I have no friends. Is this normal?

Question

im 16, and i dont have a social life. Sure i know people and know how to act around people, im not a social retard. But i just don't feel the need to go out. Im really into wrestling and thats basically my life. I just feel alone sometimes; like no ones around to talk to. I feel like its too late to start a social life now that im a junior in high school.

Btw: anyone who calls me a loser watch out. I can bench press 230 and dead lift 350+. I'll find out who you are and through you through a wall.

Answer 1

Impressive stats. Yeah I'm like that too but, eventually it all clicks and you gotta take some hits ya know? I don't know how helpful that just was but I have a lot of aquantinces and almost no friends, if your in my shoes, it's better that way!

Answer 2

That's fine! :)

Some people just like being alone and are very independent. Some people like having just one close friend rather than 20 so-so friends who they're aren't that close with.

It's not too late to try and make friends! It never is! Start hanging with some of the guys at the gym, or some of the ones you wrestle with. Join a club after school, get a job (if you don't already have one) and make friends there. Work is a great place to make friends.

I'm in college 9 hours away from my hometown and I didn't know anyone when I started school. When I found a job, however, I made so many friends. I now have 5 best friends that I am constantly meeting new people through just from finding work. Just be friendly but be yourself...you'll find the right friends that way! :)

Good luck...and don't give up. There really is a friend out there for everyone.

Answer 3

Sure it's normal to have no close friends for periods of time. But 16 is not a cut off date to having a few close friends. It sounds like you don't want a fake friend and so are choosier than most. That's fine. But whatever you do, don't spend so much time alone that you go getting weird about things. Leave that to the psychopaths. Okay? No hard core porn. No perverted fantasies. Stuff like that. Really. They'll lead you down a revolting, pathetic path. Steer way clear of it!!!

That said, friends do make life more fun. Can you imagine a party without any? Boring!!! Same with any other activity you could name. It sounds like you could stand to lighten up on the wrestling enough to see the light of day around you, and check out what's going on with the folks you do know. I mean, what could be so wrong about going bowling, or checking out a movie with someone you know and get along with? I'm sure it isn't out of the question to make friends with the same wrestling interest that you have, too. That may be the way to go. So good luck. Whether you like it or not, there's probably a friend right around the corner to help take that edge of loneliness away, and give a lot more meaning to your life at the same time. So enjoy it when it happens. That's the least you can do.

Answer 4

Just a note, threating people isnt a way to find friends. As for normal, what is normal? Everyone has a different idea of normal. I never had much of a social life. I would have always liked to have more friends, but was always kinda shy and still am at 31. If you are happy, then go with it. If you feel like you are missing something maybe find someone who has the same interests or maybe a girlfriend. But don't find friends just because you think that is what life is suppose to be like. Life is different for everyone. Live your life, find your own happiness(cheesy but true). Also congratulation on your lifting and commitment to wrestling

Answer 5

Maybe the kids at your high school aren't on the same level as you are. I was in 9th grade before I actually had a friend most of the time I was off by myself reading or something. I felt like nobody interested me, you know. But it'll be okay. I don't think you're a loser at all. And that alone feeling everbody has those. I'm married with a 3 month old and I feel alone sometimes and my husband's ALWAYS, ALWAYS at home. It'll get better. You'll find people who are on the same page as you.

Answer 6

It's never to late to have a social life! Are you on the wrestling team? If so, could you hang with those guys?
Is there anyone else at school that seems to hang alone... try chatting up him/her and see where it may go...
If going out isn't your thing, then don't worry about it. Just be yourself...

** BTW the whole angry comment at the end of your post would not be a good start to making friends...

Answer 7

Hey!
To be honest...it's not good that you have no friends.
I think that the problem is that you're too shy and that you go in for wrestling...yeap!
I think you should become more of a girly girl.Try not to talk bout weight lifting,wrestling and stuff like that...it makes people frightend and they think that you are freaky...
Go to discos,communicate with people in the INET,go to the cinema...there are hundreds of ways to find friends or at least new aquaintances.
Go and give it a try!

Answer 8

I don't think you have a problem at all. Alot of people are just happy being themselves. The fact that you mention that you do get lonely at times does tell me that you are in need of social interaction.

Go to a busy public place and strike up conversations. You would be surprised who would love to talk to you. If you can handle it, go to a nursing home or other place where people are genuinely lonely.

Bottom line, you need to ACT if you are lonely and find friends to meet.

Hope this helps...and please be careful.

Answer 9

i am going to tell you the truth. that really isnt normal and never say never its not to late to have a social life if your in wresling dude hang with some kids on the team and if offerd to go to a party or chill then go whos stoppin you. when your an adult and have no friends then you'll be srry that you didnt start a social life
Never too LATE

Answer 10

Just do whatever makes you happy. It's never too late to start a social life though.