How can I get over this feeling?

Question

I really feel bad for ruining my ex-husband's life by leaving him so many times and then returning.

I feel sad that he is alone now because I will be keeping my daughter with me now.

I really don't know how to break away from him and not feel so guilty.

I have always lived in hope that he would change and realize his mistakes.

I feel sad and guilty for ruining and creating havoc in his and my daughter's life.

I wish my life was not so difficult and I had a "normal" life.

How do I not feel so guilty toward him?

Answer 1

You are not responsible for his actions, emotions, or his life. It is your guilt that keeps you attached to him. When you can release that and focus on the now, you will begin healing. Do it for yourself and your daughter. Sending prayers and positive energy your way....

Answer 2

hi,my heart goes out to you.if you and your husband split so many times then there is obivious a reason?that happen to me and my husband,the first time was for 6 months,i left him on our 12th anniversary,to the day.the second time was for 2 yrs,i felt bad and blamed myself.he would call me just about every night,even if i had a boyfriend.weve been back together now for 4 yrs and things are better,you have to ask yourself questions?do you want to go on with your life?if so then you have to tell him that,you can still talk to him but limit the amount of time.you have to quit blaming yourself,thats the only was you will ever be free.we all go thru difficult times and whish for a normal life.be happy with yourself and who you are then the rest will fall in place..take care

Answer 3

So you are blaming yourself for him not changing and him making mistakes? If it's his fault there is no way you should feel guilty about anything.