so im 17 but i live my life stressed out and lonely,im young, beautiful, healthy, yet i feel like i dont belong. see, im an immigrant and i dont yet have legal status in the country (the case is in immigration and i have to wait, wait and wait) i came here when i was 10. i graduated highschool #6 in class rank and cant go to the college of my choice(a shame not being able to go with my 4.0 GPA), yup! i have to go to a community college and PAY for it, it hurts to see my classmates go off to college w/ full scholarships, i cant get a job(no SSN) and my parents struggle to pay. i dont have alot of friends, only a supportive boyfriend that has issues of his own, his dad needs a heart transplant and hes gonna have to move to NY, i live in NJ (if he doesnt move he would have to come up with 1 million dollars for the operation!), hes my only distraction and now hes moving, i dont get along w/ my parents that well..is there anyone out there that can relate to me? give me advice??
2007-08-13 11:06:45 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
well for all of you that are saying that many people pay for school IKNOW that and if i could get a ******* job i would do so but i cant!! and i deserve some sort of financial aid for my 4.0 GPA but get get that either!!!
2007-08-13 11:13:11 · update #1
if anyone know about those organizations i would appreciate if you could tell me more about them, because believe me, I have done my research and theres nothing that i have found
2007-08-13 11:16:53 · update #2
dear flowergirl: yes i do, because ive seen cases of people with lower grades at my school getting full scholarships, at my community college they pay for full tuituon to students with a 3.5 gpa or higher and just because i dont have a ssn i wouldnt qualify..
2007-08-13 11:25:19 · update #3
dear candy g: we did file papers!! i said so already and i also said that we are waiting, the case has to be processed, but we have been waiting 4 years and the case entered immigration in january
2007-08-13 11:42:20 · update #4
AND WE DO OBEY RULES, PAY TAXES LIKE EVERYONE ELSE AND DONT COMMIT CRIMES LIKE MANY IMMIGRANTS DO...FOR ALL THE HATERS OUT THERE: I ASKED FOR ADVISE NOT HATE
2007-08-13 11:43:55 · update #5
i am sorry for all the hate that you are receiving, some people are insensitive assholes. I can't say that I relate, compared to you I was born privledged even thoough I am poor and disabled, at least I have a SSN which helps me be qualified for help. All I can say is try to hold on, and keep up contact with your bf, hopefully when his dad is better he can come back. And the gov is slow as hell, but hold on because it sounds like you deserve to live here as much as or maybe more than anyone else, it sounds like all you want is to be a good citizen and live a good life. Good luck to you and if you want to talk, feel free to email!
2007-08-13 16:23:59 · answer #1 · answered by Ruthie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OK why have you been here for over 7 years and STILL have not filed your papers for a work permit................
be grateful that you was ABLE to go to school and sorry your GPA whilst good does not mean a bloody thing, IMO you sound like yet another immigrant falling off the boat wanting to know why they are not getting it all handed to them, oh and heres a news flash I am also going through immigration.
Where do your parents work or are they also illegal...if they are then maybe they can get you some sort of work at the place they work.............
I rather resent that you feel with a GPA you are ENTITLED to getting a free ride...........maybe go back to the country you came from and demand free education there would solve your problem
Fed up in Florida....................fed up of people not feeling that they have to obey the rules.......
EDIT dont shout dear......if you have filed the papers then you are on the small stretch of the race now, once you get an acceptance ruling which does NOT take 7+ years for you, then you can apply for a SSN whilst the rest is going thrugh a decision.............
2007-08-13 18:30:37 · answer #2 · answered by candy g 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I was 17 once and life was totally stressful. Living on my own, trying to scrape together enough for my next meal and sometimes not even having a place to lay my head. I look back at it now and I am thankful. My life has totally turned around. I have an amazing daughter, a very successful career that fulfills me and a home that I love. Nothing is ever as bad as it seems. What you endure and overcome now will shape you into the person you will become in the future. There are always the smallest blessings in the toughest situations and someone else out there that has it 20 times worse than you. Be thankful that you're able to be in the country you're in, with the benefits you do have. Be thankful that you have people in your life that care about you. And always try and look on the positive side. Things have a strange way of working themselves out...whether you see it now or not.
2007-08-13 18:16:48 · answer #3 · answered by TRACEY B 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Remember your commencement (graduation)? What does that really mean? Commencement means "beginning." Yes, you are just beginning your life! It is not time to give up. It is time to make goals and move forward. My father was an immigrant to this country. He only had a third grade education. He did not give up. He could speak four languages. He started six businesses! He was a creative entreprenuer. If he got knocked down, he picked himself up and worked even harder. You are bright #6. Go to community college and pay for it! The returns are great! I went to community college and I paid for it. I got loans when I went to university. I graduated from college with three loans to pay back. I got a scholarship to go to graduate school. I bought a car and paid that off because I had a good job. I owned four houses and made more money. Community college is inexpensive - even if you work at McDonald's! and McD even has scholarship programs for their employees! Did you apply for a work visa? You must show yourself friendly to make friends. Put yourself out there and move forward. Ask questions. Ask for help. Keep asking until you get help and get the answers you need. Don't quit. You can do it! Don't take no for an answer! If your boyfriend is a distraction then you don't need him. Don't let anyone distract you from your goals. and make amends with your parents. They are the only ones you got. I thought mine were backward because they were not versed in American ways. But they meant well, tried hard, and did their best for me.
2007-08-13 18:22:51 · answer #4 · answered by gracie 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
apply for a work visa get a job and build a bridge...sorry if that sounds harsh but everyone dose it born here or not...you think you got it bad baby your only 17 you have a whole lifetime to go through i am married 4 kids and my husband works full time in the navy i have a job and he still has to pay for school and had good grades too.that's life giving up is just a line of b.s. and not wanting to work for something or figure out a way around because your grades were good and you think it should be handed to you ...not!!! there is nothing wrong with community college make it work for i did and still make more than my husband who went to a university before joining the navy....good luck
2007-08-13 18:17:41 · answer #5 · answered by andrea r 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't relate because I'm a citizen, but I can understand your frustration! Check all the websites for immigration help. Here are a couple:
www.free-immigrationhelp.com/(your state)
www.usimmigrationsupport.org.
There are also websites for immigration forms to download. Just enter immigration help in your search engine and everything you need to know is there somewhere. Maybe this well help your parents to get the ball moving, too. You're 17 and will need your ssn soon. Good luck and keep us posted.
2007-08-13 18:23:15 · answer #6 · answered by dawnUSA 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow, sometimes I feel the same way. My advice 2 u is don't give up hope. Stay postive and be supportive 2 ur boyfriend. Stay in school of cousre and get a job if u can. So u can help ur parents pay for u to finsh community college and stuff. I hope that will help u. Gurl just don't give up on liife. Life didn't give up on u.
2007-08-13 18:17:25 · answer #7 · answered by Zoey H 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
God there are so many issues that you have on your plate. We all have many problems as we are growing. I really feel that maybe you have too many for this forum. I think you should contact a social services center in your area,that can help you deal with these things one at a time. I am also the type that piles everything up, it makes things seem so much worse. take them one at a time. Good Luck. I will sincerely pray for you. You may want to pray also. It helps if you can believe that someone else is thinking of you.
2007-08-13 18:16:45 · answer #8 · answered by Kurt K 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Try getting grants, you'd be surprised as to how many organizations will give you money for college despite the fact you're not a legal citizen. I don't understand why big University's won't want you as a student, I see A LOT of foreigners at my school, in fact they run all the computer labs in my school. Don't give up, good luck to you.
2007-08-13 18:13:23 · answer #9 · answered by Miss 6 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Susana you are only 17 I mean you've got all your future before you even if there are lot of problems don't be so pessimistic you can find lots of people to help you but you should also rely on yourself. This experience will be hard for you to live but I am sure you'll come over it just remain confident you can send me an E-mail if you need anything
Just be confident and keep hope
2007-08-13 18:18:04 · answer #10 · answered by BLiSsSa B 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋