She has been very rude to me,and ignoring me.And all this other stuff that i am not going to say. But now she wrote me a letter in the mail saying she wants to be best friends again and shes changing.But i really dont know because she has said that kind of stuff before.
2007-08-13 09:26:48 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Ok well that answers my question,im gonna forgive her of course,plus i cant ruin a friendship that has been for so long,since 3rd grade.
And i finally talked to her on the phone and we discussed everything through!
2007-08-13 10:49:26 · update #1
You have to know that when you truly love someone, it would also be easier for you to be mad at them. By posting, I know you care for her. Give her another shot at it. Now, I don't know how close you guys are or how strong the bond is but know that, it's hard to find a true friend and even harder to be sisters with someone. It takes a lot of time and effort to maintain a good friendship with someone and if it's someone you really care about, why not take the chance, if she see what you see, then when you're hurt, she's feeling it as well to change herself before it's too late. Sometimes, they won't see what you see unless they go through it. Allow yourself to see if she really has change, if she continues to put others before you and ignore you, then you know what to do. As long as you do what your heart wants, not whether it's logical or not, because only you know what you want.
2007-08-13 10:06:48 · answer #1 · answered by confusegir 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends all what all the other stuff is. You should surround yourself with people who treat you how you treat them. She needs to understand what you will not tolerate in a friendship. Friends do have off moments and nobody is perfect, we all make mistakes, but if she continually disrespects or hurts you, then you need to tell her how you feel about that. I'm sure you still care about her, so just put your standards out there and see what she says. Sort of sounds like she may be a bit jealous of you, ignoring and being rude etc. So it may come down to her own insecurity, which is sad, but at the same time its not fair for her to treat you bad because she has self esteem issues. Just talk to her about it all.
2007-08-13 16:36:15 · answer #2 · answered by Maalru3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand your situation, because i ws in a similar situation a while back. you are having problems trusting her again. if she was pulled crap like this on you before, and then was all "oh i'm sorry i'll never do it again" well, obviously you know she will do it again. if this is her first time doing this to you, i would give her another chance. maybe she was going through a hard time with family or other friends or something and just was taking it out on someone
2007-08-13 16:32:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well talk 2 her 1 on 1 tell her how u feel me and my friend got into a fight and we said some hateful things to each other but we sat down and talked it all out and let our feelings out and now were friends again. besides friendship isnt friendship without fights thats just the way it works. if shes sry give her another chance but let her know wat she did wrong and see if she understands hope that helps.
2007-08-13 16:40:05 · answer #4 · answered by taylor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure she is your friend? Sounds as if she has hurt you alot of times, if you continue forgiving her she`ll just continue to hurt you over and over again, talk to her and tell her how you really feel before you make a decision
2007-08-13 16:30:41 · answer #5 · answered by jhods400 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive her of course, but do not forget what she's done to you. How much of a friend can she really be if she is constantly doing things to you that make you unhappy.
2007-08-13 16:33:15 · answer #6 · answered by grace95838 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should give her just one more chance. Since you said she's said that before, though, I say make this her last chance and start looking for new friends if she doesn't respect you.
2007-08-13 16:31:02 · answer #7 · answered by Ellophante 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well since i dont no wat other stuff has happened..i think u shud forgive her and give her another last chance. i had one friend who did that all the time. i gave her one last chance. and she did it again. and now we're not friends. and its okay for me. so i wud say that u shud try to be good to her and see how she is now. but remember to tell her that this is her last chance. and if she does it again you will not ever forgive her.
2007-08-13 16:45:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive her, but don't forget. You can be friends, but don't get too close to her. Just keep her as a casual friend, because she probably won't change.
2007-08-13 16:33:00 · answer #9 · answered by SuperVixn1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously think alot of her, why not just explain how she makes you feel when she acts like that then try to become friends with her but on your terms
2007-08-13 16:32:35 · answer #10 · answered by Beverley D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋