I have lately been fantasizing about my boss sleeping with my wife. This thought keeps coming to me all day at the office. Lately I have started to include my wife's name in my conversation with my boss to get him interested in knowing about her, and a few times I have even left a photo of her on my table when he is around so he can get to see my attractive wife. Can anybody tell me what is the nature of this fantasy, what it means and what I should do about it?
2007-08-13 07:35:10 · 26 answers · asked by Rohit 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have a similar fantasy: I want my wife to have sex with another man while I watch. Lucky for me, she's into the idea, and we're currently in the process of getting someone. I wouldn't do it with a guy I know personally, unless I felt very comfortable with him. Do you have a good relationship with your boss?
What you should do about it is start talking to your wife. Start off in general terms, though -- don't specifically mention your boss until you've had several conversations and confirmed that your wife is into the idea of having sex with another man.
Also, as has been pointed out, if you do go to fulfill this, make rules. For example, my wife is 100% clear that if I'm not comfortable with this, we'll never do it again. She also agrees to the rule that everything we do stays in the open -- no sneaking behind my back and so on.
I'm looking forward to having my fantasy fulfilled. Good luck to you with yours.
2007-08-13 08:03:57 · answer #1 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is something your wife would be intersted in doing - you REALLY need to sure of this, btw - this is just something that should be thoroughly discussed prior to approaching your boss on the topic.
There are some major issues involved if you're looking to include other sex-partners into a traditionally monogamous relationship. If you've already done this before - then no further matter on this topic is really necessary here. However, if not -- well, you're (potentially) in for a LOT of drama if you don't do it right.
Some people don't mind having "open relationships" ... others like the idea of the "fantasy" of it but would never follow through on it to make it a reality. Others have tried it and ended up with horrible results.
If both you and your wife decide this is something you'd like to pursue - then start a social / casual relationship with your boss. Invite him to join y'all for dinner or something - get to know each other a little more over at LEAST a couple of meetings. It would probably work best if SHE approached him on the topic and let your boss know that this was something you were okay with happening.
2007-08-13 07:47:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Some couples are into this sort of thing but you need to let your wife know about your fantasy and then take it from there. But you might be left out in the cold if your wife decides she likes your boss better.
2007-08-13 08:41:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it means you have a deepseated issue, that you want to sit back and watch while your wife has sex. I have come across a few of these people, the ones who bring someone home so they can watch their spouse getting it on with someone else. but beware! it usually ends up badly. what happens is that it's okay when you're watching. then they want it more. so they think since it's okay while you're watching, it should be okay while you're not watching. then the running around starts, and it ruins your marriage. or, if you wife doesn't want to take part here, then she is so repulsed by the idea that you would want to pimp her out that she files for a divorce with a restraining order, and tells the judge that you were trying to start a prostitution ring, and that could even get you arrested. now think about it this way, do you really love your wife, or would you just like to ruin your marriage?
2007-08-13 07:48:09 · answer #4 · answered by flgalinms 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are a little kinky and would get off on the idea of your wife sleeping with a different man. Does your wife know about this? I think you should just leave it as a fantasy. Good luck to you!
2007-08-13 07:43:07 · answer #5 · answered by frawlicious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this your wife's fantasy or your fantasy? I'm all for fulfilling fantasies.There is nothing wrong with it. but if your wife isn't into the whole thing than I wouldn't try to get your boss attention.
Lets just say some things are better off as fantasies. But good luck!
2007-08-13 07:46:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you would enjoy watching your wife get it on with someone else as long as your a part of it. It may be the thrill of the challenge to see how a another man lust into your wife and then for you to compete
Now don't get offend it but I just have to go over everything maybe you have some type of interest that your not aware of
2007-08-13 07:43:04 · answer #7 · answered by craving cash 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, this one stays 100% in the "fantasy" category! You could end up with no job and no wife if you screw this up.
You want a psychoanalysis? I think you are going to have to see a psychiatrist for that. My hunch is you have an inner desire to be dominated...what could be more dominating than to have your boss have sex with your wife? Complete submission and humiliation. Humiliation fantasies are not uncommon.
2007-08-13 07:49:06 · answer #8 · answered by AngiesHusband 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow, first of all i think that you a re trying to make this fantasy a reality and it will no longer be a fantasy. sometimes it is better to keep them fantasies. for example what if your wife likes your boss and ends up staying with him then what are you going to do? i think that you should really think about this because if you have some respect for your wife you wouldnt do this to her.
2007-08-13 07:45:46 · answer #9 · answered by Lovable ♥♥♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were only a fantasy, I'd suggest you just leave it at that and keep it to yourself. What you fantasize about is really your own business & should stay that way.
However, now that you have started acting on it - I would suggest you talk to someone (professional) to get the answers you seek.
Fantasies alone are generally harmless - it's the acting on them that can get folks into trouble.
2007-08-13 07:44:37 · answer #10 · answered by Me 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋