Should I divorce?

Question

My husband has evil ex-wife.They have a daughter14years old she stays with us 50% stays mom 50%.The ex always try to control situation withe the daughter.Something happen what she doesn't like She calls my husband and yell one hour.Then if we did not follow her way She demand money(30% his income)for the daughter Yes it is threat.
.He really afraid this thing happen.If he did not pic phone up, she comes this house and yell.
He is mainly yes man.He said if you said some your opinion she dose exactly opposite.and yell other one hour.In the past her own father said to her "you are insane" Yes She is very unreasonable crazy. My husband say best way is just ignore and not resist.Sometime the daughter use her mom in some purpose She knows how to use own mom.She call her mom and my husband get disaster.She is selfish bossy girl never respect me.
When I got married things were not like this.
Now we have teenager she create all kind of trouble and involve mom to the trouble.I go BANANA!

Thank you so many advices.
I don't know detail but the things my husband said to his ex wife is she is so greedy . She wanted all money he had.But he had to pay for his first marriage children,It made her CRAZY.
She got hurts because of money,It made her more Money crazy, She made so many credit card and used all of then until go over She even made card his name, daughters name... and used over limit.That's the reason they divorce,She is seine now.She has new husband.I don't think she jurors of me.Seems to me she want feel power. And own daughter hate her,too. She calls own mom B***but she use her.
Yes,Very bad stuation.Any way yhank you so much.

Answer 1

Wow!
Well, first of all, don't divorce someone cause of their kids!
You have got to talk to your husband and tell him you can't live like this, with a step daughter who is constantly muching off of him and being disrespectful to you and causing a mess in your guys's life. If he doesn't understand you or won't listen to you, then you should think about seperating. And that wouldn't be because of the daughter, that would be because he doesn't listen or ackknowledge your ideas, and he won't stand up for you two.
So, talk all of this out with him and let him know you feel that he really needs to talk to the daughter and stand up for you guys..after all, you're married and he loves you!
Good luck!!

Answer 2

You your husband and his ex wife need to all be in the same room and become adults.You should discuss living arrangments parenting control. Since custody is split this makes it easier because what goes on at your home is your business and vice versa. When the teenager does not get her way when she's with you and decides to call her mother do not change your rules because the ex wife opposes that only give her full control over the teens life (which her father has half of) and she's controling yours. And as for you stay out of the serious parenting for the teen leave it up to her father and it will save you a lot of stress, just take it up with the father. But if he father is unable to handle the situation he may need to hand over full custody because he may not be responsible enough.

Answer 3

For his daughter he should take her to counseling. Her mother's attitude is rubbing off on her and she will starting going crazy like the mother. Maybe he should try to talk to the ex and tell her to go to counseling as well. But if she continues tell him to record the conversations, seek a lawyer's help and maybe once the daughter is in counseling take custody of her. Unfortunately unless he gets the law to back him up that crazy ex wife will always be there to bother him. She is probably jealous of you and tells the daughter to be mean to you as well. I am sure that once upon a time the wife was an okay person maybe she is just very hurt by the divorce and wants her ex-husband to pay back for her hurt. Obviously she has a lot of issues and resentment towards both of you so try to understand that she is probably a very hurt woman. But he should first ask his lawyer what his options are and then see if he can fill a harrashment suit on her and take custody of the daughter cause her mother in unfit right now and needs help.

Answer 4

If your husband does not have the balls to put his foot down, I only see your relation ship getting worst!. There is no reason why you should take so much trouble, when you have nothing to do with this! What I mean by this is that there are too many single men out there for you, why do you have to pick the one with a KID! I know it may sound harsh, but this should not even be your problem! Tell your husband to put his foot down or you will seek the Divorce! The is no reason why you should be taking that crap!

Answer 5

Tell your husband to stop letting this mother and daughter control your life. If you are not happy, tell him and make sure he does something. If he doesn't consider divorce but try to work it out. Also don't let that girl push you around. Remind her who's the adult and who's the child in this situation.

Answer 6

shes just jealous. try your best and demand respect. speak up and let your voice be heard. the only thing they want is for you to go away. dont let them win. stay and exercise your rights as a wife and if all else fails, get a restraining order.

Answer 7

This is the mother influence that your hearing . Try telling her if she wants to be disrespectful than to stay home with her mother.Till she grows up an respect you.

Answer 8

Your husband has to put his foot down. He's letting it continue.

Answer 9

if you love her work it out if not then get ou t