I mean..im sick of people calling me gay..and i wanna stop it..but i just dont know how.please help..people dont understand.how hard it is to be being this way
2007-08-13 07:41:05 · 12 answers · asked by AznKid 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
"Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!" (2 Corinthians 5:17).
2007-08-13 08:42:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You CAN'T not be who you are. To oversimplify, take a food you like, and starting tomorrow don't like it. Can't be done!
You can decide you aren't going to eat that food and deny the fact you like it, but you'll always like it.
Most of the time when what other people are saying actually hurts me it's because I'm not secure with myself. Work on you. The names won't stop, but once you're truly comfortable with yourself it doesn't matter what anyone says. Sure, it's mildly annoying, but at times it's just amusing too, to see how small minded and judgemental people are. And look at many of the famous people from years back that made sweeping moral judgments against people. Then go back and see how many got caught with a hooker, not always of the opposite sex, or cheated on their partner, or stole money, etc. Most of the self-righteous people who hate have something to hide. Just laugh at them and know they'll get theirs, and hope you're around to see them eat their own words.
2007-08-13 07:50:47 · answer #2 · answered by big_orange_penguin 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Seriously, dont hang around with anyone who is not supportive of you. You are who you are. God made you this way for a reason. And as much as you try and with all the money you could spend, all you will be doing is living in denial because you cannot change your DNA or genetics.
Just embrace it. So youre gay. Its cool. Surround yourself with people who care about you, and not your sexual orientation. If that means getting a whole new group of friends, then so be it. And if people you know are harping on you about being gay, be rid of them. True friends dont care.
2007-08-13 08:03:03 · answer #3 · answered by sweetblueyes 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
First never accept the notion that you are born gay, and cannot change your life. It can be done, it has been done and you can do it as well.
People who claim you were born gay are only looking after their self interest. They don't want people to change, they don't want to take personal responsibility for their actions.
Change your friends. The fastest way to change your life is to change those who you associate with. Find new places to hang out with as well.
Find new friends that have the traits you most want for yourself. Good habits rub off on others.
Set goals for yourself. Do those things that bring you closer to your goals, and avoid those things that keep you from your goals.
Seek help, and good luck to you!
2007-08-13 08:31:20 · answer #4 · answered by Dr Jello 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's hard, I know. Soon, hopefully, you will be around more mature people who will treat you like an adult. I'm 39, and once in a while I deal with immaturity in stupid people. Just grit your teeth and bear it for now, get good grades and catapult yourself into a great career where you will b respected for who you are. It won't be like this forever.
2007-08-13 08:11:50 · answer #5 · answered by Herman Schmeckley 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Im sad to say, but some people will always be that ignorant and close minded. Its sometimes unavoidabe and sometimes the only choice left is to ignore them. Soon, youll be able to take pride in it, and it will no longer matter.
2007-08-13 08:28:38 · answer #6 · answered by Chance 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You can't deny being what you are. And maybe you should confront them with what you just said-tell them it's not easy, and that they aren't right for making you feel bad about who you are.
2007-08-13 07:45:51 · answer #7 · answered by AyK 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well basically you are gay. Just tell them straight forward you do not like being called gay.
2007-08-13 08:11:14 · answer #8 · answered by A Journey 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Most of us have been through this kid. Believe me it gets way better.
2007-08-13 07:50:36 · answer #9 · answered by Louie 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Instead of coping out, it should make you stronger. What happened?
2007-08-13 07:47:17 · answer #10 · answered by Sick Puppy 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋