husband spent time with another woman while away on a golf trip been married 35 years what should i do?

Answer 1

Well first, analyze the situation. During this time were their intimate moments? And intimate moments aren't just sexual acts and kissing...some people feel that real heart to heart conversations are very intimate.

Is he regretful? Does he realize what he did has hurt you and what has he done to make you feel more comfortable about the situation?

After 35 years that is a lot of time spent together to throw away and some things can be forgiven.

Maybe this can be a wake up call to your elationship, obviously he feels that something is missing in the relationship so try to discuss with him what he feels is lacking. Keep in mind this may have nothing to do with you.

I wish you the best of luck and keep your head up. Just because he's all you've known for the last 35 years doesn't mean that someone else wouldn't love to know you for the next 35!

Answer 2

I would probably leave. I have been in a situation similar to that I stayed but the thought that he would dare spend time with another woman knowing how much I cared for him simply broke my heart. He couldn't deal with the questions I asked. I felt like he was protecting her. So, I eventually left. 35 years is a long time. I would talk with him and see if you two still want to be together. Be prepared for the answer it may not be what you want to hear.

Answer 3

Practice making a "hole in one" with his head!!!! This is really up to you and how much you want to hold things together. Kicking him out means starting over, and at your age (I'm older than you are) that's not going to be easy because it's essentially making a new life. Maybe he'll buy you a nice villa somewhere in Florida on the water. Some women can blow things off and say kicking the pistweed out just isn't worth the effort; they don't want to give up their comfortable life. If you don't have a comfortable life, you don't need this weight hanging over your head for the rest of your life. Best wishes. God lead you and give you strength.

P.S. Don't let him off easy. I'm assuming, "spent time," was a euphemism for "had sex."

Answer 4

My husband goes on a golf trip every year. I don't even want to think about all they do. I'd say you put 35yrs into it, so let it go and try to maybe spice your marriage up some. But men are men....I just think the less us women know the happier will be!

Answer 5

Talk to him. Tell him how you are feeling. Ask him if you should be concerned. Tell him it makes you uncomfortable. Ask him how he would feel if you did that.
I know you have heard it all before- but I can't stress the importance of communication enough. It brings you closer. If not closer together- it will help close in on a conclusion to draw for yourself and bring in some answers. Just do not approach him if you are angry. Yelling doesn't help the situation at all to say the least. Approach him calmly and gently and be clear minded.
If he seems to be more than innocently involved with her- then seek marriage counselling..

Answer 6

I'm Sorry he that to you, but now the balls in your court. Could you live with the fact that he cheated on you and it may not be the first time? Or do you want to divorce his sorry @ss and make him pay through the teeth for the pain and suffering he is causing you. Men are pigs and they don't think about the consequences of their actions. Good Luck. Live Life to the Fullest and Enjoy Every Minute Of It.....

Answer 7

Well, that depends. You need to view his cheating as a symptom of the real, underlying problems in your relationship - after all, if you were both perfectly happy with each other, he'd have no motivation to cheat, now would he? If you want to continue on in this relationship, you're going to have to get under the hood, so to speak, and root out any old resentments, boredom, or incompatibilies that might be lurking under the surface.

Answer 8

What does "spent time" mean? Are we talking lunch, dinner, cocktails, sex? Or all of the above?

I wouldn't throw away a 35 year relationship over a one time thing.

Answer 9

Divorce his butt if he cheated on you. Why did he have to spend time with another woman anyway if he has you? Think about that. He disrespected you so find someone that will not disrespect you in that way ever!

Answer 10

Kill him! but seriously, kill the lady who he cheated with, even more seriously....if you truly love, try giving him a second chance and maybe he'll work things out, it was just once right? Love is a choice that u have to work at. But if he keeps doing it, a divorce is in order.