How do you know if you have high emotional intelligence?

Question

I mean what exactly does it mean - that you understand other peoples emotions yet can control your own?

What if you can understand others, yet are still emotional yourself?

Answer 1

Emotional intelligence is the innate potential to feel, use, communicate, recognize, remember, learn from, manage and understand emotions.

Answer 2

Emotional intelligence has two different components: your understanding of others and their emotions, and your understanding of yourself and your emotions. If you have a high degree of emotional intelligence, you will be very empathic toward others (i.e., you will be able to understand exactly what they are feeling and why; empathy is basically the ability to feel along with others). People with strong empathic abilities may sense what another person is feeling, even though they have no proof to back up their intuition (and they're usually right).

If you have high emotional intelligence, you will also be able to understand your own emotions and where they come from. You will be able to identify which emotions you are having at a particular time, and connect these emotions to the thoughts or events that preceded them. And believe it or not, emotional intelligence does NOT involve controlling your own emotions (as in not crying, for example). In fact, a person with a high EQ (emotional quotient) will allow himself to feel and acknowledge whatever emotions he is having at the time. If that emotion happens to be sadness, then he will allow himself to feel sadness, even if it means crying, because he knows that it's much healthier to deal with emotions as they arise than to "stuff" them away. It's the emotions that we repress that will eventually come back and make us sick someday. If, at the time, he has an emotion, it's not appropriate to express that emotion, then he's able to hold it back long enough to get to a place where it's okay to express the emotion. When he's in private (or in safe company), then he experiences the emotion.

Answer 3

First and foremost, we have to have self awareness......the abililty to identify what our feelings are at any given time, and the root cause. With that self awareness, and general knowledge of emotions (in this case our own), we can then properly evaluate, draw reasonable conclusions, and relate to others emotions, or even prdict with some accuracy, our emotions and others based on any event.

Another key factor in emotional intelligence is our core belief system. Our belief will determine our reaction (or lack of one) to a given set of circumstances, and again, the ability to speculate as to others reactions to the same circumstances. If we are walking down the sidewalk and see a squiggly object in the grass, and our belief is that it is a snake, we run from fear. If, on the other hand, we believe it is just a stick, then of course there is no reaction or emotion. Once we have a valild set of healty core beliefs coupled with our awareness and knowledge, we can then be considered emotionally intelligent.

Answer 4

Never heard that before....

Intelligence is the ability to understand and use new concepts.

Not sure how that would relate to emotions. Maybe if there were new emerging emotions, but I think we're pretty much stuck with our current ones. Anger, fear, happiness, ect....

Perhaps it just means that you have a good understanding of emotions. That comes more with wisdom and knowledge than intelligence, though. So I'd say it's just a funny way of saying it.

Answer 5

It's the capacity to assess and manage the emotions of one's self, others and/or groups. It involves awareness, intuition, and typically some sort of an education to have insight into current and potential emotional states.

It goes beyond being able to say "that person is sad" or whatever. Emotionally intelligent people know how to confront certain people, or otherwise talk to them in ways that will help them, based on assessments of the readiness and abilities of others to hear and understand certain difficult things.

That's just my own description. Wikipedia and other resources give pretty good descriptions too.

Answer 6

"Emotional Intelligence" is a gift and cannot be developed past a certain (limited) point.

It is a description of those of us who are able to connect, empathize, and spiritually (or psychologically?) identify with the feelings and thought processes of Others, even those with whom we have no direct connection -- as in the Miners and Their Families in the news so much this last week.

There are different levels of Emotional Intelligence.

Some of us feel the Pain of Humanity.
Others feel the Pain of Children.
Some of us feel the Pain of Alcoholics.
Others of us feel the Pain of Endangered Species...

All of the above (at least, to me....) are valid and timeless.
Yet, not every cause strikes a chord within Those Who Cry.

The thing to remember when thinking about Emotional Intelligence, is that not everyone knows (or more importantly, "cares!") about the feelings and subsequent development of any living being besides their own.

Those of us who HAVE Emotional Intelligence are more suited to social services and religious vocations than those of us who are not. We have a more positive influence if we are naturally predisposed to the development of the human organism than if we are simply in the Field for monetary or other reasons, such as Status.

Die-Hard Liberals are rarely Emotionally Intelligent...they are usually more akin to Die-Hard Die-Hards: the very act of demonstrating their "Opposition To The (perceived) Status Quo" is their claim to fame when it comes to "asserting themselves"....

A truly "Emotionally Intelligent Person" understands that ALL Beings, whether Independent or not ---
(and ESPECIALLY, NOT!!!) ---
deserve a chance at Life...Life that is Unhindered.

An Emotionally Intelligent Person may have an IQ of 90, but have beautiful (lasting!) relationships which shape the World!
A person with no Emotional Intelligence may have an IQ of 255, but have no 'feeling" for his Fellow Man...
which is better to be desired?
I say, the more HUMAN of the Two is he with limited skills but a more developed heart -- more feeling -- for his Fellow Traveller.

If we can commisurate and identify with our fellow Human Beings, we are more akin in terms of Reality.

You can tell if you have Emotional Intelligence by taking an Inventory of Yourself:

Do you understand and respect Others' needs, failures, accomplishments, desires?
Do you accept correction when you are wrong?
Do you understand that Others may infringe upon your Time & Energy, if you Love them, based upon your Willingness to "Be There" for them?

Are you caught up in your everyday Life, or do you find yourself exhausted by Others' demands....?

"Emotional Intelligence" simply means that you are willing to feel (experience) other peoples' pain, anxiety, and need for connection -- and that you place their feelings as equal in importance to your own.

By the way, you marked yourself as Emotionally Intelligent (to some degreee) by even ASKING this Question !!!

God Love Ya! I'd love to have a Friend like you!! : )

Answer 7

I wonder if you are more refering to morals there is a ranking system you know of how high humans can reach on a scale of morals i think the lowest is self-centered. It was created when studying children since they have to deveop morals.
Look up piaget-moral deveopment and vygotsky

Answer 8

we're women, baby! we're born with it

Answer 9

I think it is all about empathy etc but please do not quote me