how to open up more?!?

Question

I'm going to be moving into an appartment with 3 other asian guys (the fact they are asian has nothing to do with it, just info. in fact, i find asians to be my favorite race..other than my own). Anyways, i am a pretty shy guy and i find it really hard to open up to someone and im going to be living with a guy that is, apparently, very energetic, hyper etc. and it worries me that i wont be able to open up to him and the rest of my roommates fast enough. i dont want to be this kind of shy guy anymore. i want to be outgoing too! the thing is, i dont like doing stupid stufff because i always think about how i'd look if i do the act and it turns me off from be "crazy" or whatnot. Basically, how can i be more fun to be around etc.

thanks guys.

Answer 1

don't question yourself so much. just do things. you probably worry if you say or do x you'll look like a complete x - so what. but just don't make a fool of yourself- to thine own self be true - are they worried that they might be too outrageous for you? if the answer is most likely no - then to hell with them. stop thinking about others so much, u have a right to be here and u have value - shyness is an attribute not a fault!

Answer 2

Well don't pick that guy to copy. I wouldn't move in with him. There are a lot of sharing in a college area.
The other thing is easy. Pick someone you'd like to be like and imagine your are them. How they walk, stand, facial expressions, every little thing and how they would think and feel. After all your image is only what you think of and not you. You have thoughts, you are not your thoughts. Can you get the picture that you are the awareness watching the show. That way you access your unique human ability to get outside yourself and watch the show. That's the better mindset or state of consciousness. We all copy other people or the image we have of ourselves. It's not really you, just what you think about. We tend to identify with what we think about so think of something new. lol And you will be it. If you judge yourself you will judge others. You wouldn't want someone to do it to you so don't do it to yourself or others. Descriptive words rather than judgmental negative words. You are what you think, but thoughts come and go. Don't believe in them or maybe don't hang on to them. They are thoughts of yesterday that doesn't exist. Only now exists. The odd thing is that you become more stable without being rigid. We have to be able to act in a situation from the situation and not preconceived notions and memory. Every moment is different. Ideas remain in your sub conscious so they aren't going anywhere, they're just not you, but an idea only. Marry them and you get old quick. That's the mind flip they're talking about, but then you have the problem of being arrogant so "Think no more of yourself than you have to, but think so as to have a sound mind." And don't mess with the girls until your are ready to settle down because they will all be chasing you and you only want the best. Just some warnings. I recommend celibacy as you won't need anyone if you keep going along the line you will see. Life will be easier single. Listen to your intuition like everyone else, but you will be better at it. You'll be fun to be around yourself. You won't wonder what's happening, it will be you. Oh, and everyone uses affirmations everyday to purge negative thoughts, they are like a disease. You will get in touch with deeper feelings with objective thinking, because you will be able to handle them. Don't take them too seriously. Try trans4mind if you don't get it, cause it works real good. The self you admire is yourself. That old tech only works a while.

Answer 3

my horoscope today said that "things u feel awkward about don't get much attention. It begs the question, what would you do if no one was looking."

This has personal meaning to me cause of the past weekend. You see no one really cares, people do stupid stuff all the time. Think of all the stupid things your friends do, you forgive them, why wouldn't they forgive you? Also the successes you do have will excuse the mistakes. For example Alexander the Great Slaughters thousands of people, is a sexual deviant and thinks he's god, but he built Alexandria and was successful at war, thus they call him the great and history is kind to him. Even in life the two balance out. just keep learning from your mistakes and do the best you can do.

Answer 4

I am the same way. Just try to do things that you haven't tried yet or that you don't love, but don't mind doing. For example, if they go out to different places, go with them so you are not left out, because that will affect everyone's relationship with each other

Answer 5

i thought you were gay. didn't you say you preferred asian men over all other men? so now you're moving in with asian men and you;re worried about being the odd man out? lol, you got other things happening that are more relevant bud.

Answer 6

Get around those who love you more, and go away form those who don't

Hardest thing in anyone life to achieve is self knowledge and worth make your choices wisely so you don't have to suffer any transgression here and there

Answer 7

hey shy guy.i tink the last thing u hav to worry about is the guys being asian..i think wer the most tolerant people on earth lookin at our history thro the ages..
so be urself n if the people dont like u for wat ur then tats their problem,...

Answer 8

Well you could find things you have in common. Also you need a confidence-boost! having more confidence to do stupid things is good.

Answer 9

Just be yourself. if you try to act like something you're not (ie very hyper manic etc) you'll just end up doing something stupid.