know what you are grieving about. If someone dies that is close to us, they have gone on to better things and they are not thinking about us any longer, so it's not them that is having the problem with the parting, it is the person they left behind that has the problem dealing with the loss. The best medicine for loss is to get involved with someone else that needs more than you do. If it was a spouse, I'm not saying that you rush out and find a new guy. I'm say that you need to find someone in this world that is lonelier than you are to love on, someone that has lost someone and is hurting even more than you are. For example, get involved in a ministry to an old folks home to help others who are lonesome. Or if it is a pet you lost, become part of a rescue of battered and abondoned animals because they are hurting so bad from abuse. When we take our eyes off of our circumstances and put them on the needs of someone else, our pain and suffering is lessened dramatically and our grief lessens with the pain and suffering we have been experiencing. Go get involved with volunteer work. Then if you cry, it will be for someone else's grief and you will build a strong character inside of you to help them as well as help yourself.

Answer 6

The length of the grief process is different for everyone. There is no predictable schedule for grief. Although it can be quite painful at times, the grief process cannot be rushed. It is important to be patient with yourself as you experience the feelings and your unique reactions to the loss. With time and support, things generally do get better. However, it is normal for significant dates, holidays, or other reminders to trigger feelings related to the loss.

Taking care of yourself, seeking support, and acknowledging your feelings during these times are ways that can help you cope.
its all normal. take care x

Answer 7

everyone handles grief in their own way and it takes time to get over. when my dad passed last year i cried everyday and sometimes for hours. everyday that i went out and passed by the cemetary or something that reminded me of him or someone that resembled him i would break down. its been a year and i still have my moments, but for the most part i've accepted that he's in a better place now.

Answer 8

I don't know dear. I lost my brother 4 years ago and Mum followed him exactly a year to the very week after him. There is'nt a day goes by l don't cry. l cope by looking at the good things, the laughter, the daft things we did etc... I don't think it goes away, you just learn to live with it eventually

Answer 9

grief affects different people in different ways dont be ashamed cry whenever you need to itll get easier but itll never totally go away just take one day at a time

Answer 10

I don't know if this will help... but when I lost someone close to me ...I realised I was cyring for MY lost coz I lost someone.

Try and Think of them

It's HARD

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