my wife and i have been togehter 4 10 years she is27 i am 28 we have 4 kids2,3,7,8 the marraige wasnt that bad she said she left from our argueing we have been seperated for four months now ibegged her back everyday but nthing untill i found out a month ago shes having an affair with her ex the same guy that dumped her 4 her friend 12years ago she says she wants to be with him that hurt like hell because we have 4 beautiful children toghether and a marraige,I already pay daycare every week ,she the one who decided to commit adultry shouldnt she have to pay her own bills? I was helping at first with the hope she would come back to me but nothing,Her whole familys putting a guilt trip on me .."if you loved your kids you would pay for the car if you looved your kids you would pay your wifes rent...I would And i did when we were togeter she walked out the door and steped on my soul as she was doing it.............Should I help her with her bills
2007-08-13 11:30:34 · 23 answers · asked by ELITE 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NOPE- that's her new bf's job.
2007-08-13 11:38:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
As far as I know, whoever "hits" has the liability or is "at fault". In other words, insurance companies and law enforcements viewpoint is, "If you are following all the rules of the road and safety, there is never any reason to hit anything." Now, if there was ice on the road, that might atleast make things lean more in your favor, but I think you have to have a photo taken that day of the stretch of road you slid on. That's why they say you should always have atleast a disposable camera in your car to take a photo of an accident and accident scene on the day of the accident, along with a cell phone, your insurance information, driver's license and registration. Hopefully you have car insurance that will pay even if it is your fault, or if not, a lot of friends and family that will help you in this time of crisis. There's a lot of other factors to take into account: was either of the drivers driving while impaired, or in a rush, did either leave the scene of the accident before law enforecement arrived, what kind of vehicles were involved, did both have car insurance-dl license-registration-etc... So hopefully, maybe there's other factors that are in your favor here. In either case, it's a wake-up call to always drive safely and defensively and keep as much space between you and other moving vehicles or objects as possible, have a seat belt on, and don't have any distractions like listening to the radio, eating, drinking, talking on a cell phone, etc... I know all this because I've been driving for years now, and have only been in a few accidents. In every accident except one, someone hit me and for some reason none of them even had a driver's license!!!! In the accident where I hit someone, I rear ended someone, just like you did. So since I "hit", it was my fault, even though the car in front of me stopped short and really fast, not giving me any time to stop. The only thing that saved me was that the car I hit left the scene of the accident, and, from what I understand, it was some kind of insurance scam on the part of the other driver.
2016-05-17 05:41:02 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be talking to an attorney. Then he should file a motion in court regarding your wife leaving and wanting you to pay for her new place and the car. The judge will look at the situation and will decide who should be responsible. You will be ordered to pay child support for your children regardless of just separation or a divorce. As far as alimony, if you or she does file for divorce, in NJ,(don't know what state u live in) if the marriage is over 10 years, then most likely one party will be ordered to pay some type of support to the other.. The one who makes the most money. When she walked out the door, it is called abandonment, and you have a right to change all locks on the doors of your residence and not allow her back if you choose not to. But go to an attorney and soon..There are many who give a free initial consultation..And, if you can't afford one, there are many in Legal Aid. Just look in the phone book.. But it's time you get legal advice and get a Judge's order on this matter, while separated and or if going to divorce.. Good Luck..Scorpiosweb.
2007-08-13 11:53:18 · answer #3 · answered by Joanie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will be ordered child support soon if she decides to file divorce papers and she has the kids, so it will look good on you to make sure your kids are taken care of. That means having a place to sleep and food to eat. You didn't state whether she works or not, since you are paying day care, I am assuming she does. The bigger question is "What does she do with her paycheck"? If she is just having a little trouble making ends meet with all the kids, then I believe you owe it to YOUR KIDS, not to her, to make sure they are provided for. How would you sleep at night knowing that your kids are sleeping on the street, (or possibly worse, at the other guys house) if she gets kicked out of her house. It's a no win situation, I wish you luck and you might want to think about divorce proceedings and fighting for custody if you want to have your kids living with you.
2007-08-13 11:52:06 · answer #4 · answered by Suzette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If those are your children, give her child support, that's all she needs and that should help with bills and rent. That's what it's for, so the children can continue to live in the life style as if you two were still together, so if she want someone to pay her bills, let the new man do that.
2007-08-13 11:44:17 · answer #5 · answered by Fee-Fee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if she signs a form 8332 for your taxes which releases the dependency of all four children to you. Then wake up and obtain the services of a good attorney. Don't beg; even if she came back it would be like walking on eggshells; and she would take off again; and so on. Been there, done that!!! Cut to the chase, divorce her, and move ahead with your life. The egg has broken and you can't put it back together with any degree of success.
2007-08-13 11:43:50 · answer #6 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you don't need to help her with her bills. Just because you have kids together does not mean that you have to pay for her bills. If she can't afford to live on her own and have her car, then she needs to figure that out on her own. Don't let her depend on you for everything because she'll just take advantage of you (like she is doing now). Who cares what her family is saying. If they care so much about her too, then they should help her pay for her bills. Remember: she's the one that left your marriage for her EX. You've got to concentrate on you and your kids ONLY. Good luck!
2007-08-13 11:46:38 · answer #7 · answered by love_me_or_hate_me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No she needs to pay you child support if you have the kids.
If she has the kids and you are paying childcare (very expensive) I think that's good enough since she is living with that guy let him pay for the sugar shack.
Make sure your kids have food & decent clothes that you can take to them. Make sure you stay in touch with the kids too.
Get your diivorce and let the courts decide the child support.
2007-08-13 11:42:33 · answer #8 · answered by theladygeorge 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you still married? In some states marital property and marital debt are shared jointly even when you split until the papers are filed. I suggest getting the divorce. If she gets custody of your children...pay your child support. If you supported her the whole of the last 10 years she may try to get alimony. Best bet? Talk to your lawyer. Me personally? I'd set fire to my paycheck before I gave one dime to pay the bills of my ex and his lover.....my kids different story.
2007-08-13 11:44:11 · answer #9 · answered by peggy m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it,she's just USING YOU man.Since it can't be worked out get an attorney and file for a divorce.Don't ever use the kids as an excuse to stay together cause' in the end it will hurt them more than help them!
2007-08-13 11:47:33 · answer #10 · answered by m-caesar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you and her should sit down figure out how much childsupport(including childcare) you should pay her each month and start paying that and only that if it is only enough for the childcare then thats all she gets if it is enough for childcare and a little extra then she can use it as she wishes for rent or car payment her childsupport can be used on anything that she wishes like rent car payment utilities because your children all need these things
Good Luck
2007-08-13 11:39:55 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋