2007-08-13 08:44:28 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Being human, that is impossible. Life willl always get messy, and love wil always hurt. If they did not present challenges, we would have no way to see their value, and cherish what we have. Things will always go wrong, no one is immune to that. Love will always hurt, when it is over or we are mislead or mis treated. We can not plan for everything in life, that is why it is important to make wise decisions when ever you have the chance to control some part of your life. If love did not hurt, we would not know how precious it is, and how not to treat someone we love. We learn from experience, and it is through these experiences that we are supposed to learn to do better the next time. Turning into ice will not make anything any easier, it will hurt more.
2007-08-13 13:17:17 · answer #1 · answered by Hot Coco Puff 7 · 12⤊ 0⤋
Hurting is apart of life. What defines you is how you deal with that pain. Life and love will ALWAYS pose danger for pain, but it's worth the risk if you ask me. Instead of worrying about toughening up, I would focus on finding things within your life and your love life that make you happy more and hurt you less.
Just cut out the middle man. What about Life and Love make you hurt? Take away those things or change those things so that you will stop hurting.
You shouldn't have to toughen up. Don't make yourself cold and dark hearted, instead make life easier.
2007-08-13 15:54:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tried to toughen up so life and love stopped hurting and I was very miserable if you cannot feel the pain you can not feel the pleasure either. It was ok for a while I thought but I was fooling my self . I become a different person and the compassion & empathy that people knew me for stopped and I was hard and uncaring so others became like that to me. So be your self and expect the ups and downs that make a full life you are stronger than you think .
2007-08-13 17:15:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not that you have to toughen up..you jus have to uderstand that life will always throw things at you that you might have to battle with to get though...that is the way life is and as soon as you can except that you might have to go the extra step or take a step back to go forward than the better off you will be...i myself is learning this and it takes time..but soon you will feel good about yourself once you have overcome the issue or face the facts that you can do nothing about it and you have to deal with it...jus keep digging in life..i cant say its gonna get easier for you but atleast you are giving it your best shot.
2007-08-13 15:57:11 · answer #4 · answered by Rich D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want to toughen up...life and love are supposed to have hurts in them - thats what makes us appreciate the good.
2007-08-13 15:52:08 · answer #5 · answered by allusian_fields 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Love hurts and sensitive people feel it more keenly than others, better to be yourself and bear the pain than toughen up and lose the sensitivity that endears you to others.
2007-08-13 16:40:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't toughen up. Life and love are supposed to hurt sometimes. If you toughen up then you will block out happiness, and then you will really be miserable. Be brave; go out and love and be hurt, and don't hold back.
2007-08-13 15:52:56 · answer #7 · answered by davey_dangerously 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Love is not plain sailing. Being hurt is part of the package and is the thing that makes you not to take things for granted.
As they say love can make feel like you on cloud nine one day and it can also make feel like s*** the following day.
So hun, if you are hurting just tell yourself that you are strong, you will get over this and time is the healer. you will be happy again.
2007-08-13 16:05:09 · answer #8 · answered by soraya 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
learn from your mistakes, don't keep falling into the same type of situations. figure out what it is about life and love that is making you hurt and then make an effort to change your life and remove those hurtful things. don't settle for something because you're used to it if it makes you hurt, change the things that are hurting you.
2007-08-13 17:22:24 · answer #9 · answered by MissayQ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 50 years old and Life and Love will always hurt a little. A little pain in your life is better than nothing. Learn to appreciate it.
If you have nothing worth dying for then you have nothing worth living for.
2007-08-13 15:51:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋